Originally Posted by HTTP

Yea I know what your talking about. Here's my advice:

Just realize its kinda unrealistic in todays society to be a virgin out of high school. If it really bothers you, just remember that you have had your penis in another girl as well. Maybe not 6, but someone else had pleased you before in your life. If you feel the need to fuck someone else just to be on the same terms, perhaps you could suggest a threesome with another girl.

Originally Posted by psychomanthis

Me and my girlfriend have been together for almost 8 months now and we love eachother a lot. But i have this problem you see she has like 10 exes and slept with 6 of them, at first i didn't think much of it but lately when i think about the fact that 6 other dudes fucked MY girl i just get so pissed and sad. I don't know why because back then she didn't even know me and i know that she wouldn't cheat on me so i have nothing to worry about. But still i get angry.

I don't get angry and sad because i feel inadequate or insecure, because, and i don't mean to brag but she says from all the guys she had sex with i am by far the best. Also she said that she is truly in love with me with the other guys she dated it was just that she was attracted to them, she wasn't in love with them like with me.

Also i had the idea that if i were to have more exes it wouldn't bother me that much you see i've only been with 3 girls and i just had sex with one of them before my current girlfriend it's pretty sad but i gues i'm just ugly lol. I don't know why then it wouldn't bother me that much so maybe you have some ideas.


I could really use some advice, i'd really like to know why i get all emotional when i think of it, i shouldn't because i know it was in the past and she loves me more than anything but still. Also is there anything i can do about it? My feelings that is, because it's kind of hard to go back in time to prevent all that shit from happening.

Anyways typing all this already helped a bit but any more help you guys can provide would be greatly appreciated so thanks in advance.

Originally Posted by AngelMA

I get the same way as it pertains to my man. I know logically it should not bother me like it does, but it still does. I get flashes of violence on these girls. I get more angry and imaginative in my daydreams of just beating the shit out of these bitches when I know they hurt him. How I deal with it? I try not to think about it. I just avoid it.

Also, I had a boyfriend, who had been with less people than me and he mad no bones about not being happy with it, even to the point of whining about it. Like, just cause he had not fucked more chicks I should give him a pass to "catch" up to me.. With that, please do not make it known to her how you feel, or if you do, keep it to a minimum. It pissed me off when he pulled that shit on me. The thing is, when I was with him, he was the only one who mattered, not the other people I had been with and for the most part, I wish I could just forget it. Thankfully my boyfriend now does not mind it. Of course, we are close to the same amount of people we have been with.

Just try to get over your insecurities (that is what it is, I feel the same right now with my bf. I am not taking a shot on you) and realize she is with you for a reason and these others do not matter to her.

Originally Posted by Fanglekai

I think almost every guy goes through this phase. Basically the way to get over it is to stop thinking about it and stop placing importance on sex. Sex is really meaningless. Also, what she did in the past is irrelevant, just like what you did is irrelevant. I know it feels like it's eating you up inside, but you really need to do your best to get over it or you'll start acting this shit out on her and the relationship will end. I know because that's what I did once. Was a pretty stupid thing to do.

Don't throw away what you have now over shit that has no bearing on the present.

Originally Posted by psychomanthis

Thanks for the input dude but to me sex is definetly not meaningless. Also i wouldn't let this destroy my relationship with her i love her too much for that. Which again leads me to think what the fuck am i complaining about she loves me and i love her and that's all that matters. But still i get sad

Originally Posted by Fanglekai

It is meaningless, and the reason you're hung up on it is because you place too much importance on it. Also, in your other post you said you didn't like the thought of other guys using 'your girl' to pleasure themselves. She's not 'your girl.' You don't own her. She is not property; she's a person. I understand the feeling, but there's a very important semantic meaning in what you're saying. The root of your problem is that you're wanting to possess her entirely - her present and her past - and that's simply not possible. Once you realize that, you should be able to get over this issue. She probably does love you and you probably do love her. Enjoy the feeling. The number of people who will genuinely love you in your life you'll probably be able to count on one hand.

Originally Posted by psychomanthis

Tell me why i shouldn't place importance on sex if i don't should i let her fuck with other people now as well and be ok with it? It is as you say meaningless afterall... i don't want that. Other than that your reply was very insightfull.