A couple days ago I was hanging out with my brother and his friends, who are all quite a bit older than me but generally good guys, if a little rough around the edges (contrustruction worker types). I've already had a few drinks, and I'm such a lightweight that I'm pretty smashed, when I get this text from my boyfriend; "we're not together anymore".

A couple of text's later he's given me a few different excuses and reasons, mostly BS. I figure he's just found someone else he wants to fuck around with, given that he cant give me a straight answer. I havent heard from him since that night.

I surprised myself by how terribly apathetic I was about him leaving me.

Anyways, people trickle out the door, my brother goes to bed, and I'm left sitting on the couch chatting with another friend of his. He tells me when he thinks I'm "smokin hot" and "gorgeous" (something he said again the next day, sober) one thing leads to another and... well, no sex yet, but we got pretty close. Probably wouldve gone farther if we hadnt both known that had my brother caught us he'd be in deep shit and I wouldnt be let out of the house.

The Issue: I want to fuck him, perhaps more than once, but I dont want him to think we're dating. The age range is just a little too much; he has a son who's 3 years younger than me. I'm going to be straight up in telling him I dont want more than a FWB deal going, but what should I do if he reacts badly to that?

TL/DR: I want a FWB relationship with a guy who's quite a bit older than me and also interested. What do I do if he reacts badly when I tell him straight up that I dont want to date him?

Also, if you have an issue with a girl wanting casual sex:

-You're just pissed because it's not you she wants it with.
Or
-Stop being such a sexist douche, girls want to get laid too.
Or
-Note that I've been in a long-distane relationship for 3 years, seen the guy once, and had terribly unfufilling sex when I did. It's like being blue balled for 3 years, allowed to get yourself off but never touch anyone else, even a hug or a kiss.

I obviously can't speak from the male perspective, but I can say that I don't see any reason why you shouldn't go ahead and do as you please. Your boyfriend was a waste of skin and you should honestly be taking this time to see that there is a whole world of guys with whom you will find good times, good sex and who will actually be nice to you. And good on you for having clear ideas of what you want and need at this point in time and not compromising that.

Just make sure he's clear on the limitations of your relationship and be safe.

Well, he is an older guy (I'm led to believe a lot older), so he should have the experience and know how to be willing to have a FWB thing going on. In fact if anything, he'd probably find a way to hurt YOU, not the other way around.

Just don't be the young tramp that he's cheating on his wife with.

Youre like, 13 or reeeeaaaallly insecure

hmmm lets analyse this...

There's this hot younger woman who wants his older male body and just his body for the occasional release of her tensions....

Of course he is going to be horrified at the suggestion of a FWB relationship. Like all men he isn't really interested in getting off and no strings rampant sex with a beautiful young woman. He wants commitment and fidelity.

DO i need to add the [sarcasm] brackets?

Girl just be upfront and VERY clear. Painfully and brutally blunt. Remember men don't subtle and men don't do hints. So stick to " I want your cock not your ring".

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Insecure, not 13.

He's single, the mother of his two kids split within a week of having the seond one. He dosent have a place he feels is good enough to bring his kids home to, so the mother has them now and he just takes care of them however he can. (No courts involved with this one)

He knows what he's doing though, I guess that's the appeal with older guys. If he can make me.. shy, quiet, not-at-all vocal me moan with clever use of his lips, teeth and whiskers on my neck, I have hope for activities involving less clothes...

That was my plan, have a face-to-face talk and put it in the simplest terms. I'm just worried that he may, for whatever reason, be all and I'm a sucker for that sort of thing.

He won't be, he's not a kid, a guy whose wife left him and keeps the kids doesn't wear his heart on his sleeve (well, there are some guys like that, but I doubt they work construction).

"I like you but I don't want to date. I'm not in the right place in life right now. So yeah...Wanna fuck once in a while?"

It'd work with me just fine.

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That's like the saddest thing I've ever read.

Worked for me last time I did it.
"Hey. I just got out of a 2 year relationship and I want to bang the crap out of you. Could you please attempt to not want a relationship with me in the meantime and we can have hot wild animal sex."