History:


edit, important:
BUT, before we were dating, I knew her about 2 years before in 8th and 9th grade. During this time we were actually best friends from a non-drug using standpoint! I had a crush on her and she said she had a crush on me although at the time we were just strictly friends. I probally should have told you guys this.

So I knew her at a time when we actually were really good friends and shared emotions and other gay things like that. I went to rehab for 1.5years and met up w/ her again in 2years: DONE EDIT

We've been dating for about 9 months. The first 6 months we used multiple times a day, everyday. We used everything under the sun except marijuana and PCP (we're drug tested on probation).We even shot up about 5 times during this period.

About 3 months ago she went into a psychotic/schizophrenic attack from 2c-e, I guess. Sence then she has been different. We stopped using everyday because she "wanted time to be w/ the real me" and when we used we wouldn't go all out like normal.

She told me she didn't want me getting high w/o her being there and vice versa, and I said fine that's cool I love her and I'm generally always w/ her anyways no big deal.

Then we only got high maybe twice a week. I stayed honest to my word, but then I slipped twice and got fucked up w/ my friends, which I feel bad about (she doesn't know).

Now, for w/e reason, she has decided to be SOBER from drugs "for a while" what ever that means.

What the fuck?

I used to put cocaine and oxycontin in a sryinge for her and now she doesn't want to use?

W/e, that is her personal choice right? She told me it was fine if I got high w/o her now because she wouldn't want to be that bitch who holds her boyfriend back but I can tell she really doesn't want me to and it would upset her.

It is awkward as fuck when I'm w/ her and I'm high and she isn't. I can tell she doesn't like it at all and just thinks I'm a dumbass. I try to not be high around her, and if I happen to be I try to not let her know.

In the past week I have "lied" to her 2 times. Today being the second. I don't like lying to her I hate it but I also don't want to upset her. I feel and know that it's my right to ingest chemicals as long as I'm legit about it, but regardless I'm suffering cognitive dissonance because I know she doesn't like it/I'm lying to her to prevent her from getting upset.

I want her to 1) be ok w/ me being high around her, 2) be ok w/ me being high w/o her, and 3) for her occasionally to use drugs for me.

Obviously I can't have all of that and would need to do a compromise, but I am really bad w/ words (as you can probally tell) and I do not know how to communicate my wants/needs effectivley. I am asking for your help, Totse, to tell me what to tell her.


TL;DR
Problem: GF doesn't get high anymore. She is decently upset when I am high around her. She gets moderately upset when I am high without her. To keep her from being upset, I sometimes lie about getting high without her. I hate lying to her and think that it is really, really bad for the relationship.

What I want: I want her to not be upset when I am high w/ her, not be upset when I am high w/o her, and to get high occasionally, but am obviously willing to comprimise as I probally shouldn't tell her to get high (I know some of you Totseans feel like peer pressure is immoral so I just had to add that one)

Why I posted this: I would like Totse to help me come up w/ a speach of some sorts to talk to my GF and attempt to convinse her to not be upset when I am high around her because she decided to stop taking drugs (because this doesn't mean that I have to, as I won't), to not be upset when I'm high w/o her, and if she could at least give me a time frame on when she wants to use again.

Didn't you just start shooting up like last week? You are still a fag noob.

EDIT:Much LOL after reading only the bold and realizing you are asking bltc advice on this.

1. Your relationship was based upon drugs, which is not exactly a stable long lasting relationship. She didn't want you to be high without her because you were likely paying for them and she was likely mooching. Girlfriend or best friend, that's being a leech.
2. Whatever her reason for quitting was, it's obvious that the only thing you had in common (drugs) is now gone. You just got high together. I could get high with an evil dictator and still think he's a cool guy.
3. So either get sober and get to know her without drugs or end the relationship. It's never going to feel normal doing drugs and hanging around sober people, and she's never going to be happy about it.

Well I think it's too much to ask that you want her to get high for you occasionally. That's just kind of messed up. If you really love her you'll respect her wished to be sober and be happy for her for trying to be a bit healthier and more clear minded.

As far as not wanting to lie to her that's simple. Don't. Tell her the truth every time you're fucked up around her and ask her how it makes her feel and to be honest. Again, if she doesn't like it then just get fucked up when she isn't around. Tell her that you'll set aside a few days a week where you'll be sober and just hang out with her. That's compromise.

She should allow you to do what you want if you're going to honor her wishes and allow her to be sober and to hang out with you while you're sober as well.

If the two of you really love each other then drugs aren't going to come between that..but it sounds like drugs were a long standing crutch in your relationship and removing that aspect isn't something that will come easily..it'll take work on both your parts.


Edit: I just read the TL;DR part..are you seriously going to ask for a time frame on when she'll use with you again? You obviously don't give a fuck about her, you just want some drugged up pussy. Going this route (and her being sober) she's going to realize she doesn't need you and leave your ass if you even think of bringing that up. The only way she wouldn't is if she's ugly. That's your only hope if that's your plan.

Good luck dude...

Are you actualu black? It is hard to tell cuz you shoot coke but I didn't read anything about crack ?

You are still retarded.

"Bitch stfu b4 i kik ur dirty ass to the curb, its mah choice n ill beh damnd if a wimmin stopz meh, gawt it hoe? now maek meh a sammich BISH"

That should take care of your problems.

Seriously, relationships based on drug use never work after one person takes it to another level. Whether it be above or below.

Notrly.

You wouldn't know, I can tell.


EDIT: LMFAO you deleted your post.

Either stop using or break up. Your relationship won't work out otherwise.

I will admit that for the first 6 months it was 100% about drugs.

We used drugs and sold them together, it was like bonnie and clyde shit or w/e.

BUT, before we were dating, I knew her about 2 years before in 8th and 9th grade. During this time we were actually best friends from a non-drug using standpoint! I had a crush on her and she said she had a crush on me although at the time we were just strictly friends. I probally should have told you guys this.

So I knew her at a time when we actually were really good friends and shared emotions and other gay things like that.

I was in rehab for 1.5 years, and I met up w/ her 2 years later. We went on the 6 month binge, then for the previous 3 months we have actually spent A LOT of time sober. I know her really well. We are best friends in every way. We hang out all of the time...etc.

YEAH YOUR A BITCH NIGGER more of a bitch than a bitch

Well, if that's the case you should be happy that she is taking the steps to feel better mentally and physically. She was obviously affected by her bad experience in a way that was big enough for her to choose to be clean. She'll be an overall healthier person this way and it would seem that that'd be something you would prefer/be proud of.

You'll eventually be given the choice between her or drugs if she decides to stick with this for a while. If not, you lucked out...but do not go asking her why or when she'll drug with you again.. if any dude can notice how much of an asshole/selfish question that is then you can bet your ass she'll notice it right away, even if she doesn't act like it bothers her. That will permanently damage her view of you and down the line if she's having second thoughts that will definitely cross her mind. Women remember everything bro..if you don't listen to anything else I say just remember that.

Best of luck.

Don't give him advice. She is obviously too good for him.

Virgin.

Try actually having a relationship before giving advice on them.


Mr Pope,

Relationships based on HARD drugs are likely to fail, that's why your girlfriend is a whore, as I realized from your other topic. You're clearly dating a lying manipulative crack whore. If you're telling the truth that is. I pity you if you are.

Welcome to the club buddy.

I've going out w\ mo gf for a year now.

She doesn't use drugs. She drinks like once a month. She's never smoked a cigarette.

She knows I used to be addicted to opiates, smoke a lot of pot, sell pot, etc.

She thinks I've stopped all that. And, honestly, I really have, for the most part. I don't sell anymore, I stopped smoking cigs, I haven't smoked pot in months.

But I have smoked a few times w\o her knowing, and I still fuck with oxy every twice in a blue moon.

I love this girl, and even though it's kind of restrictive, I'm going to need to cut the drugs out of my life at some point anyway if I'm ever going to be a psychiatrist.

But if you smoke pot, don't tell her. It happens. Alot of times, these people don't realize what it's like to use drugs from a young age. Your mind isn't the same as everyone elses. You will fuck up a few times, especially if you still hang out w\ old buddies.

But she doesn't need to know.

It's about cost\benefit. Would it be better if you told your gf you smoked up, or just hide it from her?

Chances are, as long as it's not a thing that you're doing over and over again, and she doesn't find out, you'll both be MUCH happier if you keep it in the dark.

You must not care about her very much, condoning her intravenous drug use.

This contradicts other things you have said, little Joey!;) You sir, are a flaming hypocrite!
Just Joking.

Cmon man, if she wants to quit using, you cant hold her back, thats messed up.
Just like it would be if she forced you to stop using (unless it was seriously messing up your life, and I take it you function decently?)

I think the best would be for you two to go separate ways, since you have to radically different lifephilosophies.
Or at least take some time apart.
Put it like that^ and not like "use drugs or I dump you" cuz she wont like that

Stop being an asshole and forcing your girlfriend to do shit she doesn't want, faggot.

Hahaha.

Send her a brick of heroin in the shape of a heart.

Hahaha.

Send rizzo a brick of heroin in the shape of a heart.

this.

It sounds like you've reached a turning point in your relationship. You're going to have to become clean or break off your romantic relationship with her. Continuing to get high and lie to her about it is called having your cake and eating it too, and that just doesn't work. I've been there and tried that and failed miserably.

If you continue using and lie to her about it, you make yourself a scummy piece of shit. You have to be a man, grow some balls, and either quit drugs or quit her.

Then again, with such little background information it seems absurd to think that any of us here could give you practical advice. It's possible that you two just need a long heart to heart and at the end of it she will permit your moderate drug use. I doubt it. Best of luck.

Anyone notice that the 8th/9th grade was only two years ago for him? I always shot oxycontin and cocaine when I was in the 11th grade .

the tl/dr part was still too long for me SOOOOO

tl/dr^2 (squared because i cant make the small 2...)

Inject her in her sleep. That's always good for some lulz.

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Well. How extremely predictable of you,"BLACK POLE-smoker".. I have encountered hundreds of blood-sucking leech-like pieces of human trash in my life, such as yourself. Do you honestly seek serious fucking advice reguarding your tragic dilemma?? What a piece of fucking shit you are. You are generic, typical junkie garbage. I hope you realize what a horrible, disgusting failure you have proved to be. Someday, (soon I expect) you will inevitably roll over in a pile of your own shit- and die a horrible and lonely death. Have fun with that.

Lol, insulted by a skag head.

necroflaming is so cool right guys?

See? I'm not the only mod here who locks threads by this asshole troll....