Last wednesday (the 13th) I went out in my hometown after getting back from Poland (where I had been clubbing til about 5am). I was tired, and not aiming to pick up at all. Anyway, this girl "F", a friend of a friend, starts talking to me. She interests me greatly, being pretty much the female equivalent of Me; intelligent, narcissistic, sceptical and bold.

So we have a few drinks together, and she suggests we go outside for a smoke. I agree.

We smoke, then she kisses me (no effort on my part, she just kissed me), and puts her number in my phone. She says "I really enjoyed spending some time with you, we should go out again soon." (verbatim quote). We went to another bar for a while, good rapport continued and she was still very much into it. Anyway, the time came when we had to part (we are both home from uni and staying with our parents, so a same-night lay was out of the question).

I contact her a few days later through text/facebook, and it's like nothing ever happened. I was going out that night so I suggested she join me; she flaked ("I am too tired blah blah blah"). She didn't answer when I called, didn't reply to my text.

I know people do this sort of thing all the time and just lose interest, it's happened to me before and it's ok because it's all just part of the game. What I don't get about this is that she literally couldn't keep her hands off me that night (plus I could tell the rare connection I felt was a mutual thing); she initiated everything (including the kiss)... she wasn't even very drunk or whatever... But when I got in contact, I may as well have been the postman :S

I go out of my way to learn as much as I can about these strange creatures but the deeper meaning still eludes me. Worst thing is, I don't feel I've even learnt anything from the whole experience.

So, does anyone have any constructive input? Ask me for details if you want to try and pin-point where I went wrong, or tell me if there's something obvious in what I wrote already. I'm just trying to get my head around the whole thing, it just seems illogical (welcome to the world of women...).

You were there...She wanted to kiss you. That's about it.
Don't worry about it mate...She'll probably get in touch at some point with all the old shite like "Yeah sorry about that...I was really tired/busy blah blah blah"

BTW, what part of Poland did you go to?...I was there a couple weeks back and, if I weren't with me missus, I woulda been fucking all over the gaff! Polish chicks in the summertime...Nothing quite like it!

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I was in Krakow. And yeh I know what you mean... I had a lot of fun at my hostel with the polish girls. Good stuff. Beats Wales at any rate

Thanks anyway... I kind of get the feeling sometimes that it might all be in my head and she really was just uber tired or whatever, it's just hard to dismiss.

Was she drinking heavy? I ony say that cause she was real into you one night and is now flaking. Hope it works out for you.


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That was my very first thought, but she really wasn't that drunk at all. This is what makes it all the more mysterious lol. Thanks anyway mate

Sounds like a one night stand but you didn't get sex... Bummer.

Yeah, we were in Krakow too. Thank fuck my missus is Polish...I'd have been fucked for anything but vodka, beer and a packet of snout. Come to think of it...What more would I need?!

Don't take it the wrong way mate...You got a kiss off her. Better than a kick in the bollocks or a "You repulse me. Be gone." She must have felt something for you, if only for a second.
Who knows...Maybe she was really busy...You could get a call from her some time. You never know.

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Thanks for your replies guys... It's really not even a big deal tbh, I just blow things out of proportion in my head sometimes lol... Uni starts in a couple of weeks anyway, that'll sort things out. Silly drama queens...

Maybe she's being honest and actually is tired, etc.

Just come right out and ask her. It can't hurt anything. The worst you will get is "I am not interested" and you'll go on with your life.

There's no time for this guessing shit, it'll bother you for a lot longer if you don't ask her.

Ahhh if she initiated everything, and you didnt take control somewhere showing some heat.....DQ'd yourself.

And take it easy with contacting her, leave a opening(end on a good step) and if she has interest she'll be back through that opening. Otherwise fuck her.