Their will be no TLDR summary for this.. just want some help and opinions i guess.

Prior things of knowledge, im a virgin, never had a GF, not many freinds, over weight.


So ive known this girl for 3 or 4 years now, i met her in my highschools choir and drama program, we hung out in drama club and choir sparingly for the first 3 years of our freindship, ive had a crush on her ever since i first saw her.

So last year was her senior year, my junior year and we became really good freinds, right after we started to hang out alot she gets a boy freind. I started to hang out with her.. and then slowly i started to hang out with both of them.

The school year ends and this is the first time i have ever stayed here for the summer ( normally visit my dad ) but i stayed because she had told me that we needed to hang out "like all the time" so the summer starts and indeed, i hang out with her and her bf every single day.

About a month into the summer she leaves to go on a 3 week trip to france and i continued to hang out with her bf every day basically while she was gone, when she gets back she had bought me a gift ( just a lighter ) but i didnt expect one at all.

By this time i have become pretty good freinds with her bf.. hes a pretty good guy ( we all smoke pot together all the time ) anyways all of us had been looking to buy some acid / shrooms for months and i thought i finally had found the hook up 2 days before she leaves for college, so they both lie to their parents and tell them opposing storys so they can both spend the night at my house.

My dealer for the acid fell through after we had all planned this out and waited for over 6 hours so we started to look for any other drug we could find, one of her freinds ends up looking to sell some xtc, something i have never tried and she has done alot, and her BF was at one point an x head... so we all dose at like 12.. then they do the normal rave shit with me till 4:20 in the morning.

At this point we were all rolling and we just started spilling each others guts.. who we are and how we have grown up and our past relationships and such. So her BF is telling me how hes really happy to know me and how im a good freind ( meant alot he really is a good guy ) and then she starts to tell me how i was one of her best freinds in high school, and her current best freind, she tells me how she could not have hand picked better people to spend that night with.

So shes going to college about an hour and a half away from me and her bf, this is my senior year in high school and her bf is taking a year off from college. Next year he is planning on going to the same school shes going to, and i have been planning to go their for awhile.. but its looking like we might end up being room mates ( would be both of our freshmen year in college but he should be a junior )

Anyways i dont know what ive gotten myself into because i have made a solid freindship with her bf and she is one of my best freinds now and the only person i have ever thought of asking out, the only female freind i have ever had, if they ever break up i dont want to piss him off and i dont want her to be weirded out.. but ive been waiting as soon as i noticed that she actually wanted to be my freind.

I know i should probably just give up and take the freindships for what they are worth but i dont know if i can pass up the opportunity should it ever come.


Totse, what the hell do you think of this, ask me anything you want that might help you better understand the situation.

Walk away because the relationship is never, ever going to go anywhere.

Well the first word that came to mind was threesome. Followed by the more realistic third wheel.

rarely do i ever post real advice, but here goes:

get the hell out of that situation. you don't have to be his roommate, you can ask housing to place you with someone else. don't cut of your friendships with either of them, just wean away.

trust me, you're just a friend and nothing will change that. don't be their 3rd wheel anymore, go make new friends and find new people to talk to. it sucks to let go of a girl, but you can't cling forever.

Elaborate on this third wheel no clue what your talking about.


I dunno i mean i really care for her alot.. maybe id be a better freind then boyfreind anyways.



EDIT: Its not about them asking me to be his room mate.. i do think hes a good guy and i actually suggested it before thinking shit through.

Im guessing the "third wheel" is a single person that hangs out with a couple all the time and feels left out?

I dont care about any of that bullshit.. thats why i havent asked anyone out yet because everyone is so fucking fake, shes the only person that has been real with me all the time.. she hates hanging out with girls because they are fucking stupid so she hangs out with guys ( me, her bf, or both )

I understand though that a relationship with me and her would probably not work.. but do you think it would hurt our freindship if i asked her?

Here's my opinion:

Yes, I think asking her would hurt your situation.

That being said, there are alternative ways to finding out. Finding those ways is up to you and your creativity.. just think of your life as a Seinfeld episode...

This girl has a bf, one that she's planned some sort of future with if she's going to college with.

If she ever gets with you it'll be because she's rebounding. Don't expect some miracle by which she realises she's been in love with you since you met.

Also, considering her bf/ your bestfriend lets you hang with them despite the fact that they're a couple and you're a dude; you're one hell of an asshole to be thinking this.

Im an asshole for thinking just what exactly? They let me hang out with them? I have not invited either one of them over in a couple months, they always ask to come chill with me.



EDIT: I also think your under the impression that he has been my best freind which is not the case.

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