I honestly don't know what to think of my situation. But maybe some of you fine folks can give me some input...

I met this chick last winter on a visit to my old highschool (she was a junior then, i was a freshman in college). I remembered her because I used to catch her looking at me. We talked for a bit then, I thought she was uber cute so we flirted for a month before getting together. Four months go by and we run into some trouble so we take a break for a week. We got back together, but only for another week, and we had a "mutual" break up while we were both laying in my bed. Though, technically, we were still together because I would have been sad/angry if she fucked some other dude (and believe me, she's pretty obsessed with sex, I was surprised I was her first) and she would have been sad/angry.

Last week she hits me with a speech about how she's trying to get over me, and I told her that wasn't really necessary seeing as I don't just go around and fuck random people. She pretty much tells me that she doesn't want to be in a relationship anymore and she just wants the freedom of fwb- how she is with all her other guy friends. Did I mention she enjoyed sex? Yeah, she's looking to fuck most of her guy friends. Another week goes by, we have our unimportant arguments and make up. This week, whenever I tried to see her crap got in the way- which isn't really either fault of ours but it gave me time to stop talking to her for the time being and try getting over her.

So what I'm trying to figure out is her place in my life. I started flirting with her because I KNEW I was going to get in a relationship with her- and had I known of how much of a whore she was amongst her friends then I wouldn't have humored this relationship as I did. I've only known her as a girlfriend, nothing else. And now she wants to pulls "Oh, I like you just as much as all my other guy friends." The only reason I could imagine I'd want to be her friend is because we dated for 4 months- but she's already forgotten about how happy we made each other. Other than that we have NOTHING in common. We have completely different lifestyles, cultures, views on love and groups of friends (her friends suck).

Really, I guess I only have two options: One would be to just say "kthxbi" and hang my hat. The other would be to stay friends and get SOME sex at least- but I really can't enjoy sex if I like her just as a friend. When we had sex we were still in the mindset that we were together, so everything was good. Now she's unsure about everything.

Thoughts?

Jesus, run a fucking mile. Staying with her would be completely pointless, you would just be setting yourself up for even more hurt.

Dude. Slay the slut where she stands. If my girl broke up with me for sexual freedom I'd literally beat her face into a mangled pile of bloody pulp and bone fragments. Or if you're not exactly ready for that extreme, thrust her completely out of your life. She's dead to you, and obviously not worth a second thought.

Doesn't sound like your loosing much there, and I don't mean that in any offending way if you still have feelings for her.

Its sucks, I know, I'm in the same boat as you seems like. You'll bounce back though.

Like the others said, boot her out of her life.

Go find someone else who makes you happy, screw around or do whatever you want. Wait for her call when her other guy-friends start ignoring her for being the pathetic slut that she is. Then blow her off.

I'm sorry for putting it this way if you still have feelings for her. But I couldn't find any other good way to say it.

What're you retarded?

This is why people rape children. Because relationships with them are too hard.

I don't really have much left in terms of feelings for her. As far I'm concerned she has put everything that ever happened between us behind her- she doesn't like to dwell on the past. I just wanna talk to her one last time, just to figure some things out, before I call it quits.

But yeah, the only reason I'd wanna stay with her is because of the sex. She has an AMAZING body and I've heard mixed opinions about her looks, but I think she's one of the prettiest girls I've ever known. Then again, sex with her is pointless because it won't really mean anything- she'd just wanna get laid.

Bump/Update...

I wrote her a short little letter telling her I'm cutting her out of my life for a while. I don't want to cut her out completely because I'd like to think she knows enough about me to help me through hard times and give me advice. I haven't talked to her about things yet.

Also, last night I got a text from an unknown number saying I would look good with eyeliner. They dodged my questions as to who they were, and when I brought up the whole eyeliner thing I got the sense that they were just fucking with me. Turns out it was her and her friend just playing around and being stupid, I never liked her friend anyway.

And just recently I read an old facebook wall post from her that set me off. Pretty much said "If I had a car I'd come over your house and fuck you." But it was in the cutesy way we used to say things, so it got me feeling for her again. Unfortunately, I'm pretty sure she's not like that anymore. I doubt she'll come crawling back.

You're in college, and she's in high school; you guys are at completely different points in your life; naturally, there'd be little-to-no connection/similarities between the two of you.

I'd encourage you to do as you said and not banish her from your life completely because--after all the time spent together--you feel she can be a knowing help when tough times come around.

The truth is though, based on what you've said about her, I highly doubt you can expect such a selfless action as that. She's going off to do her own thing, as it is she doesn't want to remember the memories and the past spent with you, so why in the blue hell would she lend a helping hand or a shoulder when you hit a rock?

It sucks, it hurts, it's enraging, but if the person you're trying to hold onto--on whatever level--doesn't want to be held onto, you got no choice man; send her packing with a fucking firecracker between her cheeks

Well, she may not feel the same about me anymore, but she's not a bitch like that. I'm not saying that she should take a bullet for me or anything, but I don't really have many friends that are girls so if anything it'd be someone else to talk to about shit that goes down so I can get a second opinion if need be.

EDIT: Btw, here's another funny bit of info. I went to her house yesterday to go talk to her and see what's up. She was the only one home so I went up to her door to knock, but I spotted her in her backyard. She had her headphones on and was dancing around in the rain, singing along and playing drums, all with her eyes closed. I watched her for a few minutes and thought to myself "I dated THAT?!"

Gave me a good chuckle later.