if im correct, arrogance in guys is a HUGE turnoff yet confidence is a HUGE turn on

so what specifically is it that guys do that make them arrogant? vs things they do that make them seem confident.

im looking more for specific examples rather than broad concepts.

Being a cool dude = confidence

Saying you're a cool dude = arrogant

Haha wow that is pretty awesomely simple.


But I mean.. how much better could ya put it?

I dunno what to say.

The quote that pretty much sums it up is "Speak softly and carry a big stick." Wow, it's even more perfect for this forum.

Anyway, the point is that if you have confidence, you know you have a big stick, and that's all that matters to you. Arrogance means you make sure everyone else knows it too. Also, arrogance <==> insecurity.

Confidence and arrogance come hand in hand basically and is hard to distinguish the two, both can be easily mistaken for either.

I don't know, some girls like a bit of arrogance. It shows a man knows how to assert himself; someone who'll take charge in a 'situation'. I'm not talking David Brent arrogance, here, by the way... but a little arrogance never hurt anyone.

Confidence is always a plus. Neurotic people do my head in - partly because I used to be one, but also because they're in constant need of reassurance and often act spitefully when offended.

There's a fine line between confidence and arrogance, but the two are not synonymous with one another. Always remember that my young Padawan.

Skate or die?

You show it through your actions, dont brag about it or show off verbally. A lot of fucks out there say oh im hot this and that...you can be arrogant but only when it calls for it. Such as if a girl is bragging some shit or trying to show off their shit why not match her with some of your own "stats".

You're fairly savvy for a cripple. This basically sums it up.

Then again, OP, you are being misled. Who told you that women find arrogance unattractive? Did women tell you that? The same women who said they want a sensitive and caring guy?

You can see what I'm getting at here. Every arrogant, bragging dickhead I've ever known has been knee deep in pussy whenever they want to be. Then again, by Cousingrimm's definition so have the confident guys. So basically you can get pussy so long as you are either of these to a large degree. Confidence and arrogance both get people laid.

Well, gotta make up for the physical shortcomings somehow:P

And yeah, just for clarification, because I didn't say: Both get you girls, but only one keeps any worthwhile. Chicks you attract as an arrogant asshole are generally ones with inherent (Not necessarily physical, mind you) flaws, attracted to the fact that you are "better" than they.

Is this guy confident or arrogant? http://youtube.com/watch?v=Q_RpbaUU7NI