I want to forget this girl,I'll call her IV.I went out with this girl for a little while,but her and I were always close.We were best friends before we went out and I always made her laugh.She liked me alot,it turned out,and I liked her too.She already had a boyfriend at the time,but he was a fucking pervert creep(he asked her for phone sex the day her grandma died),So she didn't love him anymore. IV and I hung out during lunch alot,she always wanted to be with me all the time. She was the coolest girl I ever knew.One day she broke up with her boyfriend for me because she knew I was better and then we got pretty close. We already knew we liked each other, so one day,I went with her to her cousins wedding and I asked her out.She said yes.She was so happy,and I was too.Then,time passed,and one day,I went over to her house.She said she didn't have to do anything that day,so her and I could hang out.Turned out,she had shitloads of stuff to do that day,and so I was frustrated because I had to wait at all her appointments and stuff and didn't really talk to her for an hour and went home.I know, that's immature.

She sends me a txt the next day saying she wants to talk.She says she wants to break up because she wants to focus on her horse training and shit.I knew it was a shitty excuse,but I guess she had a huge horse show later that summer.I was pretty heartbroken by it,but she said she wanted to get back together when school started up again.IV sends me a txt the next day saying she doesn't love me anymore and that she wants to be best friends again.I was really torn up about this,I got a stomach ulcer,I'm not even fucking kidding.She also told me she was confused about whether to be with me or her ex,which was another stab in the gut.

I asked her why the fuck she did this to me,and she said its because I said "i love you " too fast in the relationship or something.That made me go from sad to fucking pissed,because it was her that was always telling me she wanted to marry me and have babies and stuff.I just said I loved her alot,and she says that scared her.I stuck by her because she was fun and i don't think small shit should ruin relationships.Whenever she said weird things,it didn't drive me away because I just really cared about her.I thought I made her happy.She never told me I wasn't.I don't know what I did wrong.

So the next day,I left my house and decided to get some sunshine.I felt great,until she started txting me.She asked if I could txt her,I just ignored it.4 minutes later,IV sends another txt asking I was was going to stop talking to her.3 minutes after that,she says she is sorry that I hate her,even though I don't hate her.She is just playing games with me.Sometimes she will send me a txt telling me that she doesn't want me to talk to her anymore,and after that,she will ask me if I hate her.I don't know what the fuck she is doing to me,but it hurts.She sent me a txt that says she just wanted to take a break and get back together,and then she sent me one saying she doesn't want to get back together.

She was never like this before.I just want to forget about her,because I still love her,but I don't want to. If I had the opportunity to be with her again,I wouldn't take it because I refuse to get my insides ripped out again.Since this,I have flirted with like,a hundred other girls.None of them compare to her though.Although I consider this my most painful relationship,she made me happier than any other girl,and thats why is hurts so much.

So,how can I forget her?
Do I deserve this?
Am I just being a whiner?
And,should I still be friends with her?

you can't forget her....but good luck trying

No you don't deserve it but no one does, it just happens, it's part of life..deall with it

no your not a whiner, it's emotions, your human, you have to express it somehow... though totse might not be the wisest way

And only you know if you CAN stay friends



I didn't read it all, but, problems with ex's...
I could say sleep with other women, socialize or hide yourself in a closet but sadly i know from experience none of it will work. The reason it bothers you is cause you have unresolved issues concerning this women. Fix it. Do what you must, talk to people, ask questions you don't want to ask, talk about it, drop some of your pride if you must, but not too much, and find peace. Maybe peace is being friends, though this is often very hard, but it might very well be no contact is the best way. But only you can find out. Good luck

She doesn't love you because you can't use a spacebar.

Alcohol, literature, learning an instrument, exercise, volunteering, sports, etc.

No. You seem like a good guy, she's the piece of shit playing head games. Seriously, she's such a bitch she's contemplating going back to her ex? Just that one incident involving her grandmother makes it clear he is a worthless bastard. But then again, you were sort of being naive, thinking a young woman wants anything other than a guy that will treat her like shit and break her heart.

No, once again, she sounds like a piece of shit.

Absolutely NOT! Healthy friendships, like healthy romantic relationships, are built upon mutual respect and regard for each other as equals. Playing ridiculous and immature headgames, like she is doing, is antithetical to respect and just shows she thinks she can walk all over you at any time and any place. That isn't what makes a good friendship, just as that isn't what makes a good romantic partner.

Dude, it's not a matter of deserving it or not; this is just an opportunity to learn and grow--one of many that life will throw at you. It happens to all of us, and the range of fairness varies, so be happy something worse didn't happen.

Look man, it feels like the end of the world right now because the wound is still fresh, but in all honesty, the situation is ridiculously petty, and you'll soon realize this. VERY soon.

You'll take things into perspective, focus on her immaturity and how you fell into the same act, you'll think back to all the lovey-dovey, heart-wrenching shit you said and realize that damn, you sounded like a stupid fucker.

...and the world will keep right-on spinning.

As far as being friends with her goes, I'd say this, too:

Yes, try to be the better person and preserve a friendship; after all, you two did share a lot, and you feel your feelings for her are sincere, so why throw that away when it can easily be turned into something else of great value? If she doesn't reciprocate the love and respect a friend of your caliber deserves, then fuck it and move on; at least you have the peace of mind in knowing that you tried.

She'll realize eventually that she lost something good--whether a friend or a lover.

Good luck, mate.

only read first paragraph, too fucking long...

damn that sucks dude haha

shut up fag

You being with her is not going to be productive, cut her off and keep her at arm's lenght, if you see her in RL (not texting/phone anything) just say hi how are you, and be on with your way.

I just got out of an on/off relationship with a girl I realise is a complete bitch, this thing lasted 18 months so I'm finding it really hard to forget that I love her.

The worst bit is whenever I try to be with anyone else this ex comes and tells me she still loves me. Once I've comforted her she then tells me she doesn't actually, she just wants to 'get over' me first.

Good luck forgetting that bitch, I can't forget mine.

yeah,she was upset because I was flirting with other girls after we broke up.She said she didn't love me anymore though. I think she just wants me to be her bitch.