Theoretically speaking, if a chick is staunchly celibate and has no plans of being otherwise in the near future, and then gets a drunk and makes out with a coworker whom she's not attracted to, WHAT THE FUCK?

I'm thinking because it's been so long my sexual-ness has been locked up in a closet, it busted out with my guard dropped.. or maybe I'm just a closet case.

He is attractive and very sexual, but I have no interest in him at all. In fact, when I saw him at work today I asked him who gave him the hickey. Don't fucking remember. And I was sober until 5AM, I had a few shots back to back and apparently they slammed me all at once. I know my limit and I haven't been THAT blasted in a while and under normal circumstance can drink triple STILL be somewhat coherent.

So I'm in this fucked up situation. He comes up to me today talking about last night and how I "told him how I really feel" and he didn't know I felt that way about him, all giddy and happy. Of course I'm not going to start a seriously shitty conversation before work, but I just don't know how he's going to react when I tell him this isn't going anywhere.

I don't want him to be angry at me, but I have to tell him exactly how I feel. I don't lead guys on and I've been painfully blunt in the past, but this situation requires more sensitivity on my part because of my actions last night. My brother says, he'd be pissed if it was him.

I feel bad, I feel GUILTY, and ashamed. I've never done anything quite like this before and I don't know WHERE THE FUCK it came from. I don't feel particularly horny, I've been fine with no sex and it isn't anything that's bothered me. I just don't understand what would lead me to behave like that.

This is why I have the rule of NOT hanging out with people from work after work. Fucked up shit happens.

What's worse is, there's another bartender I'm diggin', but I've kept my distance and feelings to myself because I do not want to go there right now. I'm in no position to be fuckin' around with guys, I'm sublimating, if you will. Anyway, Over the last few weeks I've made him out to be this awesome guy in my head and a part of me is convinced once I really get to know him the little crush will go away. That's what I kind of want, but I digress. What I'm trying to say is considering my feelings and the circumstances concerning these two guys, this situation can get SHITTY in the future.

I need to do as much damage control as possible. The little I can. I'm pretty sure people were asking him about that fucking stupid hickey. I really don't know how many people know and I guess everyone might as well at this point.

I dunno, I'm so disappointed in myself. Even though all we did was kiss, he's my COWORKER. I don't shit where I eat and I don't need this crazy shit at work.

So, A) If you were in his shoes, what would be the best way to hear all this? Obviously I'm not going to say I'm interested in someone else, that's rubbing salt in the wound, but really. What do I say?! And B) Why the fuck did I do that? I really cannot find the function of what would possess me to do that. He said he told me to stop in respect for my celibacy and I said, "I know what I'm doing. I'm an adult and can make my own decisions."

Well, how fucking foolish do I feel now?

He wants to go to the movies and a baseball game this week. I don't feel comfortable with hanging out with him after all this. Obviously, I cannot trust my resolve around him mixed with alcohol and don't want to put myself in that situation again. At the same time, it's necessary that we're on good terms. I like to get along with everyone and it would really bother me if I knew my DJ despised me. I'm thinking I should tell him this, and then maybe just go to the baseball game (as friends) and not drink to try to smooth this over. Definitely not going to the movies that's too date-ish. I know his feelings aren't going to change as far as him liking me, but I don't want to hate me because he likes me, ya know?

Realistically, I can handle putting things back to where they were, I don't know if HE can.

Fuck.

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Three important rules for breaking up
Don't put off breaking up when you know you want to
Prolonging the situation only makes it worse
Tell him honestly, simply, kindly, but firmly
Don't make a big production
Don't make up an elaborate story
Just to help you avoid a big tear jerking scene
If you wanna date other people say so
Be prepared for the boy to feel hurt and rejected
Even if you've gone together for only a short time,
And haven't been too serious,
There's still a feeling of rejection
When someone says she preferres the company of others
To your exclusive company,
But if you're honest, and direct,
And avoid making a flowery emotional speech when you brake the news,
The boy will respect you for your frankness,
And honestly he'll apeciate the kind of straight foward manner
In which you told him your decision
Unless he's a real jerk or a cry baby you will remain friends

I plan on telling him exactly how I feel. And being very direct, I have a goal as far as this conversation goes, it's getting there that I'm troubled by. I just want to be as nice as possible, I feel like a scumbag. He's on cloud nine right now, and I'm about to bust his bubble.

I know he'll say ok and be fine on the phone. But there's two ways he'll react long-term: One, he'll be distant and short with me at work, which would make me feel very uncomfortable or two he'll continue to try.

I intend not to hang out with him after work again or anything until all this dumb shit wears off, but at the same time, I don't want to hurt him On one hand, with my heart, I want to let him down as gently as possible and go to the game just to spend some time together so he doesn't think I'm a total nutty bitch, but with my head, I just want to back off on the hanging out part until I think everything's dies down, which'll probably be in a few weeks.

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Why be celibate?...You want sex?...There ya go!

Dude...I'm drunk as shit right now so you're going to get the honest shit!

Somehow you like this guy...Otherwise you wouldn't have kissed him...Your body is crying out for some loving! Keep it physical. Let him know that. You just want to jump his bones and don't want to deal with the shit afterwards.

However, keep it quiet or you'll not get the bartender.

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Sorry, couldnt resist

I think you should just tell him how you feel, without taking it further, that will just make it harder for him to forget you, obviously, you're not some two faced whore cock tease, it was a spur of the moment thing, and you obviously don't want to see this guy hurt, i think the best thing is too be mature and respectful and tell him before things get worse.

also don't tell anyone else you work with about it, because more often then not it will turn out like Chinese whispers and it will get back too him.

also try to avoid him, in the nicest way possible, but don't make it obvious that you're trying to avoid him, a passing hello will suffice.

Goodluck.

If I were you I would tell him that you really do like him a lot BUT you can't date him while he's your coworker and because of your celibacy. Maybe tell him you'd like to hang out as friends, but there can be no booze involved.:P

I would try to keep it as lighthearted and friendly as possible...Remember that in this situation he's not at fault and he really sounds sweet.

You see, this is what i hate about women, this is not light-hearted this is down right cold-hearted, a intricate lie to get what they want, telling him this will not make it go away, because he will change his life for you, if he cares so much.
telling him the honest gritty no lies truth will be the nicest thing you could do.

Obviously, the cumulative arousal from reading faintly erotic posts on totse managed to alight your inner fires and drive you hoping, praying, that real life could even begin to compare with the heart-melting romance of the deviant erotica which crosses S&A on a regular basis...

...so - was it any good?

Well... you'll probably want to gloss over the "I'm disgusted with myself for touching you" bits. People can take that in the wrong way.

You've got a head start. He knows of you as a devoted-if-faltering celibate (feel free to share your reasons with the rest of the inquisitive totse class).

That should probably help. Fits in nicely with his worldview. 'specially if you plan on returning to celibacy 'n all.

Or... you could just nail him. Your choice.

Ain't no two ways 'bout it , girl.

CUT HIM OFF AT THE KNEES...verbally speaking of course.

A simple "Sorry dude, i was absolutely rat arsed (=drunk), my clit was throbbing and you were simply the nearest good looking male around". You need to stress the good looking part, cos an ego rub helps the medicine goes down.

Then go on and say something like " It shouldn't have happened, and it won't fucking well happen again so don't even dream about it. End of discussion, now lets get back to being what we were ie colleagues. Capish?"

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