I've always had very high standards, it's a completely unintentional thing but ever since I've been young I've always aimed for girls way above my mark, my last job was really good for ladies, so for the last few years I've done well for myself.
Compared with the amount of one night stands and casual fuckbuddies, I've had very few relationships, but every single one I've been absolutely crazy about the girl, usually because they made me chase and work for it.
So I'm with someone new now, and she's a great girl- Incredibly innocent and naive, which is what I've been wanting after the last few girls who've been the opposite and who have caused me issues. Even though she's a lovely girl, I don't feel anything like as 'into it' as I did with previous girls, there's no magic there and I don't know whether it's there's something wrong with this girl, or I've just lost my teenage- naivity about romance, and it's caused me to look at other relationships around me, and I wonder- How much do other people settle?

Untill now I've had this subconcious assumption that generally people who're together have this powerfull 'first love' feeling for each other, but deep down I know it's bullshit- Everyone settles, but I don't know how much. How do I know whether I'm being a perfectionist, or if I'm just desperately clutching on to anyone because I'm afraid of being alone?
It was never meant to be this complicated...

I don't think people settle when it comes to love.

Usually when I hear that it's about the other persons: looks, moneyflow, status, etc. Superficial crap really.

If you love someone, then you never have to settle. Settling is what you do when you be with someone for the sake of being with someone.

So you like mindgames. This girl doesn't play around with you, so you aren't into her like you are with the other ones. She seems "boring" perhaps? It really sounds like you enjoy the thrill of having to figure the girl out, the thrill of the chase.

You probably won't be happy with this girl if that's the mindset you have. Give it a chance and see how it goes. You shouldn't waste a good opportunity to learn.

That much is apparent. OP is little more than a teenage girl in that regard.

There isn't really anything wrong with games. They are fun- to a point. But it's impossible to play games with someone who is straight up. My advice? Find someone new, have fun. Why do what everyone else is doing if your clearly not at that stage?

You're settling if you stay with someone but you think there's someone better out there for you. Which is really shitty for the person you're settling for, because you're kind of leading her on and eventually you'll find someone else and fuck around on her.