First of all, read this thread for some background:

http://www.totse.com/community/showthread.php?t=2131559

In short, I had sex for the first time 2 days ago with a prostitute. It was good but I couldn't keep an erection for more than about 5 minutes and never really got close to orgasm.

I'm circumcised, so that and the condom means there's practically no sensitivity at all. Is this just a first time thing? :/

Serious replies please... thanks.

First off I admire you having the balls (as did Carbon B) to openly admit to losing your virginity to a whore. Chances are you'll now find getting a girlfriend/getting laid for free a lot easier. All that male ego 'becoming a man' pressure is gone and you'll have a less 'needy' radiance when you talk to girls. Anyways props for candour ,which is why I'm not going to merge this into the penis thread.

As to the problem itsself that amount of sensitivity loss can come from being circumcised but its rare and means the surgeon fucked up.

Chances are it was subconscious. You were excited on the one hand but worried about infection on the offer, while also somehow feeling less of a man because you were paying for it.

I don't think it had much to do with nerves, shame or fear of infection. I genuinely wanted to go the full way and it felt good, just not good enough.

I just don't see why it should be any different the second time. :( Someone tell me it will! :/

First time I had sex I didn't cum until she just took it out and jacked me off.

From personal experience I think it gets easier as you learn how to use your body more as a tool for sex by using more moves, knowing what you want etc...

practice

Yeah. After I went soft she also got it off and did a bit of 'handywork'. It felt good but no luck - wouldn't get up... heh.

I'm in the same boat as you were I think i'm gonna do the same thing only probly jack off first

same here, but I still didn't cum, and yes practice makes perfect

You should of got your money back if you didn't cum. Its like paying for a sandwich, but when you open the package there is nothing there.

it's definatly a first time thing. honestly, my first time having sex, I went outright limp...no joke. I wasn't nervious or anything...maybe my dick was, but I surely wasn't. after getting it up, and getting the condom on, I went about 45 minutes. along the times after that, my lasting got shorter. I guess it's all a matter of comfort, on a subconcious level.

then approximately 75 sexes after that (assuming you did a few times without a condom), you usen up, and orgasms more a psychological thing from then on...

it's pretty much the same with oral. I basically have to mentally force myself to finish up, when getting head.

Did you tell her you were a virgin? Did she go on "easy mode"?

I'm probably WAY off the mark here, because as far as I've been told men don't care about these sorts of things, but could it be because you had no connection with the prostitute?
Like if you had a girlfriend, you would obviously have some sort of emotional attachment to her and sexual attraction that would build tension and... stuff.
But a prostitute, you've never met before, you just meet her and go at it. Despite it being a first time (which is always a big deal) I can't imagine that being a wonderful experience, because of the lack of connection.

Maybe??

I didn't tell it was my all-time first, just a first with someone like her.

I've been wondering the same things Kaiser.

Me and my girlfriend of two months both shared our first time last week. It was ok, we both enjoyed it and all, but it was kind of dissapointing. We were expecting it to be this mind-blowing, life-changing experience and it wasn't. First thought afterwards was, "Well, I'm not a virgin now. Hmm." It's just didn't seem as great as it's always hyped up to be.

Also, condoms. Wow. I thought people were just lying when they said you couldn't feel anything with them on. They were right. I could feel the head of my penis and that was about it. I'm going to try ultra thins next time, maybe it will be different.

You also didn't get off? Time?