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| Sex and Affection Anything and everything about sex and relations. Please try to keep this forum on-topic, since things tend to wander a bit. Search through old topics before posting a new one, as questions get repeated a lot here. |
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#1
 2008-06-13, 07:42 |
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 I feel awful
There's this guy I've been talking to on msn for a while. I really, really, really like him, but he doesn't like me back. He's made it very clear he doesn't want to date me.
I just blocked him a few days ago, because I felt that I needed to "quit" him cold turkey. I didn't want to go on liking someone who didn't like me back, it'd just be too hard. Besides, I fear that the longer I stayed in touch with him for, the harder I'd fall for him (he's got an AWESOME personality). So, I did what I thought was the best thing.
Yet I feel absolutely awful. Like, really awful. I know it sounds cheesy but it's true: my heart is crying out for him. It's telling me to unblock him, to go seek him out. I don't want to be without him. I just want to talk to him again so badly. So what I fall for him even harder, and he won't reciprocate the love? Can it possibly get worse than what I am feeling right now? I feel just awful, like I am going through withdrawal. I went and read our chat log (I save our MSN conversations) and it was like, talking to him just felt so right to me. I don't ever want to stop doing it. Furthermore, I don't want to HAVE to stop talking to him. Can something that feels this right really be bad for me?
What should I do, Totse? People always say follow your heart. Should I really? Should I unblock him?
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#2
2008-06-13, 08:10 |
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Re: I feel awful
Do you know him in real life? It's really fucking easy to become infatuated with someone online and obsess about them. It may seem like a big deal, yeah.
I suppose it makes a difference whether or not you see him "in the flesh" as it were. Sitting at home with your heart thumping every time "the one" signs into msn is a feeling many of us can relate to. I find it's usually some weird internet crush when for once you find someone who you can actually relate to.
I do think that cutting them out of your life by blocking them is a bit unwise, you'll just want to talk to them more, and they'll think you're being rude, or avoiding them.
In the end, if it's just an online thing, you may well wonder what the fuss was all about.
I have had a relationship conducted mainly online, so I'm not entirely without a clue.
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#3
2008-06-13, 08:11 |
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Re: I feel awful
S-s-s-stalkeeer...
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#4
2008-06-13, 17:47 |
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Re: I feel awful
Wow if he's told you he doesn't want to date you, than chances are by talking to him and trying to get him to become attracted to you is just going to annoy the hell out of him.
Believe me just stop thinking about him. When you think about him tell yourself not to and go watch something on youtube/listen to music/totse w.e Its not hard, it may feel like you're not getting over him but just ignore that feeling. Delete the chat logs too. You'll be fine in like a week  |
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#5
2008-06-13, 17:52 |
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Re: I feel awful
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Originally Posted by WritingANovel
There's this guy I've been talking to on msn for a while. I really, really, really like him, but he doesn't like me back. He's made it very clear he doesn't want to date me.
I just blocked him a few days ago, because I felt that I needed to "quit" him cold turkey. I didn't want to go on liking someone who didn't like me back, it'd just be too hard. Besides, I fear that the longer I stayed in touch with him for, the harder I'd fall for him (he's got an AWESOME personality). So, I did what I thought was the best thing.
Yet I feel absolutely awful. Like, really awful. I know it sounds cheesy but it's true: my heart is crying out for him. It's telling me to unblock him, to go seek him out. I don't want to be without him. I just want to talk to him again so badly. So what I fall for him even harder, and he won't reciprocate the love? Can it possibly get worse than what I am feeling right now? I feel just awful, like I am going through withdrawal. I went and read our chat log (I save our MSN conversations) and it was like, talking to him just felt so right to me. I don't ever want to stop doing it. Furthermore, I don't want to HAVE to stop talking to him. Can something that feels this right really be bad for me?
What should I do, Totse? People always say follow your heart. Should I really? Should I unblock him?
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First of all let's clear this up once and for all, are you honestly a man or a woman?
If the guy said he isn't interested, then you need to GET OVER IT! If that means blocking him, and not contacting him, then do it. Stop making excuses, if the compulsion is that strong that your own will can't control it, then you might need to seek professional assistance. |
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#6
2008-06-13, 17:58 |
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Re: I feel awful
Just keep him blocked and don't talked to him. We don't need a repeat of the Dissed incident.  |
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#7
2008-06-13, 18:09 |
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Re: I feel awful
S-s-s-stalkeeer...
This.
Also, OP = troll.
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#8
2008-06-13, 19:08 |
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Re: I feel awful
This.
Also, OP = troll.
sadley. no.
WaN, I know you hate me, but listen.
you need help. professional help.
see a relationship counselor.
hell, just see someone that can help you with you're many many issues.
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#9
2008-06-13, 19:09 |
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Re: I feel awful
sadley. no.
WaN, I know you hate me, but listen.
you need help. professional help.
see a relationship counselor.
hell, just see someone that can help you with you're many many issues.
And who my dear boy is going to help you with yours?
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#10
2008-06-13, 19:12 |
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Re: I feel awful
Lol, WAN.
He was probably a little white boy with curly hair.
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2008-06-13, 19:23 |
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Re: I feel awful
And who my dear boy is going to help you with yours?
english teacher apparently.
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#12
2008-06-13, 19:57 |
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Re: I feel awful
MSN? Not to insult you or anything, but you can't get guys in real life? Damn, what a shame.
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#13
2008-06-13, 20:40 |
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Re: I feel awful
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Originally Posted by Flock
Do you know him in real life? It's really fucking easy to become infatuated with someone online and obsess about them. It may seem like a big deal, yeah.
I suppose it makes a difference whether or not you see him "in the flesh" as it were. Sitting at home with your heart thumping every time "the one" signs into msn is a feeling many of us can relate to. I find it's usually some weird internet crush when for once you find someone who you can actually relate to.
I do think that cutting them out of your life by blocking them is a bit unwise, you'll just want to talk to them more, and they'll think you're being rude, or avoiding them.
In the end, if it's just an online thing, you may well wonder what the fuss was all about.
I have had a relationship conducted mainly online, so I'm not entirely without a clue.
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I could not have put it any better myself. A lot of us have been there, the four gods of Pi know I have, but it's something which once you beat it, like any addiction, makes you stronger.
You do feel guilty when you block them because, you know, you love them. But if it's not reciprocated, you have to get over it somehow. Cold turkey is one way. Don't feel guilty, you're doing this for you. |
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#14
2008-06-13, 21:20 |
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Re: I feel awful
english teacher apparently.
Lol, you think grammar is the worst of your problems?
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2008-06-13, 21:24 |
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Re: I feel awful
Lol, you think grammar is the worst of your problems?
well, from what you pointed out?
yes.
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#16
2008-06-14, 00:09 |
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Re: I feel awful
sadley. no.
WaN, I know you hate me, but listen.
you need help. professional help.
see a relationship counselor.
hell, just see someone that can help you with you're many many issues.
I don't hate you. I just honestly don't think you care about me or my problems and hence, you are not a true friend.
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#17
2008-06-14, 00:11 |
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Re: I feel awful
First of all let's clear this up once and for all, are you honestly a man or a woman?
If the guy said he isn't interested, then you need to GET OVER IT! If that means blocking him, and not contacting him, then do it. Stop making excuses, if the compulsion is that strong that your own will can't control it, then you might need to seek professional assistance.
I am of the female persuasion.
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#18
2008-06-14, 01:15 |
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Re: I feel awful
well, from what you pointed out?
yes.
I didn't point anything out.....slight of hand my friend. You're still a child.
I am of the female persuasion.
Writing a Who?
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2008-06-14, 01:18 |
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Re: I feel awful
Writing a Who?
Hmm? I am not writing a novel it's just a shit name.
Say carbon...do you have a girlfriend?
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#20
2008-06-14, 01:20 |
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Re: I feel awful
Say carbon...do you have a girlfriend?
Run for your life, Carbon.
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#21
2008-06-14, 02:22 |
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Re: I feel awful
Hmm? I am not writing a novel it's just a shit name.
Say carbon...do you have a girlfriend?
Uh oh, the girlfriend question. Is your interest peaking?
Run for your life, Carbon.
Lol, nah...I don't run. ;-)
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#22
2008-06-14, 02:24 |
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Re: I feel awful
Uh oh, the girlfriend question. Is your interest peaking?
Yes...
I like reading your posts. I like the fire in you.
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#23
2008-06-14, 02:28 |
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Re: I feel awful
Yes...
I like reading your posts. I like the fire in you.
Well I like that you're honest. And no, I don't have a girlfriend. :-)
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#24
2008-06-14, 02:29 |
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Re: I feel awful
Well I like that you're honest. And no, I don't have a girlfriend. :-)
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#25
2008-06-14, 02:47 |
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Originally Posted by Flock
Do you know him in real life? It's really fucking easy to become infatuated with someone online and obsess about them. It may seem like a big deal, yeah.
I suppose it makes a difference whether or not you see him "in the flesh" as it were. Sitting at home with your heart thumping every time "the one" signs into msn is a feeling many of us can relate to. I find it's usually some weird internet crush when for once you find someone who you can actually relate to.
I do think that cutting them out of your life by blocking them is a bit unwise, you'll just want to talk to them more, and they'll think you're being rude, or avoiding them.
In the end, if it's just an online thing, you may well wonder what the fuss was all about.
I have had a relationship conducted mainly online, so I'm not entirely without a clue.
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#26
2008-06-14, 03:08 |
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Re: I feel awful
Nice!!!
Wanna talk on msn? Jessiwan@amazon.com
Lol, I mean what are you pegging me for here?
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#27
2008-06-14, 03:14 |
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Re: I feel awful
Lol, I mean what are you pegging me for here?
"pegging me for"
What does that mean? Sorry English isn't my first language.
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#28
2008-06-14, 03:17 |
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Re: I feel awful
"pegging me for"
What does that mean? Sorry English isn't my first language.
I tell you I don't have a girlfriend, and automatically you assume that I would be willing to talk to any girl willing to talk to me? In essence, I am asking what exactly you hope to accomplish by talking to me on msn?
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#29
2008-06-14, 03:19 |
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Re: I feel awful
I tell you I don't have a girlfriend, and automatically you assume that I would be willing to talk to any girl willing to talk to me? In essence, I am asking what exactly you hope to accomplish by talking to me on msn?
haha I see. Well I didn't mean to imply that you would jump at the chance to talk to just any girl. I was just being straightforward, to the point and not wasting time. I assumed that you would want to know me, because you seem a friendly, chatty person.
By talking to you on msn I hope that maybe we can become friends or even more. You never know.
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#30
2008-06-14, 03:26 |
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haha I see. Well I didn't mean to imply that you would jump at the chance to talk to just any girl. I was just being straightforward, to the point and not wasting time. I assumed that you would want to know me, because you seem a friendly, chatty person.
By talking to you on msn I hope that maybe we can become friends or even more. You never know.
I'm not saying you are just any girl, simply I don't know you. Why so straight forward? I think it would be better if we were to just slow it down...take our time. :P
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2008-06-14, 03:31 |
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Re: I feel awful
I'm not saying you are just any girl, simply I don't know you. Why so straight forward? I think it would be better if we were to just slow it down...take our time. :P
Ok. We can flirt on the forum I guess.
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#32
2008-06-14, 03:33 |
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Re: I feel awful
Ok. We can flirt on the forum I guess.
Lol, you are too funny. Is this how you win over all the guys?
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#33
2008-06-14, 03:36 |
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Re: I feel awful
Lol, you are too funny. Is this how you win over all the guys?
lol win over? I can only wish.
If anything, guys tell me f*ck off.
But thanks for the compliment, heh. I guess sometimes I can be kind of funny :)
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#34
2008-06-14, 03:40 |
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Re: I feel awful
lol win over? I can only wish.
If anything, guys tell me f*ck off.
But thanks for the compliment, heh. I guess sometimes I can be kind of funny :)
I only say funny, because as a man I can't say cute in public. :-)
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#35
2008-06-14, 03:43 |
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Re: I feel awful
I only say funny, because as a man I can't say cute in public. :-)
*swoons*
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#36
2008-06-14, 03:50 |
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Re: I feel awful
*swoons*
Lol, stop it now! You seem like a hopeless romantic that just can't wait for Mr. Right. Am I right?
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#37
2008-06-14, 03:53 |
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Re: I feel awful
Lol, stop it now! You seem like a hopeless romantic that just can't wait for Mr. Right. Am I right?
That was pretty spot on. I am a very, very, very romantic person and I get melted left and right.
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#38
2008-06-14, 03:58 |
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Re: I feel awful
That was pretty spot on. I am a very, very, very romantic person and I get melted left and right.
Well I can't deny that I also have hope in the opposite sex. It looks like me and you are both riding in the same boat. It's a good thing I have an excellent mop though...
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#39
2008-06-14, 04:02 |
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Re: I feel awful
Well I can't deny that I also have hope in the opposite sex. It looks like me and you are both riding in the same boat. It's a good thing I have an excellent mop though...
:)
So tell me, do you have any preferences when it comes to girls? What kind of girls are you into, looks and personality-wise?
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#40
2008-06-14, 04:14 |
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:)
So tell me, do you have any preferences when it comes to girls? What kind of girls are you into, looks and personality-wise?
Of course I have preferences. I mean, don't you have a preference when it comes to guys? I would never list out a standard for someone to try and live up to...
There is no way for me to tell whether or not I like a girl, without talking to her. Let's just say I emphasize other qualities besides strictly looks. However, if I am not attracted to the girl, there is nothing her personality can do. :-)
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#41
2008-06-14, 09:19 |
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Re: I feel awful
Presumably CarbonB has fixed the issue by being the new infatuation? ;)
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2008-06-14, 09:34 |
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Presumably CarbonB has fixed the issue by being the new infatuation? ;)
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2008-06-14, 15:23 |
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Presumably CarbonB has fixed the issue by being the new infatuation? ;)
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2008-06-14, 15:34 |
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Re: I feel awful
this thread makes me uneasy.
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2008-06-14, 16:11 |
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this thread makes me uneasy.
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#46
2008-06-14, 16:30 |
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Re: I feel awful
I once did the internet thing, it was kinda a joke with me but the other girl took it seriously.
Four years later and a tramp stamp with my name and I told her the truth.
I wrote an article about it over at www.dumbbaby.net a few years ago.
Heres the link:http://www.dumbbaby.net/a/139.shtml
It's a funny read to me.
WaN, got a pic? Beacause that would put a lot of it into prospective.
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2008-06-14, 16:32 |
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Re: I feel awful
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Originally Posted by patstoddard
I once did the internet thing, it was kinda a joke with me but the other girl took it seriously.
Four years later and a tramp stamp with my name and I told her the truth.
I wrote an article about it over at www.dumbbaby.net a few years ago.
Heres the link:http://www.dumbbaby.net/a/139.shtml
It's a funny read to me.
WaN, got a pic? Beacause that would put a lot of it into prospective.
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2008-06-14, 16:54 |
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Re: I feel awful
Giving your name on the internet AND telling me you live in Alabama....good idea?
I'm feeling safe.
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2008-06-14, 18:40 |
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Re: I feel awful
WaN, got a pic?
oh god, it's out there, just look.
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2008-06-14, 18:57 |
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Re: I feel awful
Fuck me. WAN typing like he/she isn't a complete idiot?
*goes and watches how hell freezes over*
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