So, I like this guy at work but I think I am getting toyed with and I definitely don't want to be. He said we would hang out tonight after I got off of work (it was his day off), and he usually comes in to drink with his friends in the afternoon. He gets there, with another guy and two other girls show up within an hour after them drinking. At first, he is just friendly (I will admit, I was watching. I am a jealous person, and obviously I watched for a good cause.) The next thing I notice is him facing her, rubbing her fucking leg and thigh area. He saw me looking, and he quickly stopped. Now I know they were btoh drunk, but that shouldn't be a reason to do that, should it? He did it once before this, however back then we weren't really anything significant.

He's a huge flirt, he knows he's hot (yeah, he's one of those guys), and he uses it to his advantage. I really try to see the good in people, but this is definitely making it hard to. I want to trust him, I want to be with him, but I don't want to be played with like that. What should I do tomorrow when he comes in in the morning? Should I act like nothing happened or should Igive him the cold shoulder?

unless you two are dating, well there's not a whole lot you can do.
I mean, sure, you can say you like him, but if some random girl wants to fuck him, while you just sit there eying him,
well. he's gonna go for the loose chick.
right?
so when he comes in to work tomorrow, rip his pants off and suck his cock.
that'll make him yours.

If you're not his significant other, you really don't have much to say on this I'm afraid.

You know the dude's a flirt and you know he is a manipulator who uses his looks for leverage. Why would you want somebody like that?

Either grit your teeth and bear it in hopes of making something more of it, i.e. becoming his significant other or just leave it alone and let him get on with it.

Give him the cold shoulder, that'll show him

It hurts, it burns doesnt it? That justice system burns doesn't it......welcome to our world.

Just ignore him as said, if you book them, they will come(waynes world hahaha)

Seriously, I am really hurt. People at work noticed today, and I don't know if that's a good thing. I am the total opposite of him. I wear my fucking heart on my sleeve, and I don't want him to think that he can walk away with it or leave it whenever he wants. I don't play games, it's all or nothing. I just don't know how to tell him that confidently.

It's just not cool to tell someone you are going to hang out with them after work and then end up getting drunk and leaving with some other chick. And we have to be something if he has been still pursuing me this far (a month). I don't know, I am confused.

You sure you want to be messing around with a guy thats going to be dicking around wasting your time? Go find yourself some other guy(s) and get your worry off this one, do yourself that favor at least...worrying ------> stress ---------> insanity/bad times.

he saw what was available and took it.

he saw what was available and took it.

Why am I not available? We had a date planned. Why is it my fault? He's the one that did wrong. I shouldn't feel guilty for feeling hurt.

Why am I not available? We had a date planned. Why is it my fault? He's the one that did wrong. I shouldn't feel guilty for feeling hurt.

he did wrong, by what you feel is wrong.
in the end it comes down to this.
he asks you to hang out.
but since you're just his friend at the moment I assume that you two haven't fucked or anything.
now here comes some random girl that right there is gonna fuck him and you expect him to what...not do anything about it?

sure, it's a sleazy move but it's the one with the quickest gains.

Clearly you don't like what he is, so why are you bothering? People don't change. Just tell him that he had the chance, and he wasted it, then walk the fuck away.

And don't listen to the chauvinistic midget, he just thinks he's a ladies man because he found a girl who likes a guy about waist height for once.

Move on to a real man (i.e. one who posts on totse).

Well, I just got back from work and he definitely knows he's in the doghouse. He didn't look at me all night long except twice, once where he did a nervous laugh and the other time trying to start a conversation about telling me what I had to do tomorrow morning before we opened.

I can't put up with people's shit anymore. Like I am convinced that I am going to live alone all my life because I just hate people. I can't trust them, I can't depend on them, and the one that bothers me the most is that I can't find anyone like me. I'm not looking for a random night of fun. I didn't think he was either because he's been "pursuing" me for like a fucking month now. Walking me to my car, taking it slow, and doing little things. Why did he even waste both of our time if all he wanted was that? Is it the whole trill of the chase deal? Fuck that.

Would it be better if he didn't think he'd done anything wrong?

The only thing you're going to get from dwelling on this is a bitter attitude towards people, so just move on and realise that there probably is someone like you out you, statistically, you just have to find them. You'll just appreciate it more when you do.