I was leaving my house the other day while me neighbors lawn care jerk offs were over. I really wasn't paying attention until I heard my name. After I looked up I saw this guy I had dated back in high school. He came over and started talking about this and that. But then he got into all the shit that he has done wrong in his life. Prison, kids, unpaid child support, and he said heavy drug use was a lot of the reason. Well when we were dating he dumped me for one of my friends because I would not be in a relationship with someone who was fucked up all the time. And she well... she was a slut.

Anyways, I couldn't help but laugh. He got pretty angry but all I could say was, I guess Amber wasn't that cool for letting you do drugs. I got in my car and went to work. When I got home like 13 hours later he was sitting on my porch. He was crying and told me that he always thought it was all karma for what he did and I was the best thing that happened to him yadah yadah yadah. Well I told him that I was into girls now and he sort of slumpped off down the street. I went into my house and my bell rang like five minutes later.

I go to the door and it's him again. He rambles on about some stupid homecoming dance and then he slinks off again. I shut the door and he was back like five minutes later, ringing the bell again. I went out and told him just to go home, that I wasn't interested in him, and his problems. That he had balamed the whole world but could never point to himself with the finger of blame. Anyways, he starts sobbing and walks off.

But I've been seeing him everywhere, at the store, the library, the bank, at the gym. Too many places to be an accident because he lives in Van Nuys which is a good two hour drive from my house. It's starting to get really creepy. I looked up the public access for the clerk of courts and he has some hard core convictions back home. Domestic assault, assault, DUI's, lewd act with a minor under 14. Shit that is fucking scarey. Couldn't find anything for out here, so maybe he's reformed. But then again maybe he hasn't and is just a freak. I don't want to get him in shit if it's nothing. But I don't want to put myself at risk either. I live alone and while I talk shit, he's got me by 5 inches and 70 pounds or so. I went to see about a restraining order and they said because he has not been a threat there is nothing they can do. Any advice?

You must take this seriously. Chances are he'll wander off and find a new target but...

Before you do anything else, change all your internet passwords.

If he is going to stalk you then the net is where he'll start/get most of his info.

Then you phone whatever 'stalker helpline' there is where you are. Most places now you don't have to wait til there is blood on the floor before you take legal action against stalkers. But most cops (and Court Clerks) don't know them.

That's what you get for having standards.