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| Sex and Affection Anything and everything about sex and relations. Please try to keep this forum on-topic, since things tend to wander a bit. Search through old topics before posting a new one, as questions get repeated a lot here. |
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#1
 2008-06-10, 04:29
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Misfit 
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My boyfriend calls me horrible names while having sex
My boyfriend is truly a wonderful guy. He pays for me, looks out for me and treats me like every girl should be treated.
Only recently have we decided to take the plunge and lose our virginity to one another. The scene was perfect, and I really enjoyed it, but every time we do it he seems to get more and more aggressive and yells horrible things like "Take it bitch!" and "You're a nasty little whore aren't you?!" and also "This is what I do to big titted sluts!".
It really ruins the atmosphere for me, and I always thought sex was a way to express love, not talk dirty like that. Maybe he watches too much porn?  I don't know how to approach him because I'm worried I'll hurt his feelings.
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#2
 2008-06-10, 04:33
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Re: My boyfriend calls me horrible names while having sex
holy shit ur a gurl?
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#3
 2008-06-10, 04:36
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Re: My boyfriend calls me horrible names while having sex
holy shit ur a gurl?
No? 
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#4
 2008-06-10, 04:40
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Re: My boyfriend calls me horrible names while having sex
lulz very nice
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#5
 2008-06-10, 04:43
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Re: My boyfriend calls me horrible names while having sex
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Originally Posted by Misfit
My boyfriend is truly a wonderful guy. He pays for me, looks out for me and treats me like every girl should be treated.
Only recently have we decided to take the plunge and lose our virginity to one another. The scene was perfect, and I really enjoyed it, but every time we do it he seems to get more and more aggressive and yells horrible things like "Take it bitch!" and "You're a nasty little whore aren't you?!" and also "This is what I do to big titted sluts!".
It really ruins the atmosphere for me, and I always thought sex was a way to express love, not talk dirty like that. Maybe he watches too much porn?  I don't know how to approach him because I'm worried I'll hurt his feelings.
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Shut up Misfit!
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#6
 2008-06-10, 04:58
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Re: My boyfriend calls me horrible names while having sex
Become the dominate one in bed then start with the bondage sex, which of course would involve gagging him.
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#7
 2008-06-10, 05:28
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Re: My boyfriend calls me horrible names while having sex
Misfit is a bitch
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#8
 2008-06-10, 06:45
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Re: My boyfriend calls me horrible names while having sex
Just tell him what you want.
The only way someone can improve their sexual prowess is with advice from partners.
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#9
 2008-06-10, 06:53
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Re: My boyfriend calls me horrible names while having sex
If its upsetting you then he has to stop. Its that simple.
Next time he kicks off then you need to say something like this.
Him: "Take it all bitch, tell me how good it feels in your cunt, cunt!"
YOU: "OOOH BABY your finger feels so good in me"
Him: "Thats what you want bitch, you want my cock don't you whore?"
You: "Actually what I want is to CUM, and not to have to fake it"
Or you could say something like " Give it to me, pencil dick"
You get the idea?
He'll learn.
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#10
 2008-06-10, 07:46
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Re: My boyfriend calls me horrible names while having sex
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Originally Posted by jackketch
If its upsetting you then he has to stop. Its that simple.
Next time he kicks off then you need to say something like this.
Him: "Take it all bitch, tell me how good it feels in your cunt, cunt!"
YOU: "OOOH BABY your finger feels so good in me"
Him: "Thats what you want bitch, you want my cock don't you whore?"
You: "Actually what I want is to CUM, and not to have to fake it"
Or you could say something like " Give it to me, pencil dick"
You get the idea?
He'll learn.
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She can just tell him she don't like it, she doesn't have to ruin the boy, jack.
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#11
 2008-06-10, 08:06
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Re: My boyfriend calls me horrible names while having sex
I want to close this. Jackketch?
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#12
 2008-06-10, 08:14
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Re: My boyfriend calls me horrible names while having sex
Don't close it. You never know, this situation could arise for a member at some point. Plus, 'Ketch's reply is lulzworthy enough to keep it open.
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#13
 2008-06-10, 09:04
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Misfit 
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Re: My boyfriend calls me horrible names while having sex
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Originally Posted by yoyobek
I want to close this. Jackketch?
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I don't see what your reason would be for closing it?
1. It's a legitimate thread.
2. It's a legitimate post.
3. It's not spam.
I see you only want to close it because it's a thread by me, that is still no excuse. I've done wrong, I've served my time, and until I do something wrong again, then you can't fuck with me unless I deserve it.
And wtf is up with you mods in S&A? I mean, what little scat whore moderator actually asks PERMISSION to close a thread. You're a fucking moderator, you do what you see fit you stupid fat bitch.
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#14
 2008-06-10, 09:37
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Re: My boyfriend calls me horrible names while having sex
"This is what I do to big titted sluts!".
Pics or it didn't happen.
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#15
 2008-06-10, 10:46
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Re: My boyfriend calls me horrible names while having sex
I don't see what your reason would be for closing it?
1. It's a legitimate thread.
2. It's a legitimate post.
3. It's not spam. I agree 100%.
I see you only want to close it because it's a thread by me, that is still no excuse. I've done wrong, I've served my time, and until I do something wrong again, then you can't fuck with me unless I deserve it. Wrong. She can close it just because she doesn't like you. That (according to answers by Zok and acidmelt et al.) seems to be the new way. Hell she can 'spam infract' you if she so wants.
And wtf is up with you mods in S&A? I mean, what little scat whore moderator actually asks PERMISSION to close a thread. You're a fucking moderator, you do what you see fit you stupid fat bitch.
YES she can do whatever she sees fit. BUT on S&A mods make a point of not closing threads that a fellow mod has already posted in. We work on the basis that if that fellow mod wanted it closed then he or she would have done so. You'll see quite often that I'll say something like "I'm closing this, Yoyo if you want it reopened then be my guest".
You see the mods here have a lot of wildly varying views about a lot of things and this is part of how we all manage to work together.
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#16
 2008-06-10, 11:22
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Re: My boyfriend calls me horrible names while having sex
YES she can do whatever she sees fit. BUT on S&A mods make a point of not closing threads that a fellow mod has already posted in. We work on the basis that if that fellow mod wanted it closed then he or she would have done so. You'll see quite often that I'll say something like "I'm closing this, Yoyo if you want it reopened then be my guest".
You see the mods here have a lot of wildly varying views about a lot of things and this is part of how we all manage to work together.
Wild varying views shouldn't be a factor. Like the police, you are authority figures managing a community. Just because a policeman doesn't like someone or doesn't agree with someones opinion, unless it's illegal, they technically have no right to arrest them, as you technically have no right to infract me or lock this thread purely because your wild varying view doesn't match mine.
yoyobek: "Oh, I don't like this thread. Maybe I should ask if I can lock it."
It should be more along the lines of;
yoyobek: "Oh, this thread violates *this, this and this rule*, therefore deserving a lock."
But who am I to preach, eh? It just seems you moderators can get away with anything, which I'm not complaining about, but totseans will follow your example and get banned, which in turn gives you more work and makes the community a crappier place.
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#17
 2008-06-10, 11:40
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Re: My boyfriend calls me horrible names while having sex
Wild varying views shouldn't be a factor. Like the police, you are authority figures managing a community. Just because a policeman doesn't like someone or doesn't agree with someones opinion, unless it's illegal, they technically have no right to arrest them, as you technically have no right to infract me or lock this thread purely because your wild varying view doesn't match mine.
yoyobek: "Oh, I don't like this thread. Maybe I should ask if I can lock it."
It should be more along the lines of;
yoyobek: "Oh, this thread violates *this, this and this rule*, therefore deserving a lock."
But who am I to preach, eh? It just seems you moderators can get away with anything, which I'm not complaining about, but totseans will follow your example and get banned, which in turn gives you more work and makes the community a crappier place.
Yeees I hear what you say about 'technically' but in practice there is wide disagreement among all mods about what 'technically' the FAQ Rules (and each forum's own 'rules') mean.
And yes, following recent examples from the admins, it does seem like we mods can get away with anything. Don't make it right and some of us ain't too happy about it.
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#18
 2008-06-10, 13:05
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Re: My boyfriend calls me horrible names while having sex
Wild varying views shouldn't be a factor. Like the police, you are authority figures managing a community. Just because a policeman doesn't like someone or doesn't agree with someones opinion, unless it's illegal, they technically have no right to arrest them, as you technically have no right to infract me or lock this thread purely because your wild varying view doesn't match mine.
yoyobek: "Oh, I don't like this thread. Maybe I should ask if I can lock it."
It should be more along the lines of;
yoyobek: "Oh, this thread violates *this, this and this rule*, therefore deserving a lock."
Dude is absolutely right.
Moderators SHOULD close/lock threads based on objective criteria, such as did it break any rules..etc, NOT on subjective grounds like whether the moderator likes the topic/poster or not. The fact admins allow mods to close threads based on personal likes and dislikes doesn't make this practice right; it merely means that the admins are stupid, power-abusing, and don't know how to run forums properly.
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#19
 2008-06-10, 13:09
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Re: My boyfriend calls me horrible names while having sex
Dude is absolutely right.
Moderators SHOULD close/lock threads based on objective criteria, such as did it break any rules..etc, NOT on subjective grounds like whether the moderator lies the topic/poster or not. The fact admins allow mods to close threads based on personal likes and dislikes doesn't make this practice right; .
This, just this.
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#20
 2008-06-10, 13:22
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Re: My boyfriend calls me horrible names while having sex
This, just this.
wtf i like you even more now
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#21
 2008-06-10, 13:27
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Re: My boyfriend calls me horrible names while having sex
I completely agree with the posters above.
That being said, jackketch is right: it has recently been demonstrated to the moderator community that moderators are above the rules. We can ban people who bother us or those who we dislike.
If you have a problem with it, I suggest you contact Zok and acidmelt; particularly the latter.
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#22
 2008-06-10, 13:32
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Re: My boyfriend calls me horrible names while having sex
That being said, jackketch is right: it has recently been demonstrated to the moderator community that moderators are above the rules. We can ban people who bother us or those who we dislike.
The current administration DISGUSTS me.
If you have a problem with it, I suggest you contact Zok and acidmelt; particularly the latter.
I doubt it will help. I suspect that this recent "mods can ban those they dislike" is the admins' way of protecting their precious little mod buddies (such as Meta) from being criticised/challenged in public.
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#23
 2008-06-10, 14:37
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Re: My boyfriend calls me horrible names while having sex
I doubt it will help. I suspect that this recent "mods can ban those they dislike" is the admins' way of protecting their precious little mod buddies (such as Meta) from being criticised/challenged in public.
Ding DING DING! Tell him what he's won.........BAN!
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#24
 2008-06-10, 14:50
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Re: My boyfriend calls me horrible names while having sex
Okay let's stop this little totse dick waving contest. There's moderators and there's regular posters. The mods are the one who put in the time to contribute slightly more than the average poster, so they have more power... Quiet yer bitchin...
Anyways, to the OP, your BF definitely watches alot of porn and has normalized that into the way he sees sex with you.
This situation could have led to A.) exotic and varied sex leading to explosive and mutually satisfying orgasms; because he's learned oh so much from all that pr0n viewing
or B.) constant and awkward misogynistic utterances spewing out of him even when the sex isn't that great, just mediocre, but he doesn't notice because it's all about him..
I guess it's the latter... oh well you didn't luck out
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#25
 2008-06-10, 14:55
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Re: My boyfriend calls me horrible names while having sex
Okay let's stop this little totse dick waving contest. There's moderators and there's regular posters. The mods are the one who put in the time to contribute slightly more than the average poster, so they have more power... Quiet yer bitchin...
Man fuck you...who the fuck are you to tell me I shouldn't have a dissenting voice in the mass of blind sheep such as yourself?
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#26
 2008-06-10, 15:31
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Re: My boyfriend calls me horrible names while having sex
Man fuck you...who the fuck are you to tell me I shouldn't have a dissenting voice in the mass of blind sheep such as yourself?
fuck i could fall in love with you just for this post
dude if i ever have my own forum i will invite you to be my mod
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#27
 2008-06-10, 15:39
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Re: My boyfriend calls me horrible names while having sex
That's just fucking retarded.
Considering half the moderators are retards themselves, I guess the practice makes sense.
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#28
 2008-06-10, 16:03
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Re: My boyfriend calls me horrible names while having sex
OP: some people talk dirty, some don't. It's not him being mean to you, it's him finding a way to vent sexual frustration. Without that outlet, he could explode in the pants and then he'd have no balls. Do you want that?
Everyone else: The only people that should actually be moderators are: Jackketch, MrMojoRisin, and Psycho_8b. Everyone else was just randomly placed there. Wires is never fucking on, and Yoyobeck uses her emotions and likes more than she should. Naturally, they all have their reasons to be moderators, but the two are relatively recent and I consider five moderators for one forum overcrowding. I believe 'Ketch gave moderation to Yoyo when he was on hiatus, came back and then let Yoyo maintain her modship. As for wires, she's a sweet girl but I have no idea how she made mod other than "she has a pussy."
I mean, come on! Five moderators!? Yoyo is no authority on Sex and Affection, she keeps Guinea pigs around for affection! Never once have I seen a decent post from Wires concerning Sex and Affection. These girls are sweet, and good at other things, but I don't believe they should be modding this forum in general.
To the thead closing: Moderators have unabridged right to expend their power wherever they see fit. Just because they have the power, though, doesn't mean they should use it.
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#29
 2008-06-10, 16:12
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Re: My boyfriend calls me horrible names while having sex
TOTSE REVOLUTION!!!
*adds nothing significant to thread*
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#30
 2008-06-10, 16:55
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Re: My boyfriend calls me horrible names while having sex
Everyone else: The only people that should actually be moderators are: Jackketch, MrMojoRisin, and Psycho_8b. Everyone else was just randomly placed there. Wires is never fucking on, and Yoyobeck uses her emotions and likes more than she should. Naturally, they all have their reasons to be moderators, but the two are relatively recent and I consider five moderators for one forum overcrowding. I believe 'Ketch gave moderation to Yoyo when he was on hiatus, came back and then let Yoyo maintain her modship. As for wires, she's a sweet girl but I have no idea how she made mod other than "she has a pussy."
I mean, come on! Five moderators!? Yoyo is no authority on Sex and Affection, she keeps Guinea pigs around for affection! Never once have I seen a decent post from Wires concerning Sex and Affection. These girls are sweet, and good at other things, but I don't believe they should be modding this forum in general.
To the thead closing: Moderators have unabridged right to expend their power wherever they see fit. Just because they have the power, though, doesn't mean they should use it.
Not quite. Both Mojo and LC had told me that they weren't going to be around much for a while and then I suddenly had less time as well so I asked Root to mod Yoyo on a temporary basis. He later also confirmed her as a fulltime mod here.
When LC left, Mojo was still MIA which meant we only had one female mod, ie Yoyo and so wires was cornered one night in a dark alley and Shanghaied. Recent events in her life have meant she has less time than she would like at the moment.
Which also meant that this forum was finally out of the grasp of the t-OH-tse mafia and safe in British hands.
Thus S&A entered a Golden age of correct spellings (colour, paedophile) and anti Ameritardiness.
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#31
 2008-06-10, 17:24
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Re: My boyfriend calls me horrible names while having sex
fuck i could fall in love with you just for this post
dude if i ever have my own forum i will invite you to be my mod
Hehe, thank you. The compliment really is appreciated! :)
Everyone else: The only people that should actually be moderators are: Jackketch, MrMojoRisin, and Psycho_8b. Everyone else was just randomly placed there. Wires is never fucking on, and Yoyobeck uses her emotions and likes more than she should. Naturally, they all have their reasons to be moderators, but the two are relatively recent and I consider five moderators for one forum overcrowding. I believe 'Ketch gave moderation to Yoyo when he was on hiatus, came back and then let Yoyo maintain her modship. As for wires, she's a sweet girl but I have no idea how she made mod other than "she has a pussy."
I mean, come on! Five moderators!? Yoyo is no authority on Sex and Affection, she keeps Guinea pigs around for affection! Never once have I seen a decent post from Wires concerning Sex and Affection. These girls are sweet, and good at other things, but I don't believe they should be modding this forum in general.
To the thead closing: Moderators have unabridged right to expend their power wherever they see fit. Just because they have the power, though, doesn't mean they should use it.
Lol, cracking up to pretty much this whole post. :P
Not quite. Both Mojo and LC had told me that they weren't going to be around much for a while and then I suddenly had less time as well so I asked Root to mod Yoyo on a temporary basis. He later also confirmed her as a fulltime mod here.
When LC left, Mojo was still MIA which meant we only had one female mod, ie Yoyo and so wires was cornered one night in a dark alley and Shanghaied. Recent events in her life have meant she has less time than she would like at the moment.
Which also meant that this forum was finally out of the grasp of the t-OH-tse mafia and safe in British hands.
Thus S&A entered a Golden age of correct spellings (colour, paedophile) and anti Ameritardiness.
No kidding, if anything we should be urging the consideration of an American representative as a moderator for Sex and Affection. The British don't do everything right, and the sun does sometimes set on the British Empire!
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#32
 2008-06-10, 17:29
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Re: My boyfriend calls me horrible names while having sex
Not quite. Both Mojo and LC had told me that they weren't going to be around much for a while and then I suddenly had less time as well so I asked Root to mod Yoyo on a temporary basis. He later also confirmed her as a fulltime mod here.
When LC left, Mojo was still MIA which meant we only had one female mod, ie Yoyo and so wires was cornered one night in a dark alley and Shanghaied. Recent events in her life have meant she has less time than she would like at the moment.
Which also meant that this forum was finally out of the grasp of the t-OH-tse mafia and safe in British hands.
Thus S&A entered a Golden age of correct spellings (colour, paedophile) and anti Ameritardiness.
So, Mojo's back for the most part. So are you. I've seen Psycho post. Wires is NEVER ON and Yoyo doesn't seem to be the kind of person worthy of modship (No offense, yoyo. Your posts just never have any substance and they seem riddled with emotion.) So why are they still modded?
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#33
 2008-06-10, 17:30
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Re: My boyfriend calls me horrible names while having sex
PS - Thread officially hijacked.
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#34
 2008-06-10, 18:21
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Re: My boyfriend calls me horrible names while having sex
Hehe, thank you. The compliment really is appreciated! :)
Lol, cracking up to pretty much this whole post. :P
No kidding, if anything we should be urging the consideration of an American representative as a moderator for Sex and Affection. The British don't do everything right, and the sun does sometimes set on the British Empire!
Actually if a replacement mod should be needed then it would be really good if they were american or even better antipodean, if only for the coverage times.
And seeing as the British Empire now consists of the area bordered by the M25, yes the sun has not only set but walked off for a pint down the pub...although we still hope to get Birmingham back some day.
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#35
 2008-06-10, 22:08
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Re: My boyfriend calls me horrible names while having sex
So we're looking for an inactive British mod??
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#36
 2008-06-10, 22:22
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Re: My boyfriend calls me horrible names while having sex
....dominate HIM!
bend him over and ram a pylon in his rectum while yelling
'EYAHHH YOU LIKE THAT DONT YA LITTLE QUEER!!!!"
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#37
 2008-06-10, 23:48
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Re: My boyfriend calls me horrible names while having sex
Ahhh... Totseans and authority. Someone asserts a little control and suddenly everyone starts vomiting Marxism and rants like there's no tomorrow.
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#38
 2008-06-11, 00:07
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Re: My boyfriend calls me horrible names while having sex
Yoyo is no authority on Sex and Affection, she keeps Guinea pigs around for affection!
LMFAO!
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#39
 2008-06-11, 01:04
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Re: My boyfriend calls me horrible names while having sex
YoYo is a mod with good instinct.
This thread is spam/trash, It has been posted in several other forums including spurious generalities. So I doubt the thread starter is legitametly looking for advice.
Being alert to spam trolls and other douche-fags is a sign of being a good mod.
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#40
 2008-06-11, 01:36
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Re: My boyfriend calls me horrible names while having sex
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YoYo is a mod with good instinct.
This thread is spam/trash, It has been posted in several other forums including spurious generalities. So I doubt the thread starter is legitametly looking for advice.
Being alert to spam trolls and other douche-fags is a sign of being a good mod.
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Who are you to say it's not a legitimate thread? Did you stop to think maybe I posted it twice to get other opinions?
Whether or not I am a "douche-fag" as you so hilariously put it, this thread has a legitimate question, therefore should not be locked based on the fact one might think it's a "troll".
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#41
 2008-06-11, 02:01
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Re: My boyfriend calls me horrible names while having sex
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Originally Posted by samthedrunk
Ahhh... Totseans and authority. Someone asserts a little control and suddenly everyone starts vomiting Marxism and rants like there's no tomorrow.
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Because theres nothing at all wrong with a drama ridden dictatorship right
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#42
 2008-06-11, 02:26
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Re: My boyfriend calls me horrible names while having sex
Yah know... I always assumed that the Moderating Position wasn't a permanent one.
As you grow old and stale with the forum topics (sort of like being an old married man with children that have already become adults and can only speak from past experience that happened in a different generation... making his current input on topics at hand obsolete given he is obsolete) then the community begins to voice their opinion and a new moderator is selected.
What you're essentially saying now is that anyone who voices their opinion is banned. That's like the President of the U.S. getting ellected then creating legislation saying he is now king of America. If you don't like it, tough shit.
&Totse, being founded on the basis that Freedom of Speech is one of our basic human rights, should not only have this mentioned on the FRONT PAGE of the website but the leaders of the site should set be an example and not an irony to the ideal aforementioned.
It's an oxymoron, yah know..?
Now, if you're a moderator and you're having a tiff with someone on the forums, then don't use your special "moderator abilities" to overwhelm them. If you think you're truly right then how about you get on the same playing ground as them and don't silence them, but humiliate them... with your intellect... on a public forum for all of us to see.
Or, and here me out on this; You get the sand out of your vaginas (...a sandy dick, in your case, Jeck) and get the fuck over it. If you have a problem, it's YOUR PROBLEM.
Whew.
As for the topic at hand;
If you're comfortable enough to give him your virginity then I assume you're close enough to sit down and have a mature conversation with him on the subject.
If you can't talk to him then why do you think you're ready to perform the "physical acts of love"?
PS: CarbonB for mod. I think there should be a yin and a yang to the moderators. It always works out in our favor if our suppressors are fighting amongst themselves as apposed to working together.
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#43
 2008-06-11, 02:41
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Re: My boyfriend calls me horrible names while having sex
As for the topic at hand;
If you're comfortable enough to give him your virginity then I assume you're close enough to sit down and have a mature conversation with him on the subject.
If you can't talk to him then why do you think you're ready to perform the "physical acts of love"?
It's not just a matter of sitting him down and talking to him, it's something that will truly humiliate him and maybe even get him angry. Basically I'm asking what's the easiest way to approach this, because I know I'll have to talk to him sooner or later.
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#44
 2008-06-11, 03:11
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Re: My boyfriend calls me horrible names while having sex
Man fuck you...who the fuck are you to tell me I shouldn't have a dissenting voice in the mass of blind sheep such as yourself?
Carbon... I usually crack up and nod my head in agreement with most every contrarian position you take. I know you like those compliments lol. But the only reason I posted the comment against the discussion about mods and their power was because I find the OP's story incredibly funny and entertaining, and thus wanted to hear more people discussing it...
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#45
 2008-06-11, 07:47
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Re: My boyfriend calls me horrible names while having sex
It's not just a matter of sitting him down and talking to him, it's something that will truly humiliate him and maybe even get him angry. Basically I'm asking what's the easiest way to approach this, because I know I'll have to talk to him sooner or later.
If you were skilled, you could simply imply that you don't want rough sex, but to have slow... personal... "make love" sex.
Lead him on with where it's going. Light a candle and play some music to set the mood and go slow. Very slow. If he starts to go faster or get rougher or even starts to speak stop him before he says anything too harsh. Just shush him quietly in his ear. You may need to look a little more enthusiastic then how it really feels (don't fake an orgasm or anything just make sure he knows you're enjoying it).
After you've done that successfully just keep talking about how great that night was and how you want to have more quiet long slow fucks in the future.
...That's how I think I would like to be told that I'm terrible in bed. Any smart man would take the hint.
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#46
 2008-06-11, 14:15
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Re: My boyfriend calls me horrible names while having sex
Actually if a replacement mod should be needed then it would be really good if they were american or even better antipodean, if only for the coverage times.
And seeing as the British Empire now consists of the area bordered by the M25, yes the sun has not only set but walked off for a pint down the pub...although we still hope to get Birmingham back some day.
Lol, it will be back, just like for us across the way, we're making a COME BACK!
Ahhh... Totseans and authority. Someone asserts a little control and suddenly everyone starts vomiting Marxism and rants like there's no tomorrow.
Nigga please!
PS: CarbonB for mod. I think there should be a yin and a yang to the moderators. It always works out in our favor if our suppressors are fighting amongst themselves as apposed to working together.
Woooooooot! :P
Carbon... I usually crack up and nod my head in agreement with most every contrarian position you take. I know you like those compliments lol. But the only reason I posted the comment against the discussion about mods and their power was because I find the OP's story incredibly funny and entertaining, and thus wanted to hear more people discussing it...
Ahhh, I see. :) Hmmm, Mistfit here did have a rather well written and thought out post. I just realized that......MEH!
If you were skilled, you could simply imply that you don't want rough sex, but to have slow... personal... "make love" sex.
Lead him on with where it's going. Light a candle and play some music to set the mood and go slow. Very slow. If he starts to go faster or get rougher or even starts to speak stop him before he says anything too harsh. Just shush him quietly in his ear. You may need to look a little more enthusiastic then how it really feels (don't fake an orgasm or anything just make sure he knows you're enjoying it).
After you've done that successfully just keep talking about how great that night was and how you want to have more quiet long slow fucks in the future.
...That's how I think I would like to be told that I'm terrible in bed. Any smart man would take the hint.
I would just simply tell him he is a little rough, and that I enjoyed having sex with him, but I wanted him to fuck me like a lady, and not a whore.
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#47
 2008-06-11, 14:40
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Re: My boyfriend calls me horrible names while having sex
Right.
Like Jack said, I am on, but I have had a few problems in my personal life recently which means I haven't had as much time. This will be changing shortly.
Also, I don't have to post in every single thread. My moderating is more 'behind the scenes', and I do certainly post in here. Go and look. I do more here than you lot think.
I keep in touch with the other S&A mods and tell them whats going on with me. If I was as useless as you think they would have done away with me a long time ago, but as it is, regulars can't see everything we do on here.
Please back me up jackketch and yoyo!
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#48
 2008-06-11, 14:49
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Re: My boyfriend calls me horrible names while having sex
Wires has done an excellent job at moderation since day one. Her personality and judgement more than qualify her for moderating S&A.
If prometheus was still a moderator here, I could see the issue. Yoyobek has been an S&A regular for quite a long while.
I take issue with jack as a person, but not with his moderation.
Mojo, yeah. She really used to like fullcircle and I still have to find out where to have some fun in southern Florida this winter.
The moderation in this forum is fine. The only thing that will make it grow is a fresh wave of noobs, and this will eventually happen.
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#49
 2008-06-11, 14:55
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Re: My boyfriend calls me horrible names while having sex
I take issue with jack as a person, but not with his moderation.
Everyone has issues with jack as a person. Its the bane of my life.
I.am.so.misunderstood.
:P
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#50
 2008-06-11, 15:20
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Re: My boyfriend calls me horrible names while having sex
Everyone has issues with jack as a person. Its the bane of my life.
people are just jealous of your rugged Teutonic good looks
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#51
 2008-06-11, 15:41
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Right.
Like Jack said, I am on, but I have had a few problems in my personal life recently which means I haven't had as much time. This will be changing shortly.
Also, I don't have to post in every single thread. My moderating is more 'behind the scenes', and I do certainly post in here. Go and look. I do more here than you lot think.
I keep in touch with the other S&A mods and tell them whats going on with me. If I was as useless as you think they would have done away with me a long time ago, but as it is, regulars can't see everything we do on here.
Please back me up jackketch and yoyo!
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I was agreeing with you up until you asked for backup. Why as a Moderator would you EVER need backup against the general totse populace?
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#52
 2008-06-11, 18:19
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Re: My boyfriend calls me horrible names while having sex
Guys,Girls and those undecided or Americans, can we please take this to the wonderful new thread made by FatkittY?
Thank you so much.
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#53
 2008-06-11, 18:58
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Re: My boyfriend calls me horrible names while having sex
I think this thread should be closed just because of the fact that it's been taken over by people arguing about whether or not it should be open.
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#54
 2008-06-11, 19:53
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Re: My boyfriend calls me horrible names while having sex
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I think this thread should be closed just because of the fact that it's been taken over by people arguing about whether or not it should be open.
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/irony
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#55
 2008-06-11, 19:54
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Re: My boyfriend calls me horrible names while having sex
i'm such a faggot
u.g.l.y you ain't got no alibi
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#56
 2008-06-12, 00:34
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Re: My boyfriend calls me horrible names while having sex
http://tinyurl.com/5t38at
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#57
 2008-06-12, 03:07
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Re: My boyfriend calls me horrible names while having sex
Misfit is a bitch
LOL made my night
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#58
 2008-06-12, 03:08
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Re: My boyfriend calls me horrible names while having sex
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Originally Posted by jackketch
If its upsetting you then he has to stop. Its that simple.
Next time he kicks off then you need to say something like this.
Him: "Take it all bitch, tell me how good it feels in your cunt, cunt!"
YOU: "OOOH BABY your finger feels so good in me"
Him: "Thats what you want bitch, you want my cock don't you whore?"
You: "Actually what I want is to CUM, and not to have to fake it"
Or you could say something like " Give it to me, pencil dick"
You get the idea?
He'll learn.
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Ketch is king
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#59
 2008-06-12, 22:05
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Re: My boyfriend calls me horrible names while having sex
This thread actually ended up being incredibly interesting. The going ons of the running of this place are... well, yes, interesting.
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#60
 2008-06-13, 07:04
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Re: My boyfriend calls me horrible names while having sex
I was agreeing with you up until you asked for backup. Why as a Moderator would you EVER need backup against the general totse populace?
Hey Carbon I am a Leo and I am into astrology.
What's your sign? I bet it's Scorpio
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#61
 2008-06-13, 07:47
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Re: My boyfriend calls me horrible names while having sex
A short excerpt from a theatrical production, Lulz:
A bedroom in a shoddy apartment.
Misfit: I love you... *kisses yoyobek slightly on neck*
*yoyobek rips off Misfit's clothes in an ecstasy of fumbling and fucks her violently*
yoyobek: yeah... yeah... like this you stupid cunt? Like it when I lock your posts for no reason? ...Yeah you fuckin' take it slut!
Misfit (feeling a little digressed from the moment): uhm... yeah.
*Misfit remembers advice in the 1st couple posts of thread*
Misfit: You know what...f-f....f...fuck you!! Pencil dick!
yoyobek: You asked for it now, ya bitch
In the Main Room of the apartment
*jackketch arrives home to hear loud sounds from the bedroom*
jackketch: lulz, at least they get along now... I think. There's nothing I value more than an equal relationship!
*WritingANovel stumbles out from nearby broom cupboard*
WritingANovel: Hi, I uh... I'm here because--
jackketch: Just get on your knees already.
*WritingANovel smiles incongruously and drops down to her scarred knees.*
*yoyobek, finally satisfired, emerges from bedroom to find WritingANovel on her knees with jackketch*
*yoyobek closes thread*
yoyobek: Goddamnit... I hate totseans.
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#62
 2008-06-13, 10:43
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Re: My boyfriend calls me horrible names while having sex
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Originally Posted by Cordova
A short excerpt from a theatrical production, Lulz:
A bedroom in a shoddy apartment.
Misfit: I love you... *kisses yoyobek slightly on neck*
*yoyobek rips off Misfit's clothes in an ecstasy of fumbling and fucks her violently*
yoyobek: yeah... yeah... like this you stupid cunt? Like it when I lock your posts for no reason? ...Yeah you fuckin' take it slut!
Misfit (feeling a little digressed from the moment): uhm... yeah.
*Misfit remembers advice in the 1st couple posts of thread*
Misfit: You know what...f-f....f...fuck you!! Pencil dick!
yoyobek: You asked for it now, ya bitch
In the Main Room of the apartment
*jackketch arrives home to hear loud sounds from the bedroom*
jackketch: lulz, at least they get along now... I think. There's nothing I value more than an equal relationship!
*WritingANovel stumbles out from nearby broom cupboard*
WritingANovel: Hi, I uh... I'm here because--
jackketch: Just get on your knees already.
*WritingANovel smiles incongruously and drops down to her scarred knees.*
*yoyobek, finally satisfired, emerges from bedroom to find WritingANovel on her knees with jackketch*
*yoyobek closes thread*
yoyobek: Goddamnit... I hate totseans.
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You have no idea just how close to the truth that is.
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#63
 2008-06-13, 13:13
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Re: My boyfriend calls me horrible names while having sex
yoyobek for demod!
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#64
 2008-06-13, 17:09
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Re: My boyfriend calls me horrible names while having sex
Hey Carbon I am a Leo and I am into astrology.
What's your sign? I bet it's Scorpio
Ahhhhhh, another fan of Astrology. Very nice to meet you, and I am not a Scorpio, but Scorpio is one of my best matches. Scorpio/Pisces being the best match for me, and Leo/Taurus being great matches for me. Do you know my sign? :P
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#65
 2008-06-13, 17:22
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Re: My boyfriend calls me horrible names while having sex
Do you know my sign? :P
http://www.hardgeus.com/updateimages/prince_symbol.jpg
Sooo you're really a nigger with big lips dressed in purple lycra?
Suddenly everything seems so clear.
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#66
 2008-06-13, 17:40
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Re: My boyfriend calls me horrible names while having sex
http://www.hardgeus.com/updateimages/prince_symbol.jpg
Sooo you're really a nigger with big lips dressed in purple lycra?
Suddenly everything seems so clear.
Lol, Prince gets mad pussy! I wouldn't mind being Prince, but I would rather be me.
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#67
 2008-06-13, 20:17
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Re: My boyfriend calls me horrible names while having sex
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Originally Posted by Cordova
A short excerpt from a theatrical production, Lulz:
A bedroom in a shoddy apartment.
Misfit: I love you... *kisses yoyobek slightly on neck*
*yoyobek rips off Misfit's clothes in an ecstasy of fumbling and fucks her violently*
yoyobek: yeah... yeah... like this you stupid cunt? Like it when I lock your posts for no reason? ...Yeah you fuckin' take it slut!
Misfit (feeling a little digressed from the moment): uhm... yeah.
*Misfit remembers advice in the 1st couple posts of thread*
Misfit: You know what...f-f....f...fuck you!! Pencil dick!
yoyobek: You asked for it now, ya bitch
In the Main Room of the apartment
*jackketch arrives home to hear loud sounds from the bedroom*
jackketch: lulz, at least they get along now... I think. There's nothing I value more than an equal relationship!
*WritingANovel stumbles out from nearby broom cupboard*
WritingANovel: Hi, I uh... I'm here because--
jackketch: Just get on your knees already.
*WritingANovel smiles incongruously and drops down to her scarred knees.*
*yoyobek, finally satisfired, emerges from bedroom to find WritingANovel on her knees with jackketch*
*yoyobek closes thread*
yoyobek: Goddamnit... I hate totseans.
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lulz. this should be a movie :D
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#68
 2008-06-13, 21:49
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Re: My boyfriend calls me horrible names while having sex
and also "This is what I do to big titted sluts!".
hahahaha
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#69
 2008-06-13, 23:58
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Re: My boyfriend calls me horrible names while having sex
Ahhhhhh, another fan of Astrology. Very nice to meet you, and I am not a Scorpio, but Scorpio is one of my best matches. Scorpio/Pisces being the best match for me, and Leo/Taurus being great matches for me. Do you know my sign? :P
No wai in hell can scorpio/leo/taurus all be good matches for you; they clash; all fixed signs.
I am guessing you a cancer?
Also, I am compatible with Scorpio/Pisces/Cancer sun sign with moon sign in fire, since I am the opposite. I have sun sign in Leo and moon sign in Scorpio.
P.s. yes yes I know I am gay for being into astrology. Sue me.
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#70
 2008-06-14, 01:20
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Re: My boyfriend calls me horrible names while having sex
No wai in hell can scorpio/leo/taurus all be good matches for you; they clash; all fixed signs.
I am guessing you a cancer?
Also, I am compatible with Scorpio/Pisces/Cancer sun sign with moon sign in fire, since I am the opposite. I have sun sign in Leo and moon sign in Scorpio.
P.s. yes yes I know I am gay for being into astrology. Sue me.
Yes you are the epitome of LOSER for talking to me about astrology. Lol, don't get so worked up...we're just talking here, right?
I am a Cancer, and you just made my day. :P
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#71
 2008-06-14, 03:53
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Re: My boyfriend calls me horrible names while having sex
Yes you are the epitome of LOSER for talking to me. I am a Cancer.
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#72
 2008-06-14, 15:36
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Re: My boyfriend calls me horrible names while having sex
12345
Shouldn't you be off touching kids or something?
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#73
 2008-06-14, 15:59
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Re: My boyfriend calls me horrible names while having sex
yoyobek for demod!
This for sure.
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#74
 2008-06-14, 22:51
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Re: My boyfriend calls me horrible names while having sex
Shouldn't you be off touching kids or something?
Pssh. Like I can't type with the other hand.
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