So this girl I know introduced me to her best friend, she isnt that attractive to me but I gave her a shot because we had some things in common and shes sweet.

Forward 3 weeks and..

I just can't do it, I can't kiss her, hell it took me being trashed to feel up on her..shes a virgin and I dont even want to be her first, I don't want her to be all clingy and me being the "hes my first zomg i luv him" guy.

The thing is, she would be a great friend, and thats what I want. I just CAN'T be with someone who im not totally attracted to, especially sexually. Let's put it this way, I havent even fapped to her, and I have fapped to ALL of my girlfriends even with getting sex or not.

How do I end it with her and still be friends? I know shes going to ask why and I can't tell her it's because im not attracted to her. I guess I made a mistake getting into this and I wanna get out without hurting her...keep in mind im her first bf, shes 19 and im 22

thats rough, specially since it's her first.

really the best thing to do is to rip the bandaid off fast. you're going to fuck up your approach if you say anything that could lead her to believe you guys have a chance down the road if things change or shes changed. I'd say the best approach would be to tell her that you just arent feeling it; chances are she'll say the exact same thing down the road to someone else anyway.

definitely sooner the better in this case; if you arent even kissing her that often it'll be a little rough for her at first but she'll be fine, chicks tend to have a shorter rebound time anyways.

We had plans to go to a concert next week, do I take her as "friends" or just what>?

I agree with...whoever said "I'm not feeling it".

if you have any mutual friends that find her hot get them to talk to her and say "Omg I can't believe that I think you're hot as hell", might repair her crushed ego?

Three options.

1.) Don't go with her. (strongly recommended)

2.) Go with her, but put all your cards on the table asap. She will at least know you two are friends at this stage and won't be expecting anything. If she makes ANY moves on you, firmly dismiss any attempt that she may make.

3.) Go with her, don't say anything and potentially ending up in a lot of shit. (Not recommend)


There are no guarantees in life. No matter what option you choose there will be a strong possibility that she won't want to continue the friendship. ALL you can do is keep on reaffirming that you would love to be friends and would hurt you if you couldn't.

Personal experience: Knowing uglys, she will initially say she doesn't want to be friends, a few days later she will cool down and contact you and apologize and offer a friendship. However, 9 times out of 10 she wants to use that as an excuse in an attempt to get back with you. If she does, remind her you can only be friends and nothing more.

Make up some bullshit about not wanting to take her virginity because it means too much and is such a big commitment, and some other bullshit about your upbringing. When she says you guys weren't even close to having sex, say that what's the point of being with some one if ONE DAY, you can't have sex with them?

I don't know. Some bullshit I just spun.

"Let's just be friends" FTW! Seriously though, just tell her you don't want a relationship right now. 3 weeks of dating does not make her your girlfriend. She'll be hurt, and she'll get over it. Tell her you just want to be friends.

Ok So I did it, I broke up with her. Everything was good, we agreed to be "friends", ya whatever. So out of the blue a few hours later she shows up at my house unannounced..I'm like ok?..she wanted to talk and hang out because she was "bored"..So shes trying to flirt or whatever and she fuckin takes my chain and puts it on her, I dont think nothing of it.

Then when she leaves she won't give it back to me, i'm like what the fuck?..and she leaves with it. I think she fuckin took it so she was guaranteed to see me again, im fuckin pissed..and to top it off on my way to the store later I go to my car and I got a flat tire!..So now I gotta see her again to get my chain because she said she won't give it to anyone but me.. whatever.

Cut the bitches hands off for stealing from you.

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Uh oh.

Showing just how utterly stupid women *can* be when they put their minds to it. You made your point clear yet she's still hovering around hoping you were just lying.. She needs a smack.
If quiet and polite negotiations dont work violence will allways win the day.

Sounds like you got a psycho on your hands. Go to her place, get your shit back, and cut off all contact. Do this asap.

Showing just how utterly stupid women *can* be when they put their minds to it. You made your point clear yet she's still hovering around hoping you were just lying.. She needs a smack.


maybe. but, most of us (males and females alike) are guilty of a fair amount of stupid shit in regards to the first breakup/relationship.

maybe. but, most of us (males and females alike) are guilty of a fair amount of stupid shit in regards to the first breakup/relationship.

It's true.