Alright.. so there is this girl ive been seeing around school who I think is drop dead beautiful...

The other day my friend's girlfriend talked to her and said that I have to go talk to her.. (she got a bit hostile and told me to stop being a pussy and to go fucken talk to her, lol)

My friend mentioned how she told his girlfriend "your friend is funny, we make eye contact and smile at each other in the halls but then he just keeps walking" so i though, ok, maybe I have a chance.

So they put me on the spot and I talked to her. I introduced myself, I told her that i've seen her around the halls, that I think that she was really pretty and I asked her if I can get to know her better some time. (but i think i was talking a little too fast I didn't sound too confident.)

Today I saw her in the staircase, she smiled so i told her to let me talk to her really quick. (I have never had a conversation with her, i don't know her at all) As I looked at her for some reason i suddenly blanked out. next thing i know I ask her when we can go hang out so i can get to know her, and I mention if I can grab her number.

She looked at me all weird she said that maybe she should get my number, and as she started to pull out her phone she stayed quiet, i thought i might break the silence so I mentioned that maybe we can go hang out after school or something. She gave me another weird look and said she cant today, I told her I meant next week. She just said alright and just walked off to wherever she was going.

This was amazingly awkward, as she walked off i thought wtf did i just do!? I don't even know her why did I come on so strong, I should of just kept saying hi to her and try to get a regular conversation with her.

But its too late for that now. She is weird, sometimes she looks at me and smiles, sometimes she pretends like she doesn't see me. I'm comfortable with girls, but I am so attracted to this one that I cant even think straight when I see her...

I know its just a girl, we're just in high school, but this one just feels so special to me.

I'm afraid of how bad I fucked up. Did I creep her out... or what can I say to her now.. I feel like up fucked up really bad, and I feel like I made a total ass of myself.. should I feel that way?

inb4paraphrase

You didnt come on that strong, well maybe for a high school girl...you probably should have started small conversations instead of asking her to hang out when you don't even know her. The good news is she will forget about it and hopefully call you and just go from there, the worst thing that could happen is she just doesnt like you, and just move on.

yeah i hope she forgets..

but uhm.. she never got my number since I interrupted the silence :(

Every girl wants the confident fun to hang around guy that never creates awkward situation and keeps up his chin at all times.

So when you didn't demonstrate you were confident, she was a little disappointed. Not to be a bitch, and maybe even because she's still attracted to you, she smiles.

The good news is, it doesn't matter whatsoever. Moments are fleeting. You can be a complete loser one day, then you are genuinely confident the next day, she'll start to change her mind (even faster if she still has that attraction).

So, no she won't forget, she'll probably be able to recall the situation..but she won't choose to dig the memory back up because its not attractive. So you have two options:

Fade away and confirm that day.

OR

Shine and the day will never again be thought of

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The problem now is what to do...as, she is wary of you, and its hard to demonstrate you're what she wants now.

The best way to think in a situation when you are unsure what to do is put yourself in the mind of someone who knows exactly what they wants and have nothing to be afraid of.

What does that person do in this situation?

He walks back up to the girl and says "You still didn't give me your number", then look at her with a matter of fact look, the kind of look that says "I know I was supposed to get your number, but you flaked out, so give it up"

IF you don't have the amount of confidence to just say a single statement-command and have that be not awkward, you can add a bit of cheeky humor or teasing sarcasm to lighten up the situation.

You Say: "You still didn't give me your number, are you nervous?"
You Convey: You're nervous to talk to me because you have a cute little crush on me, I'm helping you out here by reasking

You Say: "You still didn't give me your number, I'm starting to think you're weird"
You Convey: I know what type of girl I want, and I don't have a hard time finding other girls, so if you don't start proving your worth my time, buh-bye!

You Say: "You still didn't give me your number, I'm not giving you mine"
You Convey: I asked you for your number, that means you give me your number. I am confident, I know what I want, I'm not changing it for some girl I just met

You Say: "You still didn't give me your number, so....I'm giving you another chance"
You Convey: Look, you like me, we both know that. I'm open to seeing if I end up liking you back...so just give me your fking contact info.



Talk slow.


Look the point is, go in to all women situations with the mindset "I'm gonna find a girl I like, they have to earn my interest", not "I hope a girl likes me", when in doubt, pretend you have the status of a athlete, or a rockstar/rapper. the personality traits/confidence/selfworth you will give off is exactly the things that will attract the girls

(but dont tell them you think you're a famous rockstar)

Confidence is KEY. I know this piece of advice is around there everywhere, but it actually is 100% true.

I never really discovered until I found a girlfriend that it is actually really easy to be confident. When you stare at girls down the hallway, don't fucking look up right away if she sees that you are staring at her. Just keep staring and look at her like shes a piece of meat. Even though this is far from the truth, it is that kind of attention that girls love.

I always used to be so awkward around girls because I was always watching what I was saying and trying not to sound like an idiot. But now that I have a girlfriend, I talk to girls like I simply don't give a fuck (cause I don't), and I've got SO many girls after me now. Its nuts.

So to OP, next time you see her in the hallway, instead of smiling/waving or saying hi, stare into her eyes as if you were a hungry vampire. Or a famous rockstar. Wait until the opportunity arises when you can talk to her (preferably without all her giggly friends around), and talk to her like shes an old friend. Be like, "Hey! Whats goin on?" and find something to talk about. You just need to relax, and be confident. Act like your just being friendly, and don't act interested in her body at first. Make friends with her, and then eventually (but not TOO long after you're her friend), slowly start to show that you really dig her. Sit nice and close to her, make her laugh (make dirty jokes), and make fun of her in a nice way. Girls love to be teased.

From that point on it would take a complete dumbshit to not know what to do.

so I'm thinking forget what happened today, fuck that..

im thinking, just make eye contact and get a smile or two outta her, and THEN just go up to her and tell her "so wassup, you still gonna give me your number or what?"

im just hoping I didnt ruin my chances completly...

I have confidence with girls, i'm friends with lots... its just that every time I look at her I feel like im 12 again.... you guys just inspired me.... i started feeling down and forgot all about being confident..

now i cant wait til monday....