How about masturbation?

When you masturbate if you are a guy and watching st8 porn do you pretend to see it from the guys perspective or watch the girl get pleasure and work your way into her brain and get pleasure from her pleasure?

TLDR: Where do you focus your mind during sexual-interaction?

Here's How:

1. Talk about it with your partner-to-be well before hand and know that you are both sure. If there are any doubts, stop here, abstinence in a relationship is normal and "OK".
2. Go over your birth control needs and options and make sure that you have waited long enough for the choice you make to be effective. Consider talking with a friend or family member about their experiences.
3. Use a condom no matter what other birth control arrangements have been made and regardless of what your partner-to-be tells you about his/her sexual history.
4. Do not be drunk, on drugs or otherwise unable to make an informed decisison, and make sure that your partner-to-be is in a decision making state.
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5. Make sure that you care about your partner-to-be and that you are not "doing it" for reasons other than what YOU feel. Looking cool, fitting in or just wanting to lose your virginity are not good reasons to have sex.
6. Go somewhere comfortable, quiet, private and (preferably) nice. Choose a place where you are unlikely to be interrupted.
7. Don't think too much about how nervous you are, relax and take a deep breath. This should be something you WANT to do.
8. Spend a long time kissing and caressing your partner. This is called "foreplay" and the more there is of it, the better.
9. Talk to your partner, say kind, gentle and loving things. First say with words what you are about to express with your body.
10. As you get into it never stop listening to what your partner says and remember he/she has a right to stop no matter how far things have gone.
11. Slowly undress each other paying close attention to your partner's body language - are things moving too fast, or do they seem on target? If you sense any hesitation at this point you should slow down or stop.
12. As you kiss and start to relax listen to what your mind tells you to do, follow your instincts and your partners cues.
13. Enjoy what you are doing, take time to get to know your partner's body and let them get to know yours. You never get another first time or another first time together.
14. Before moving on to intercourse (penetration) make sure that you both still want to "go all the way", it is hard to turn back and can't be undone. Sex is not a test of love, it is a way of expressing it.
15. Follow your instincts and listen to your heart. By the time you are physically ready for intercourse you should be relaxed and comfortable enough to let nature take it's course.

Tips:

1. It is best if you feel deeply (and even better if you feel love) for your partner; emotionally empty sex is always a let down.
2. There is more than pregnancy to worry about when having sex, you must also think about STDs and the emotional after effects.
3. As hard as it sounds don't think too much about what it will be like, this is asking for problems, performace anxiety and disappointment.
4. Foreplay is essential as it gives you time to get used to the new feelings (both emotional and physical) that you are sure to have - don't cut it short and don't be afraid to stop at this point if you start having doubts.
5. There is no such thing as owing someone sex. You can talk about it for weeks, get the birth control handled, be "right into it" and still change your mind.

What You Need:

* Condoms
* Birth Control

Poster above me: Read the fucking question, dipshit.

Now as for the OP, the rare time that I watch porn, it's the females pleasure that I concentrate on. Who cares about a grunting man?

Too bad the vast majority is retarded and fake as hell.

Sex: Her. I'm going to enjoy it either way because I love my missus so I might aswell be a half decent guy and make it good for her. I hear no complaints.

Wanking: What kinda question is that?!...I don't have a clue what I'm thinking about...I'm watching pen0rs sliding into bajingos and various other things. I see, I wank, I shoot, I continue with my life.

i used to focus on myself. but ive been going with the give to receive method and it seems to work the best.

i focus on her so that she'll then focus on me. the pleasure i give to her gives me pleasure, and then she gives me more pleasure, which in turn gives her pleasure. its a pleasant cycle.

i vary... i either dont focus, as in i just watch it and thats it, or i put myself mentally in the guys position "while" focusing on the girl...

this makes me think if theres some sort of "porn theory" course porn directors do to get in the heads of the viewer ¬_¬

In porn I tend to ignore both because they're normally both so obviously faking it... E.g. The girl's already had four orgasms from giving him sucky.

In reality, focus on her. Can't stand the thought of being one of those inconsiderate lovers who just plough for two minutes then roll over and go to sleep. Doesn't sound like too bad an idea now come to think of it!

i usually focus on her during sex. thats how i can last for a long time and how once i made her orgasm 7 times in 45 minutes. also, the more she likes it, the more often we did it.

i like seeing how i make her feel.

For sex it depends on the person, and gender.

When I was into girls I found the sex was more intimate or something. I think this is because with girl on girl sex you have to rely on eachother get get off. The more you please your girl the more she'll be willing to please you, ya know?

As for guys, it depends on a lot of things. The state of mind, whether we're dating or not, shit like that.

For masturbation, I have no fucking clue what I'm thinking about. Probably myself.

you're a 14 year old girl. you shouldn't know this much unless you've had a LOT of experience. slut.

When I masterbate I think about whoever I fancy or if there is porn involved then I think about the girl.

As for during sex... I can't remember.... it's been so long hahaha

you're a 14 year old girl. you shouldn't know this much unless you've had a LOT of experience. slut.

lulz²

I usually focus on myself. His pleasure is guaranteed and easy, so why not focus on myself?

Sex: I focus on her pleasure.

Wanking: Not on her pleasure, per se, but more on the degree to which she is degraded.

When I was into girls I found the sex was more intimate or something. I think this is because with girl on girl sex you have to rely on eachother get get off. The more you please your girl the more she'll be willing to please you, ya know?


I'm pretty sure this applies to men too. Give your man a blowjob once in a while.

Always him, unless I'm being really lazy

emotionally empty sex is always a let down.

This is a LIE.
DO NOT believe it.