Which do you think is better, in terms of getting girls and just life in general?

I'd say I'm an inherently laid-back guy, but I'm finding that I'm growing fond of aggressiveness and directness. It legitimately feels good. I notice that most people are pretty passive and quiet about things, but occasionally there's a person that always stands tall and tells people what he wants. There are definitely merits in both...being light-hearted and not taking things seriously is an inherently peaceful and enjoyable lifestyle, but being powerful can also be a rush in and of itself.

What do you think is better?

And the ideal examples of each extreme, IMO: Let's say Jim from The Office (ie. passive, sarcastic, likeable) and Tony Soprano (ie. aggressive, straightforward, authority-figure esque).

There's also some type of middle ground, which is like...loud, obnoxious (in my opinion) young guys that try to be funny, sarcastic, and overly aggressive about everything.

So, which are you, and/or what do you strive to be?

I'm direct, but laid-back.

passive agressive?

this isnt the A or B answer youre looking for...but as long as you act like who you are (be your goddamn self) and are comfortable and confident about it, it doesnt matter at all.

Which do you think is better, in terms of getting girls and just life in general?

I'd say I'm an inherently laid-back guy, but I'm finding that I'm growing fond of aggressiveness and directness. It legitimately feels good. I notice that most people are pretty passive and quiet about things, but occasionally there's a person that always stands tall and tells people what he wants. There are definitely merits in both...being light-hearted and not taking things seriously is an inherently peaceful and enjoyable lifestyle, but being powerful can also be a rush in and of itself.

What do you think is better?

And the ideal examples of each extreme, IMO: Let's say Jim from the office (ie. passive, sarcastic, likeable) and Tony Soprano (ie. aggressive, straightforward, authority-figure esque).

There's also some type of middle ground, which is like...loud, obnoxious (in my opinion) young guys that try to be funny, sarcastic, and overly aggressive about everything.

So, which are you, and/or what do you strive to be?

I am a giant mean laid back person.

That sure as hell isn't true. Are you saying people can't naturally be obnoxious, annoying pieces of shit?

I mean, being comfortable and confident is great, but that isnt synonymous at all with "being one's self".

hardass

very very laid back.
im just livin and havin a good time.

dont fuck with me though because i have a short temper :)

laid back

i save my energy for things that matter

it's better to watch people from the edges before you join in with them... you learn more than you'd think

It all depends on what mood I'm in and what personality I am at the time.

Generally.. laid back.

I can employ some confrontational tactics at times though.

I tend to be more laid back about everything, though if someone gets on my nerves, I won't hesitate to get agressive towards them.

During my teenage years I was very bitchy. If someone crossed me, there were no second chances, there was no listening to their side, it was fuck off. It was my way or the highway. If someone pissed me off, they were out of my life. The pros to this attitude was no one ever took advantage of me. I've got this alpha-female thing going on so I've never had a lot of girlfriends and my best friends have always been male (that started when I was 14).

Then some shit went down between people I cared about, I started smoking a lot, and I chilled out. WAY out. Too much. My ex would freak out over shit and I was the one who always had to stay calm. He'd low-blow with the insults and I had to treat him like a child throwing a tantrum. By trying to be "adult and mature" I ended up letting him emotionally walk all over me, whereas before his ass would've been grass within a month. After that relationship I realized I was letting others get the best of me by giving them a hundred million chances after fucking me over.

Now I'm trying to find that middle ground. I'm still extremely laid back when it comes to working with my coworkers, I go with the flow. I'm horrible at babysitting, because I've got this "Whatever, dude" attitude. It's not like I don't have opinions, it's just I reserve the passion to stand up for them for more important things rather than going totally ape shit over whether we're eating at PF Changs or Stir Crazy.

I'm laid back and it takes alot to piss me off, i don't get angry at little things that arn't worth getting aggressive or angry over, but if its something major and it effects me directly or someone i care about then the 'hardass' comes out and causes mayhem, then i go back to being laid back and not caring about much, controlled aggression, not going fucking mental and losing control of yourself, if you can switch it on and off when you want then you're onto a winner mentally.

I'm a bad mutha fucka. It says so on my wallet.

Both, ...lots of cream lots of sugar.

Laid back all the way. Strong and silent type, suave, smooth, cool. Chillin... No need to get worked up, it's all good.

I'm both. I'm an asshole but I can be chill unless you piss me off. Like I can be nice to a girl but if she says the wrong thing i'll tell her to go fuck herself. And i'll be nice when people introduce me to their buddies but if their just twats or I don't like em i'll usually end up punching them in the mouth.

i am a head with no screws in it.

emotionally fucked to a point that im just ultimately confused about everything that has to do with myself.

im in a rut.

i used to be laid-back, now im off the handle for no apparent reason.

it feels good to be crazy sometimes, sometimes i just want to go back to my normal life.

very very laid back.
im just livin and havin a good time.


This is pretty much me^.

What are the "off the handle" incidents like?

When you say hardass you mean like this:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4JMOh-cul6M

I am a laid back guy, but if some comes acting like big shit, trying to show off, and look hard, that pisses me off. And I can't let some body punk me, I just hate when someone tries to make you look like a bitch because they think you won't do anything.

Yeah, but I don't try to act a certain way in front of a girl, if its just a one night thing its ok, but what if you really like the girl and want to stay with her? You have to pretend you are something your not forever or loose a good find. If a girl doesn't like my personality she can fuck off, I don't want to be with anyone that has a problem with the way I am.

I said that's the obnoxious type. There are ways to be tough without being obnoxious and stupid. Like I said, the Tony Soprano character pulls off what I'm talking about pretty well. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7TgPBivcubU

Totally laid back. I'm one of the most chill guys you'll ever meet. I haven't been in a fight since 5th grade. Been in a few confrontations but that's about it. I don't see the point in fighting with people, doesn't prove a whole lot and actually makes you look like an immature idiot to people who aren't also losers.

I'm laid back. No one gives me shit, so I can avoid pretty much any confrontation. And I'm attractive and confident so girls pretty much just fall into my lap.

Too laid back for my own good but I always speak in a very blunt and direct matter.

- ♫.i.b.y.v.n.t.h.♫

Too laid back for my own good.

- ♫.i.b.y.v.n.t.h.♫

This, Makes me counter phobic somewhat, so I'm ambitious and looking for a hard lifestyle.

This, Makes me counter phobic somewhat, so I'm ambitious and looking for a hard lifestyle.

That.

I am pretty morose and apathetic; which somehow comes off as a cool confidence. I have absolutely no temper, you just can't make me angry. I don't know why, I just really can't be bothered to get upset about pretty much anything, never have seen the point in it.

Of course this lead to games of "lets see if we can piss him off" which left me pretty fucked up in my younger years, I did blow up a few times, nearly killing a kid. But that is kind of expected with "I don't like to talk about it" types.\

Upside being, I generally don't talk a lot unless I actually have something to say; so when I do talk, people listen. Also less than a dozen people have ever heard me raise my voice, so when I do, it scares the shit out of people.

Though some people just assume I am always baked out of my skull.

I think I'm more glacial, with ice cold streams of water flowing throughout.

I don't know. I'm both at different times. Around strangers I'm more of a hardass but once I get to know you I'm very laid back and cool.

Was gonna say the same.

If I have a problem with something, I will make it known and work towards a solution. Verbally.
If the verbal route doesn't work, I steam in and do bad things.

Having said that though, I can be a very laid back guy and let a lot of things roll off my back with a simple "Ah, fuck it. Who gives a shit?"

Depends on the situation.

Hmm you were in a fight in 5th grade, and been in a few confrontations. You are NOT one of the most chill guys I'll ever meet. So don't lie about it.

I'm far too laid back for my own good. To the point of not actually objecting when I don't like something. I mean, if it really bothers me then I'll bring it up. I just really hate confrontation.

I think it's hilarious that pretty much all of you (Totseans) are "really laid-back". Pwned.

It's the copious amounts of pot which we've all smoked.

But yea, I am really laid back, apathetic, and as long as something doesn't directly cause harm to me, then I really don't care.

Personally, I don't see it as a bad quality. But hey.

Personally, I don't see it as a bad quality. But hey.

Well, there's undoubtedly lots of asocial, shy, passive guys on Totse, and they'd surely describe themselves as "laid-back". So...lulz.

Well, there's undoubtedly lots of asocial, shy, passive guys on Totse, and they'd surely describe themselves as "laid-back". So...lulz.

Ahhh, now I see what you mean. Lulz.

Pretty much my life in a nutshell. I get kind of annoyed when people think I am stoned though, usually only smoke on weekends and occasionally after school.

The "let's see if we can piss him off" thing does suck though.

- ♫.i.b.y.v.n.t.h.♫

Well, there's undoubtedly lots of asocial, shy, passive guys on Totse, and they'd surely describe themselves as "laid-back". So...lulz.

I suppose it's all relative, but regardless of relativity, balance it always the same. Which is why I stressed the importance of it. For instance, just because your asocial and shy doesn't negate the fact that you're laid-back. Some people hold back, but that's doesn't make them laid back, they still intense emotion, so in that respect, it would make them a hard ass, just not outwardly.

What I'm trying to say if you can't really make that assumption just by one referring to themselves as laid back. As far as the cut-throat business I'm in goes, I'm pretty laid back, others might disagree.

I suppose it's all relative, but regardless of relativity, balance it always the same. Which is why I stressed the importance of it. For instance, just because your asocial and shy doesn't negate the fact that you're laid-back. Some people hold back, but that's doesn't make them laid back, they still intense emotion, so in that respect, it would make them a hard ass, just not outwardly.

What I'm trying to say if you can't really make that assumption just by one referring to themselves as laid back. As far as the cut-throat business I'm in goes, I'm pretty laid back, others might disagree.

Shut up.

Shut up.

No, you shut up!

i am normally pretty relaxed to the point of not caring but i have my limits like anyone else this used to lead my friends to try and get a rise out of me normally i dont react to it but one guy took it too far (insulting my family is the one thing you do not do) he got woken up by me and my Stihl MS 180 chainsaw at about three in the morning other than that i try to avoid any unnecessary violence (some violence is always necessary)

Balance is a good thing.

Strive to be? Lol, funny someone like yourself is so fixated on power.

That sure as hell isn't true. Are you saying people can't naturally be obnoxious, annoying pieces of shit?

I mean, being comfortable and confident is great, but that isnt synonymous at all with "being one's self".

No one would be obnoxious if everyone had good parenting.

laid back

i save my energy for things that matter

it's better to watch people from the edges before you join in with them... you learn more than you'd think

Yeah, and imagine how much information you would get from THE INSIDE!?!? Oh my god...did I just blow your mind? Sorry, take my dick out of your mouth.

During my teenage years I was very bitchy. If someone crossed me, there were no second chances, there was no listening to their side, it was fuck off. It was my way or the highway. If someone pissed me off, they were out of my life. The pros to this attitude was no one ever took advantage of me. I've got this alpha-female thing going on so I've never had a lot of girlfriends and my best friends have always been male (that started when I was 14).

Then some shit went down between people I cared about, I started smoking a lot, and I chilled out. WAY out. Too much. My ex would freak out over shit and I was the one who always had to stay calm. He'd low-blow with the insults and I had to treat him like a child throwing a tantrum. By trying to be "adult and mature" I ended up letting him emotionally walk all over me, whereas before his ass would've been grass within a month. After that relationship I realized I was letting others get the best of me by giving them a hundred million chances after fucking me over.

Now I'm trying to find that middle ground. I'm still extremely laid back when it comes to working with my coworkers, I go with the flow. I'm horrible at babysitting, because I've got this "Whatever, dude" attitude. It's not like I don't have opinions, it's just I reserve the passion to stand up for them for more important things rather than going totally ape shit over whether we're eating at PF Changs or Stir Crazy.

Shut up.........news flash your case IS NOT UNIQUE!

I'm both. I'm an asshole but I can be chill unless you piss me off. Like I can be nice to a girl but if she says the wrong thing i'll tell her to go fuck herself. And i'll be nice when people introduce me to their buddies but if their just twats or I don't like em i'll usually end up punching them in the mouth.

I bet you have a vagina.

When you say hardass you mean like this:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4JMOh-cul6M

I am a laid back guy, but if some comes acting like big shit, trying to show off, and look hard, that pisses me off. And I can't let some body punk me, I just hate when someone tries to make you look like a bitch because they think you won't do anything.

Yeah, but I don't try to act a certain way in front of a girl, if its just a one night thing its ok, but what if you really like the girl and want to stay with her? You have to pretend you are something your not forever or loose a good find. If a girl doesn't like my personality she can fuck off, I don't want to be with anyone that has a problem with the way I am.

Lol, I've seen that clip before, funny as shit!

I suppose it's all relative, but regardless of relativity, balance it always the same. Which is why I stressed the importance of it. For instance, just because your asocial and shy doesn't negate the fact that you're laid-back. Some people hold back, but that's doesn't make them laid back, they still intense emotion, so in that respect, it would make them a hard ass, just not outwardly.

What I'm trying to say if you can't really make that assumption just by one referring to themselves as laid back. As far as the cut-throat business I'm in goes, I'm pretty laid back, others might disagree.

God, shut uP!

Shut up.

LOL!!!!! Mother fucker posts the same shit as me, right after I quoted it.

No, you shut up!

You are so blah...

You get the most girls by being as psychopathic and narcissistic as possible.

This is a fact.

No, you shut up!

By the way, I hope you didn't interpret my "Shut up." as a form of agreement. If I were Hitler, I would have had you executed for being obnoxious and missing the point. True story.

People that are asocial and shy usually are nervous in social situations, not legitimately laid-back and relaxed. My point was that someone who was asocial and shy would probably describe themselves as "laid-back" (ie. certainly not aggressive), and I found it lulzy that just about everyone on Totse was describing themselves as laid-back.

But I digress, shut up.

Oh you ready to blow? Well Im a mushroom cloud laying mutherfucka..muthfucker everytime my fingers touch brain im superfly TNT.....

I've been a very laid back person for a while.. Well recently i've become more hardass and i think it attracts more people in general not just girls, but you know my niggas to chill with and blaze with. More respect.

By the way, I hope you didn't interpret my "Shut up." as a form of agreement. If I were Hitler, I would have had you executed for being obnoxious and missing the point. True story.

People that are asocial and shy usually are nervous in social situations, not legitimately laid-back and relaxed. My point was that someone who was asocial and shy would probably describe themselves as "laid-back" (ie. certainly not aggressive), and I found it lulzy that just about everyone on Totse was describing themselves as laid-back.

But I digress, shut up.

Blubbedy, blub blub, blah blah.

Lemme put my hater-blockers on.

Blubbedy, blub blub, blah blah.

Lemme put my hater-blockers on.

Lol........you know this bitch hurts deep down.

There's nothing better than being a man who can do what he wants.

no, passive aggressive is totally indirect...like for instance, you say sure sure to everything someone asks you to do, but you do it really badly on purpose. A direct person would just say fuck off.

I am a laid back hardass.