I have realized over time that sex is highly overrated. Before jumping to conclusions and saying stuff like "OMG THATS JUST 'CAUSE YOU NEVER GET ANY", please read the following. I have a pretty active sexlife, probably more so than many others on totse and people my age (although that's not saying much since most totseans are internet-addicted thirteenyearolds). I have sex regularly, and with different partners.

I'm not in a serious relationship now, and haven't really ever been, hence I mostly sleep around. I have, over the last two months had one onenightstand and two fuckbuddys or "friends with benefits", one who I, although I'm not proud of it, probably took advantage of since she had feelings for me that were not mutual. The other has a boyfriend so I have no qualms about doing her. Anyway, lets get to the point.

I don't know if I have a low sexdrive, but sex for me isn't really that interesting. Sure it's fun and so on, but mostly it's just sweaty and exhausting work for a payoff that (I'm sorry ladies) I can get much faster with my own right hand.

The real issue here is that I become a real asshole after I cum. The truth is that, even though I like pleasing a girl for the satisfaction it gives to me (I.E making her orgasm), after I cum I have no interest what so ever in the girl. None. In fact, she's just annoying me. No, I don't like sleeping in the same bed as her, I don't like waking up with her there, and I sure as hell don't like sharing breakfast with anyone. And I have trouble hiding it. And the girls I currently have sex with aren't bad either.. Hell, one of them even has a goddamn french maid suit. But still, after I cum all I really want to do is watch some tv, take a cigarette and relax. And I don't want to talk to you. You guys have this too? I realize that if I were to be in love with a girl the situation would probably be different, but I'm not, and it isn't. So there.

In the words of Dave Chapelle (and this really applies to me), "Suck his dick, play with his balls, fetch him a sandwich and don't talk so much".

well depends on your age, but just take a break from that scene for a while. the funny thing about sex is, the less you get it the more you want it and viceversa.(which is fairly true for the totse age group)

Oh, well I still enjoy the psychological validation I get from sex, and of course it's pretty nice, during.

Um, I don't know exactly what you want to know or hear.

I was going to go on about how sex with someone you love is entirely different from sex with someone you don't but you seem to have that down.

I'm not like that after sex though, I love to cuddle/make out and to me, her pleasure is more important then mine.
I also LOVE sleeping in bed with a girlfriend, I sleep a lot better too.

Maybe your just anti-social in general or that's just how you are after sex. Maybe you should take a break from the casual stuff and get into a relationship, I mean, only if you actually wanted to.

Anyways I know there are guys who are the same way as you after sex. I hear my brother is one of them (His first ex talks to me a lot, at least until recently when she said something and I decided it was best to create some space between us)

I have no clue what you're talking about, women are amazing. If it were possible, I'd hang out with only women. After sex, I love cuddling with them, even if it meant nothing and was just casual. One of my favorite things to do is sleep next to my wife. To me, you just seem to have a block with emotionally connecting with women, and that kind of saddens me.

http://www.reuniting.info/science/two_types_of_libido
http://www.sacred-texts.com/sex/index.htm
http://sacred-sex.org/

etc etc

Actually your problem is pretty simple, you have sex with people you don't care about. Of course it is going to be unfulfilling you have no attachment to these women other than a physical one. And that also explains why you want nothing to do with them when after you get off.

A psychologist might surmise that an important relationship with a women in your life was dysfunctional and left you scared and afraid to emotionally invest in other women. (probably you mother). I don't know about the mom part, but I bet the rest is true.

Sex != Lovemaking

Sex is just sex sometimes. Fucking is just fucking. That's the way things are and will ever be.

I can't say anything about loving someone and having sex with them or whatever because I have never loved anybody.

I think sex is awesome... I'm in a long term relationship with a really horny girl (which is cool) and sex just gets better with time. Sometimes it's rough and just fucking, sometimes it's slow and it's a really emotional, sensual experience.

I feel the same way. I've gone after girls putting my whole heart into it, just to go home that very day, jerk off, and totally forget women until the next day. If it wasn't for sexual needs, I would probably never talk to girls, they do not stimulate me intellectually or spiritually, only physically and even that is temporary. It's just like any other addiction, only this one we're born with.

THe people who say things like "WOMEN ARE AMAZING" etc, are the ones who don't get any. Once you get it you figure it its pretty gay, and women are truly a waste of time unless you get lucky and find that 1 in a million.

THe people who say things like "WOMEN ARE AMAZING" etc, are the ones who don't get any.

Not necessarily, the ones who say that are people who have had awesome experiences and good relationships. Who have learned to appreciate women through being with a good one.

I remember when I was younger hearing old women saying all men are dogs, even chicks my own age saying all guys are stupid, blah, blah, blah. I couldn't help but think "Well that's because YOU have obviously done something wrong, REPEATEDLY to think that!" I never had a negative thought about a gender as passionately as a lot have, because I had an AMAZING boyfriend. I knew there were some out there who didn't serve to be lumped up with all the other assholes just because they were a guy.

To the OP, what could remedy your situation is to refrain from sex until you find someone who really moves you. If you don't mind your situation and don't care to fix it, that's up to you, but you'll be up shit creek if/when that special girl does make an appearance in your life and you've psychosexually slayed yourself.