A friend of mine really wants this girl. He's always telling me what he wants to do to her and so on. What he doesn't know is that the girl and I are somewhere between dating and fuckbuddies.

He doesn't know this because all three of us work together. The girl and I agreed to keep things quiet to avoid hassles. Our work is pretty much a gossip factory.

He's been asking my advice on how best to get this girl into bed, asking what I think she'd be like etc... Keeping my promise to stay silent is getting more and more difficult.

Another concern is how it'll make him feel if he finds out. He'd be feeling a little miffed to say the least.

So, any thoughts or questions &T?

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I lol'd, but it's not really an option I'd consider.

That's a sticky situation. Have you spoken to the girl in question?

Depends who you like more. The guy or the girl?


If you had to chose, which would it be?

Often situations like this become a case of all or nothing.


//There's no problem so complicated you cant solve it by killing absolutely everyone involved.


Just an idea.

You should of told your friend when it first happened, he is going to be upset with you no matter what, and you are going to have to let him get over it.

Depends who you like more. The guy or the girl?


If you had to chose, which would it be?

Often situations like this become a case of all or nothing.


//There's no problem so complicated you cant solve it by killing absolutely everyone involved.


Just an idea.

Shut up, your violent nature is disgusting when observed through the insecurities of a little girl. Just pipe down and stay in the back twiddling your thumbs while wondering why you stink.

carbon B if shes the insecure one, how come your the one that always ends up being hostile for no reason.

It seems like that's just how he communicates man, I don't think it has too much to do with any insecurities he has, if anything to do with it.

OP: Have you talked to the girl about it? You should tell her your going to tell him but you'll ask him to not spread it around, hope she doesn't stop liking you for this.
Then you should go to your friend and straight up tell him the whole situation. Including why you didn't tell him, maybe that should come first.

He will almost definitely be pissed at you about it and possibly embarrassed about all the shit he's said to you about liking her while you were fucking her but I don't care if you're scared of that, you have to tell him because there's only a few things that could happen from this point:

1. You want to start really dating her and it will become obvious, then he knows and it would hurt more then telling him now because you've been hiding it for longer and it should be less of a surprise.

2. You stop messing around with her. This gives him a chance to, if she even wanted to, date her or something. If they started dating then he could likely find out that you were with her first because she could feel like she had to tell him or something like a slip of the tongue. If she doesn't date him then the same thing might happen anyways and he'll find out.

3. You continue the slyness and stay undercover and hope he never catches on, in which case your being a pretty huge asshole to you mate. Plus if he does catch on it will be even worse then option #1 because it's clear that you were just keeping him out of the loop.

4. Somehow he never finds out that it happened/happening and you'll feel guilty for a long ass time/rest of your life depending on how long your with her.

So go be a friend to your friend, let him know.

I've spoken to the girl about it. She says that while she'd prefer I didn't, she wouldn't be angry with me if I told him. The problem with this is that my friend CANNOT keep his mouth shut. He'd tell someone, who'd tell someone and so on. Everyone we work with would know by lunchtime.

If you care at all about this girl, you would not let your friend get involved with her. He sounds like a complete asshole who is only looking to get sex. She doesn't deserve that, plus you are already involved with her which would make it really awkward. You don't want to be sleeping with the same girl your friend is for multiple reasons. Why did you even ask this question to totse, you are a moron.

Don't tell him.

I think you may have misunderstood...