So I've been researching how to get rid of fetishes, but it's not completely helpful as of right now, but I'll try to keep looking some more.

Anyways, I have a rape fetish. I enjoy sex, without thinking about rape, but I need to think about it to cum. This has made it so that I have never cum while having sex, and only once in my entire life have I cum while masterbating without thinking about rape, and even then I was ridiculously high.

So anyways, this is really starting to distress me. I've tried not thinking about it, but then I just can't cum, no matter how long I try, and how focused I'm trying to be. Also, I'm worried that my future sexual partners will never be happy with me if they cannot make me cum (a slight issue in my last relationship).

I do not believe in psychoanalytical psychology (freud was just so wrong in so many things, and even though it's been modernized, I do not believe that I'm holding on to some supressed memory than can be accessed through my subconscious, that once discovered, can be treated). I have tried practicing some cognitive principles, but even so, it's proved to be ineffective.

What's really weird about this fetish is that I watch straight rape... and I'm pretty much gay, so it just makes no sense whatsoever, I just don't get it.

Basically I just want some tips anyone might have, before I consider some serious options such as actual therapy for this problem.

Ludovico technique.

yes, yes, we've all seen A Clockwork Orange

What sex are you? Were you raped?

yes, yes, we've all seen A Clockwork OrangeBook is better. But it works dude. My dog is scared shitless of the bathroom. Ipecac + pics of "forbidden" rooms = one well behaved dog.

I'm a girl. Never been raped.

Like I could try to analyze myself right now. I mean I was always really afraid of sex with guys. Like I'd like making out and stuff, but when it came down to sex or even blowjobs, I would get very insecure and worry that I would suck and that they'd make fun of me for being so bad. I mention this because one of the parts of rape I like (actually I go through phases within rape of what aspect of it turns me on the most) but I mainly like the disrespect, and the women being objects for the taking. I wonder if these two things are connected in that if I was being taken, I wouldn't be expected to be good or bad, it would be a moot point. I don't know if this is an accurate guess, or me just making things up.

When it came to girls, I could fuck one right now and not be nervous or insecure (well not more than what would be normal). Also in no way would lesbian rape turn me on, actually it kinda repulses me.

The only minimal amount of sexual abuse I would say is that my brother went through this phase of saying overtly sexual things to me. Kinda like sexual harassment. This was when we were pretty young, like 12 maybe, but it always really upset me, and then I would lash out and him and start a fight with him, and then I would get in trouble with my parents because I started a fight, but I just wanted him to stop saying things to me.

Anyways... if that provides any insight, but I'm not necessarily convinced that either of those things would be a cause of my fetish.

The obvious thing you need to do is to be raped. Here is a quick story.

I had an obsession with loose stretched pussies, or giving a bitch a loose pussy, like fisting and inserting huge objects in their vagina. This went on for about 5-6 months, until I actually got several women to let me do this to them, and about a month later, it became no big deal to me. I mean I really had to try hard to cum while masturbating unless I was looking at fisting videos or huge dildo videos. Now, it is no problem, no big deal.

This is why you need to be raped.

ALSO, if you are a girl, you cannot 'fuck' another girl. I fucking hate when bi/lesbo bitches say "oh i fucked this bitch last night". NO, you didnt. You dont have a penis you fucking penis envying cunt.

get a girl who wants to have a rape fantasy :)
should be fun eh?

I had a very similar problem that I went through (different fetish however), i figured it out and it hasn't been much of an issue, however i don't really want to discuss it here so close to the fact, you may email msn me if you wish to hear more. (assuming my address is on this profile)

Edit: it's not! oceantrash1987@hotmail.com

There is only one solution - HAWT LESBIAN RAEP PR0N NAO PLOX!!!!!!

Once you've posted this, we'll be in a much better position to assist you. Alternately, you could just flood your body with a shitload of tryptophan for those 'sexual side effects,' or... you could just embrace it. Find a boyfriend, not put out on account of the whole 'lesbian' thing, drag wymmynz home for your mutual gratification, get really, really cool pix of your dungeon posted on IFIOTW in a few years... the fame would be more than worth it.

So, uhh... do you picture yourself as the man a-raeping, the woman being raped, or just some innocent bystander who walked past a raep on the street and sat down to whack the female weasel on the sidewalk like a responsible citizen?

He's right about this. Now it's not exactly something to condone but, by experiencing it several times over it's bound to become boring to you. So several things may happen:

A. You'll like it, it'll become boring. After several times (same scenario over and over can become boring)

B. It'll suck so bad you'll never want anything to do with getting raped/raping someone.

C. You'll like it and it won't become boring, in this case it's likely to progress down even worse roads until option B happens (Think torture fantasies..now think of that happening to you..doesn't sound much fun).

D. You'll like it, and it won't become boring, it'll progress down worse roads and get REALLY bad. What's likely happen is what happened to that dumb woman a few years back who hired someone to torture her to death. So option D is death. Which is probably bad.

Pick your poison.

If it is a serious fetish, then chances are, you're stuck with it for life.

Here's a solution: Think about being raped while fucking?

Or does that make you feel bad? If it does. Get over it. If thinking about raping a woman was the only way I could ejaculate, I'd think about raping a woman. Thoughts != actions. This is a feeble problem.

I have the same fetish. i love the idea of being tied down and being forced to take it from a stranger, without him caring who I am and totally just treating me like a whore. seriously turns me on. i suppose feminists would say im very twisted but i dont think its that uncommon...all my friends joke about rape lol.

u=perfect gf

cmon a girl who wants to be used as an object and disrespected

no shopping,shoes or going out to eat right?

wait are u hot?

It is actually quite common. It's probably a throwback to our ancestral days, before laws of consent even existed.

wait are u hot?

Think you missed the part where she said "I'm gay"

I've read that a couple times... this kinda distresses me because........

Here's a solution: Think about being raped while fucking?

Or does that make you feel bad? If it does. Get over it. If thinking about raping a woman was the only way I could ejaculate, I'd think about raping a woman. Thoughts != actions. This is a feeble problem.

.......... The problem therein lies that when I am being fucked, my attention is diverted. I'm thinking about the guy/girl i'm hooking up with, and I can't think about the rape, or if I can it's not focused enough. I have to be completely focused on the rape to cum, so i've tried thinking about it very hard while fucking, I just can't completely dispel reality in that I'm with someone and I want to make them feel good, etc etc.

The thing is it was a long uphill battle for me to feel any sexual pleasure. Actually in terms of my sexuality, because when people touch me it's not all that great feeling, I wonder if that's where part of my preference for women comes in.

It's as though as a woman I fail, but if I start to pleasure another girl then it's like I've left the role that I feel like I have failed at, because I can't even let someone make me feel pleasure, and I take on a new role that makes me a equal in the sex because I also feel good by making them feel good, which basically makes up for their inability to please me.

It's gotten to the point where you could all say "just stop thinking about it, really just engage in the sex and eventually it'll start to feel good" but I've been trying that for like 3 years and no luck... it's just so distressing

It's gotten to the point where you could all say "just stop thinking about it, really just engage in the sex and eventually it'll start to feel good" but I've been trying that for like 3 years and no luck... it's just so distressing

Not that I'm trying to sound all discouraging or anything, but I have noticed that it has gotten nothing but worse for me over time. Whenever I would try to just absorb myself in the moment and enjoy the regular sex for what it is, I'd start to lose my erection, so I would have to concentrate even harder on my fetish in order to continue fucking, which would become a habit that would only strengthen itself over prolonged use.

So, yeah, I've just given up on even trying to fix it.

But that's obviously not a solution, so... Hopefully there is one out there.

get them to "rape" you
problem solved

pics plz

You know what would be HILARIOUS? Have all the women who say that they want to be raped, actually get raped by a fat stinky homeless bum, and beat the shit out of you and everything. A month later, you find out that you are pregnant with the bums kid and that you now are HIV pos.

H I L A R I O U S!

I've read that a couple times... this kinda distresses me because........



.......... The problem therein lies that when I am being fucked, my attention is diverted. I'm thinking about the guy/girl i'm hooking up with, and I can't think about the rape, or if I can it's not focused enough. I have to be completely focused on the rape to cum, so i've tried thinking about it very hard while fucking, I just can't completely dispel reality in that I'm with someone and I want to make them feel good, etc etc.

The thing is it was a long uphill battle for me to feel any sexual pleasure. Actually in terms of my sexuality, because when people touch me it's not all that great feeling, I wonder if that's where part of my preference for women comes in.

It's as though as a woman I fail, but if I start to pleasure another girl then it's like I've left the role that I feel like I have failed at, because I can't even let someone make me feel pleasure, and I take on a new role that makes me a equal in the sex because I also feel good by making them feel good, which basically makes up for their inability to please me.

It's gotten to the point where you could all say "just stop thinking about it, really just engage in the sex and eventually it'll start to feel good" but I've been trying that for like 3 years and no luck... it's just so distressing

You need help above and beyond what a human can provide you. And as hopeless as that may seem, invisible beings that have no physical evidence to back their existence tend to help us out without attaching strings to their gifts. If you don't catch what I'm saying...well shit, you're dense.

This isn't to say read the Bible and convert to the mindless mass, or any shit like that. Spirituality has effected incredible changes in people's minds that has led to revamped and rejuvenated personalities capable of overcoming, with ease, problems which once seemed completely unsolvable.

When we and those around us are completely incapable of helping, we have two options: sink into despair or seek help from something we cannot understand. It's a sort of fear facing journey...I dunno though. Maybe give it a try? It worked for me, and I know thousands of others for whom it has worked.

I apologize if this comes off as me trying to push my beliefs on you, it's not my intention to do so. I'm really just trying to share what effected this magnitude of change within my self so that you may know there is hope even when mankind fails us completely.

I feel it's more important to have faith in your self, and in tangeable people and humanity than some god. Though I feel like some principles of religion can help with that, I do not agree with believing in a higher powers ability to save us. Because when seeking to better yourself, this is at least proven to be something that works, and either way, you are not relying on something that may never come. Every day should have some benefit, some goal, some betterment. In many ways I try to live as though this would be my last day on earth, and I should always do something that betters my life, which is something I largely succeed in. Of course this how fetish thing is at a standstill, but it is such a small part of my life, so to give up on my ideals and surrender my self to a higher power, when in the majority of my life such is not necessary, I feel would be a massive betrayal to myself. But I do acknowledge your sentiment Hex, and I don't feel like you're pushing.

Anyways, from this topic I have realized I just have to keep living and see what I can do proactively by trying new things.

Also to the people saying "get raped" and "what if all girls who wanted to get raped should get raped" I never once said I wanted to be raped.

Actually someone asked a question do you think about being raped, being the rapist, or just passing by watching in the street... I was going to ignore that question because I didn't think the intentions of the asker were honest. But to answer it, it's neither. Actually watching in the street is not an image I like... it's as though I'm watching a video on my computer. Which is what I'd be actually doing. So no I don't want to be raped. I don't want to be a rapist. While I'm watching I think "hey that guy is raping that chick, this is interesting"

Ah, fascination with power due to one's own lack of it.

I have that very problem. It's why I'm a pyro, nympho, alcoholic, and drug addict. I have a solution in my life today though that allows me to no longer commit arson, throw my self into mutilating relationships, drink, or drug.

Fire, sex, booze, and drugs...four very powerful things.

Dig into yourself a little bit. There's a power source inside of every human that can accomplish what would be considered a miracle by those of religious leanings. Religious folks tend to call it a god. I don't care what you call it, Ojise, but if you want to get past this problem, you'll need it. You don't have to look to others, or to the sky, or to some mystical realm. It's right inside of you...figure out what's blocking you off from it so you can use it.

What I'm saying here isn't an easy task. It is a life long journey into your own being...it starts with the understanding that you need to take the journey, seconds with the understanding that the destination is genuine happiness, thirds with the decision to partake in the journey. What follows is an examination of your every being...who and what you are, why you tick the way you do, whom you've helped, whom you've harmed, doing what you can to set right the wrongs you've done, finding a purpose that's right for you, and doing what you can to help those who ask for help.

I swear by this journey, and would wager my very life upon its effectiveness. It's brought me out of homelessness, drugs, drink, suicidal depression, crippling loneliness, and complete despair.

If you don't wish to take it, just keep it in mind young woman; one day you might just find that as many paths as you have traveled down, they all have led to unavoidable misery. This one, I assure you, does not.

I apologize if this comes off as me trying to push my beliefs on you, it's not my intention to do so.

The path to Hell is paved with good intentions.......you're one step closer


On thread topic, you could try having like 3/4 guys at the same time..it might make you feel used..something like you're hoping for??? It'd be fairly easy to get guys to do that probably, so go for it.

Post Pics after k?

"The path to Hell is paved with good intentions.......you're one step closer"

And you're one step closer to being brain dead. Literally and figuratively. :D A fun thought for you, pal.

Explain please.

By using a quote, I'm degenerating my brain....yeah, sounds about right


And I'm not your pal.

Actually someone asked a question do you think about being raped, being the rapist, or just passing by watching in the street... I was going to ignore that question because I didn't think the intentions of the asker were honest.

Gee, thanks. I suppose you realize that if I was a strict reciprocalist, that after lauding you for your epic troll of S&A, that I could just congratulate you on successfully fucking up every relationship you will ever, ever have?

Instead, I'll just ask you to explain how you expect the internets to brainstorm solutions to fit your life without the answer to that question. Go ahead, think about it, and let me know when you realize that there is no possible answer.

In your case, though, the answer doesn't exactly help that much. "Watching TV" certainly rules out roleplay, and most "strange combinations"... which... basically... means that you will either have to find a girlfriend who is very comfortable with the fact that you're only comfortable giving, rather than recieving, pleasure on account of your internalization of self-directed hatred regarding female sexuality...

...or, you're probably going to have to find a girlfriend who will let you watch TV while you get it on.

I'm guessing the former is easier. OTOH, openness is pretty vital for an ideal relationship, so you've probably got the task of finding a girlfriend who's happy with the latter. Have fun.

Hmm yea, I'm sorry JoePedo. I actually mean that. You know you're reading the new posts one after the other and then you reflect on all of them, so it kinda just got grouped together with the "go get raped" and I didn't look back to see that you weren't one of the ones advocating I put a sign on my back that says "rape me"