My girl loves me and I love her, but she is really insecure.

A couple of days ago she told me that she thinks we're not going to make it another year, that I deserve better because she's a bitch to me. She said she doesn't think that she is aroused by me anymore. She also doesn't like it when I touch her breasts, and I can't remember the last time she let me go down on her.

I believe that she is just being insecure caused by an increase in depression and anxiety. Does this sound like the case?

She is diagnosed with post traumatic stress syndrome and takes xannax when she has panick attacks and Celexa (citalopram) everyday. Sexual side affects is a listed adverse side affect of the Celexa, and I suggested that it may be caused by that.

Sex is obvious one of the most important factors to a relationship, and lately we have been lacking in that area. I'm going to try to change my behavior so that she'll be interested in me.

She wants to be happy and I want to make her happy. I'll admit, I'm a huge softy for her. I stay at her apartment almost every night, and I'm always tending to her needs.

I want to try to be more assertive, but it's just not in my nature. I also want to spend less time with her so that we don't get annoyed with each other and she wants me more.

Tell me if my ideas are good or not. What should I do to keep the romance up? How can I be more dominant? How can I make her happy?

First of all you need to get her aroused, make sure she's wearing socks/her feet are warm, is relaxed before you even initiate anything. Kiss her deeply and passionately, and touch everywhere except her breasts/ass/vagina, after a while of doing that slowly move in on the ass or breasts and take your time, go kiss everywhere except for her vagina and breats then go around them each time getting closer and closer.

if that doesn't turn her on i don't know what will.

Yes, that has always turned her on -- the slow and long foreplay technique.

Yet, it's odd, usually when we have sex she jumps right into it. If it's good, then it's good and there's no complaints, but if it's not then she says something like "I was just trying to please you." It's like she goes out of her way to have sex with me because she thinks thats what I want, even though I tell her again and again not to have sex with me just because she thinks thats what I want.

I think the writings on the wall man, unless you've been together a long ass time.

^^Over a year.

This isn't the first time this has happened. Once in the past, she told me that we were finished and at first I told her that she was acting irrational and didn't take her seriously. But when she told me to leave I got all teary eyed and once she saw that she hopped in my lap and cried and everything. She said "I'm sick [in the head], don't you get it?!"

lol she IS sick.

ur a pussy tho.....seriously why do you even want to be with a girl that tells you you don't complete/arouse her......thats whack, man.


remember, nice guys finish last.

I hate to break it to you, man, but once the sex goes out the window that's usually the end of the "loving" relationship. Sure, sex isn't everything, but it is a symptom of a happy couple. I suggest you break it off and let the girl do whatever it is that she wants to do.

All the best.

I have a similar relationship with my wife. She has some hardcore heart problems (on a double lung and heart transplant list for the last year or so) and takes a fist full of drugs every morning and night.


And she has NO sex drive. at all, ever in any way.

I am 20 years old and havent had sex with my wife in a very long time (month I think)

I love my wife though, and I dont regret marring her, but this is most defidently the hardest part of our relationship. It starts a lot of arguements. Mostly because she feels super guilty all the time.

If it looks like its goign to end up like this, think LONG and HARD about it to make sure you are up for it.

ok, depression doesn't make out for a good relationship. Myself, my dad, my baseball coach, and a couple friends have all discovered this the hard way. A girl who doesn't love herself cannot love someone else in a healthy way. A girl has to be happy to truly love someone and be happy in a relationship.

Ya, it sucks basically saying, "You're depressed, so I can't be with you." But it's the hard truth.

post traumatic stress syndrome from what?

^^^from her dad's death.

Oh, and she was PMSing. She's on her period now and so obviously makeup sex isn't happening, and she got really badly sunburned when we were laying out in the sun, so it's going to be that much longer before all this sexual tension gets released :(.

how did he die?

Multiple strokes. She was around 10 or 11 I think. It'd weird because my dad has had a stroke too.

what a whiny bitch. peoples dads die all the time.

your babying her to much, seriouasly. Sometimes you just have to start a fight to flare things up ex(bitch get me a beer) or (did you gain weight) seriously even now and then you got to MAN UP

If your that desperate start
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