In all the years I've been with totse I never would have asked anyone for their advice with relationships since I myself have always been the one helping others with that.


Here's my situation.

3 years ago I had a girl named maria, I loved her more then anyone I could have ever imagined loving. She broke up with me after 2 years, for an entire year I'm absalutely destroyed inside. So I finally meet this girl named Anastacia, she ends up being the only girl that breaks me off this morose pit I was put in. (anastacia is 30 by the way, maria is 17, and I'm 19.-Don't judge me off my own age.) So I ended up spiritually marrying her (no paperwork), and we got rings and everything.

I started smoking 420, this started to not make me care about anything-including her. I mean I cared about her still, but I just didn't commit to anything, not even calling her.

Now I'm going out with a girl named Dona, she's 35, but is better then maria and anastacia in every way since she's never lied to me, stuck with me even when I called her by my ex's name while I was drunk on new years eve, but she's moving to new york soon and were planning to become friends as soon as that happens.

Maria lives in san francisco, Anastacia lives in Chicago, and dona lives a few blocks away from me.

Maria doesn't really want anything to do with me, Anastacia broke up with me and started dating this other guy-broke up with him, and now wants me back, and after a week doesn't want anyone suddenly. And Dona still is devoted to me.

I loved maria the most.
I loved anastacia on a spiritual level more then anything.
And Dona I have to say is the best girlfriend I've ever had-but for some reason the previous feelings of the other relationships have been stopping me.

My relationship life is just so fucked up, and I just wanted to see what you people have to say about it.

on top of that I have a friends with benefits too, which honestly I don't feel comfortable with because I feel like I'm fucking dona over.

...wow...that's a lot of shit going on. But what exactly do you want advice on?

Man....ah man.


Woman are the fucking Pitts bro. Understandably.

But look, it seems to me that you should only focus on one thing right now and that is getting your shit together. All these girls...lose em man. Let Dona go if you can't commit to her. You need to start fresh and breathe anew. Quit the fucking weed, its only hurting you, and get your priorities straight. Lose the women, forget about it. Tell Dona you need to let go to get all your priorities straight and your life back on track. Tell her the truth, she should understand. And set your own self right. You gotta let go of these girls. When you've learned and cleansed yourself maybe you'll be ready to commit but right now...you don't need it. Move on, let go, figure out what you need to do to make your life better, and do it. Without restraints.

I just can't get over Maria fully, and ever since then I've had horrible attachment problems.

I stopped smoking as soon as anastacia left me.

I stopped smoking as soon as anastacia left me.

Start drinking.

/troll thread

This is small fucking problem, asshole.

This is a big problem to me because this is going to pose as to how the rest of my life is going to go.



Never in my life have I created a troll thread in all the years I've been signed up to totse.



Also drinking is horrible for you.

The guy I just quoted gave the best response, it's what I needed to hear basically. Thanks.