okay i have a bit of a problem.....well i made it into a problem.

So last time i was in a relationship was a year ago and it was a 5 year relationship. Ever since the breakup ive been hooking up with men but not in search of any form of boyfriend. This summer i became good friends with this guy from my job. We had so many things in common we both thought it was a lil freaky. We have been real good friends since and have been hooking up on occasion. Well i started to get crazy feelings for this guy... i wanted him to be mine.i wanted him to know how i felt.... that i really like him and want more. The other night we went to a bar and he revealed how he basically doesnt want any girlfriend...not necessarily me but he was speaking in general. I really really really like this man but i dont want to ruin our great friendship.... but i want him to know... he has absolutely no i dea on how i feel.. i never show it and he thinks i feel the same way towards relationships as he does, what should i do?

OK, DON'T EVER tell him your feelings, you are going to scare him and push him away by doing so.

He OBVIOUSLY doesn't want to be in a relationship, because he straight up TOLD you that.

The men are supposed to lead and take the first move, not the woman.

If he doesn't have emotional feelings for you, you're not doing a good enough job of seducing him.

The reason I think this is because I'm in a similar situation, except I'm the guy. I'm hooking up w/ my good friend a lot but were not mentioning feelings. I know that if she were to tell me she really liked me in a intimate romantic way, that would freak me out. Same if I told her that.

ALWAYS TELL PEOPLE HOW YOU FEEL!!!!

Jesus, what's the worst that could happen?

The men are supposed to lead and take the first move, not the woman.

Oh for fuck's sake...You gotta be shitting me right?!?!

Women...There's a little thing called "Equal rights" now...You don't pick and choose them. You accept all rights and responsibilities.
You want equal rights with men?...Then get your head out of your minge and fucking toughen up.
Else get back to the kitchen and make my dinner.

You sicken me dude.

To the OP...If he's quite plainly said that he's not up for a relationship so telling him he makes you feel all tingly and fuzzy inside will more than likely make him run to the hills.

I would suggest letting a little bit of feeling through every so often. Just a little at a time.
One big torrent will scare him away.

Do it little by little and let him get used to it.

Hope that helps.

I would suggest letting a little bit of feeling through every so often. Just a little at a time.
One big torrent will scare him away.

Do it little by little and let him get used to it.

Hope that helps.

Yea and itll be a waste of her time if hes not interested. Wont pickup on the signals.

What I would do is rely on basic reasoning. He says he doesn't want a relationship, and all this, but why is he going out with you to a Bar in the first place then? Companionship? I mean shit i wouldnt go to a bar with some girl I didnt feel a bit of affection or that i wasnt attracted to in some way. But thats just me, otherwise id be going there solo.

Actions speak louder than words......Ive been called out on a limb before and I had basically got a polygraph reading performed as my ass. I wouldnt admit, nor did i really show interest too much in this girl but then i walked into a trap and she did just what i said above...cant really respond besides beat around the bush till you get to the truth.

And respectable women let Men make the first move, otherwise its compromises their status, making them seem like a whore since they made the first move. Plus some girls wouldnt have the balls to pull some shit like that in the first place unless they were drunk or UI.