Alright... this may seems simple to some of you guys but im confused in all this and need somehelp.

So theres this girl. She tried talking to me on myspace for a while, i talked but never really got into it because she lived a ways away. (not to long but like 20-30 minutes, and i dont even have my license yet =/) anyway she moved to my high school about a week or 2 before christmas. She was shy in school but on the computer always talked to me and on the phone, so i decided id go up and start talking to her in school and i did whenever i got the chance to see her.

Well she had a boyfriend this whole time, not solid like on and off, but shes known him for like 2 years. Anyway even with the boyfriend she still said she liked me alot, and wanted to hook up with me. Well i eventually get fed up with her because she dicked me over and even after saying all this shit was still going strong with her boyfriend. So we stopped talking alot even after her begging me not to hate her and saying she still really likes me.

So i eventually cooled down and got on good talking terms with her again, although on the rare instences we talk now its more of a hi, bye thing. But the past two weekends in a row she has text me alot in one night asking me if i hate her, of which i responded no both times and her getting really happy and wanting to hang and shit(she says she was drunk one of the times). But i know for a fact shes got family problems and very often has to babysit her 2 year old sister, which doesnt leave her much time to hang out.

Anyway im just confused, i've never had a chick do this

well thanks for the opinions. And don't pull any punches i want to know whats going on here.

How old are you both? Also, I don't get the impression you want to be with her. Jealous boyfriends aren't a good thing either, so hanging out is dodgy. Keep updated.

Same age, 16, i know im young =p. And i do want to be with her but im getting such like mixed feelings i don't know if its worth investing when it looks like she might again dick me over.

And im not exactly worried about her boyfriend, i doubt hed do anything and she was the one to start talking to me first so i honestly don't feel bad about it

Wait till he's out of the picture, always.

She sounds particularly immature and disloyal, you need to get out of the situation. Remember that if she will try to get with and flirt with guys on myspace when she is with her current boyfriend, she will do the exact same to you if you ever become her boyfriend.

You could always try to just hit it and quit it, but that is your prerogative, and I wouldn't recommend even that.

I say go for it. Hook up. What have you got t lose?

I like your thinking.



And to the post above your probably right... =[

Why do teenagers think it's a crime for a girl to want someone to talk to and be friends with and not a sexual/romantic relationship?

You could always try to just hit it and quit it, but that is your prerogative, and I wholly recommend it.

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She sounds annoying. Kill her.

Becuase you know the guy wants to fuck the shit out of her.

Yes..

I understand that, but she said she thought i was cute, hott goodlooking w.e and said she wanted to hook up with me. Normally friends dont say this. lol


And sorry stab, as annoying as she is im not ready to kill yet.

Take him out of the picture, always.

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Sorry for the late reply, computer was down for a bit. But anyway the only update i have to offer is that i decided to start talking to her again but much more eh... conservative i guess...more like ill talk to her if she starts it but trying to not give her to much attention.

Idk it seems like a good idea to me but maybe its not, anyone ever try this before and get good, or bad results?

And yeah shes still got a boyfriend. Should i just stop talking to her all around and she breaks up with this kid? I mean id rather her not loose interest in me, because hhonestly i think shes really, well hot. But if nothings going to happen i guess this option would be for the best.

And sorry guys, i will not kill her or her boyfriend, moltov anything or kill myself.... i noticed these seemed to be some popular responses. but to those that are actually contrubuting to help thank you =]

Stop talking to her. She is using you for attention and to make herself feel hot. You will never get with her, ever. You are wasting your time. Find a girl who won't whore herself online.

i understand where your comming from, but what i don;t understand is that shes looking for attention wouldn't she being it to someone that gives her more of it?

And she went out of her way to try and find my myspace and get ahold of me months after she saw me for the first time, saying she thought i was really good looking, and hot...but it was our schools homecomming dance and she didn't have the courage to say anything to me then. If she just wanted attention this seems alittle overboard for me. But just incase does anyone have a good reason to second his theory? I might just be trying to denie it :(

I like this idea.

She sounds like an attention whore.
She'll tell you she really likes you, wants to hang out with you just so you'll be there lapping up all her bullshit, she'll probably begin to use you as her emotional tampon and keep you on the sidelines just in case her and her boyfriend break up, in which case you'll be all happy because you got the girl but her personality dictates that she will probably do the same thing to you!

Uncle Psycho's adivce: Tell her to stop fucking around and make a decision. Does she want you instead of her boyfriend or does she just want to be your friend? Plain. And. Simple.

hmmm well ok,lets get the facts down first

1) she thinks your hot and all that stuff

2) she shows some interest in you,but is in a what i think is a commited relationship

3) you think shes hot as well


now for the negatives


1) she seems more or less using you as a lifeboat at times,or so it would seem,or at least i assumed as much with her trying to keep you interested in her whilst letting you know vice versa[or at least i would assume shes usin the ol life boat routine,i could be wrong

2)has a bf

3)making moderate moves,but no relatively huge ones,which supports negative fact number one


now as for my advice upon this problem you have is simply keep her around let her know you still are interested but dont go out of your way to try and win her heart over,if she tries to express her feelings more then she has,let her know that you arent going to take that into consideration as long as shes with this one guy,and that youll be willing to make just the same moves if she can just get past the guy,or you could always date her if she doesnt mind cheating on the other guy if thats your sorta thing
but i wouldnt say shes a complete waste of time,never burn down bridges my friend,esp ones that might lead to a hookup and a relationship,i mean what can it really hurt if you dont make sacrifices,now if you do and you get nothing in return then it was all in vain
trust me from my expierience its better not to waste your energy when all youll get in return is a frown and a no thank you but nice try feeling

I think you summed up all the facts i had floating in my head as well as what ive been trying to do as a solution, thank you :).

Like you said, id rather not burn down the bridges because like you said, even if its 1 percent chance of it happening its better than telling her i dont even want to talk to her and destroying everything.
.....and ive simply been doing what you said.... not going out of my way for her, but with small nudges, compliments and just blunt out saying i think shes hot ive been telling her that, while im not fully into you... i still have something for you, and would do shit with you wen the time comes( atleast i hope thats the way shes been seeing it too lol)


BBBbuuuuuutttt..... im supposidly hanging out with her tomorrow...if shes free. I have a feeling that ill end up not even seeing her but idk maybe something will happen if she gives me some lame ass excuse or even if it is semi legitiment.....ill just tell her straight out, that i have something for her and tell her that its either me or her boyfriend. In all honesty i wouldn't really care if it was both of us... i know the guy and don't like him... but i also dont think he would do anything even if i fucked around with his girl....hes a scum, and doesn't have the balls to do anything, and even if he did i wouldnt be in over my head by a long shot so theres nothing to worry about there....


So my final question is.....can anyone tell me if this line of logic...and solution to my prediciment, ann ehhh good one??

Thanks again for the help guys

I think you summed up all the facts i had floating in my head as well as what ive been trying to do as a solution, thank you :).

Like you said, id rather not burn down the bridges because like you said, even if its 1 percent chance of it happening its better than telling her i dont even want to talk to her and destroying everything.
.....and ive simply been doing what you said.... not going out of my way for her, but with small nudges, compliments and just blunt out saying i think shes hot ive been telling her that, while im not fully into you... i still have something for you, and would do shit with you wen the time comes( atleast i hope thats the way shes been seeing it too lol)


BBBbuuuuuutttt..... im supposidly hanging out with her tomorrow...if shes free. I have a feeling that ill end up not even seeing her but idk maybe something will happen if she gives me some lame ass excuse or even if it is semi legitiment.....ill just tell her straight out, that i have something for her and tell her that its either me or her boyfriend. In all honesty i wouldn't really care if it was both of us... i know the guy and don't like him... but i also dont think he would do anything even if i fucked around with his girl....hes a scum, and doesn't have the balls to do anything, and even if he did i wouldnt be in over my head by a long shot so theres nothing to worry about there....


So my final question is.....can anyone tell me if this line of logic...and solution to my prediciment, ann ehhh good one??

Thanks again for the help guys



well i think its a sound plan,except maybe the ultimatum of ''if you arent with me then then i want nothin of ya,or feel anything for ya''or at least thats what i got from what you said

but yes if hes not goin to do anything about it and well then its open playing field if you really like her and what not,but you have to keep in mind she is going to see you tommorow and she has been telling you that she does in fact like you in a more then friend like way,now why this could be a bad thing is say if your in a relationship with this girl down the road and everything works out,and then wouldnt you know it some other random guy comes out of the blue who she feels even strongly for attracts her attention then she could be doin this exact same thing with him as she is with you,but well those are just my thoughts and what would be my suspicion,now if you want to add a lil of coersion to this entire thing and make her lean to the side of ditching him and getting with you,you could always plant ideas about how much of a scmuck this guy really is[or at least according to you he sounds like it] and make yourself seem more of the better deal while at it,but id do this ina subtle way cause she might catch on and who knows it could go sour

but yes best of luck,i hope ya get the girl

Just pull out, be less headaches for you to have. Seriously, shes probably out having a good time with her "on and off" boyfriend whilst she uses you to fill in for the parts her BF doesnt cover, which is probably the overly talking to her, giving her the extra attention part.

Just stay clear and try mining somewhere else. Unless you seriously want this girl, and want to put the work into getting her, you arent going to cut it with what your doing right now. So the choice is yours.

I don't think it is your problem y'know. Can't you accept that she thinks something better has come along? Maybe their relationship is based on insecurity.

yeah i guess this is the best decision im not that into her that ill put everything ive got into it.... so ill just forget about it who knows maybe once her and her bf split up something will happen but for now your right.

Just shag her.