I mean, I understand her concern, but really, why does she want to know?

I told her I'd tell her today, and I will, because I'm not going to lie to her. I just wanted to make sure I thoroughly explained it all.

I mean...damn...is there a worse question out there? One of us will feel inexperienced and the other slutty...this question can't lead to anything good.

How should I go about explaining it?

For the record, don't ask me how many, I won't tell.

How are we meant to tell you how to go about explaining it when you wont tell us how many?

Say you were 23 years old...it was 79 girls, the explanation would be very different to say....1 girl.

See?

So....just say, high or low. And by high I mean one a week for atleast a year. If not say medium.

It's actually a lot lower than most people think. Medium-low actually.

Its up to you.

Well I'm going to tell her the truth, I've already promised her that much. What I need is a way to explain it. I guess the truth would work there too...

Every relationship comes to a point where the female wants to know how many woman her partner has slept with, and he usually says, "Oh no you fucking wouldn't."

Anyway, this happened to me recently and I reluctantly told her all the woman I've slept with up until, and including, her.






That's where I should've stopped.

I'm always good for quoting Jimmy Carr :D

Uh oh.


This is not a great question in a relationship.

Is she a little bit insecure? That's not a criticism, just a simple question.


Anyhew, if you've been a bit of a slut,lying may well be the best route to go. If there's no benefit to telling the truth and lying will hurt her less?




If she told you she'd fucked 34 men in the last 6 months before meeting you..wouldnt that make you the tiniest bit paranoid and less comfortable in the relationship?

Now I'm really curious!

I always want to know, and it pisses me off when a guy tells me one number and then later on says something that contradicts it. Just tell her the truth and get over it. If she doesn't want to be with you after knowing how many girls you've fucked in the past, then fuck her (both literally and figuratively).

"Why does it matter, that was in the past?"

Just say that. There's absolutely NO REASON why she needs to know the exact number. Yeah, tell her you've been with girls before, but there's no reason why she needs the details. That's just insecure.

Now I'm really curious!

In case you misread that, it was me quoting Jimmy Carr ;)

I've never had that talk before, although I've had the "How many girlfriends have you had?" one.

I think it was 25, and the girl in question was the 5th with that name, heh.

Aside from that, I'm happy and single...Saves me cash, and I don't have to avoid silly questions like the one the OP was asked :D

My woman asked me that. I told her 4, and Im 26. Shes 21 and said something like ten, but shes lying. We both know that. I didnt want to fucking now. Im a paranoid bastard as it is, if I knew the real number, I probably wouldnt like it. But I lover her so I try not to let it bother me.

I'm going to tell her the truth and if she doesn't want me, well fuck, she's not as cool as I thought.

everyone has a past; best to forget it.

Tell her zero and see how she reacts

just tell her 1 or 2 because she will grill you for details, trust me.

It's just curiosity; that's a standard question for a girl, not even a girlfriend. It's no different than asking anything else. It's just a fact that lots of people are interesting in knowing about.

I'm very judgmental. We all are. Why ask something that can cause you to fuck up your view of a person, especially if you love them.

Remember Chasing Amy? I hate to bring up that movie because everyone and their mom brings it up in S&A, but it's true. Who gives a shit if she blew 2 guys in high school, she was a stupid kid, probably did drugs, whatever. She loved him, that's all that matters.

Future is important, not past

Why ask something that can cause you to fuck up your view of a person?

You can't 'fuck up' her view, only broaden it.

In this case, you're giving the woman that you care, who cares about you, about a fuller view of "the real you". You don't want her to love your bluster, you want her to love you.

If you play games, there comes a time when you have to leave it behind. All that's left is who you are as a person.

Make sense?

The past is the past. Mostly leave it alone.

You could just tell her, "My Milk Snake brings all the girls to my yard, mama. Mmmm hmmmm!"

a common method is you count on your hand.. once you need to use two hands, you just erase and start again, but with 1 or 2 so you don't look like rookie

'Been with' as in sex or relationships etc?

Sex. But then...does she mean intercourse or any sex?

If you tell her how many you've been with, she'll probably be upset. If you don't tell her, she'll be pissed, and will probably assume the worst.

Make a joke out of it. It's a stupid question, give her a stupid answer.

She asks: "How many women have you slept with?"

Your answer: "36"

Why that's a mistake: Uh, hello McFly, she wasn't really asking how many women you've slept with. She was asking if you've been tested for std's. But now that you've answered truthfully she'll be sure to hold that against you.

What to say instead: "I'm not really into keeping score, but if you're worried about STD's, i was tested last month" -or whatever the reality is-"and if it'll make you feel better, I'll see my doctor next week" The more proactive you are the more comfortable she'll be and the better the sex will be.

I'll beat Ryko to the punch here, but he did it, told her the truth, went fine.

*steals thread punchline*

I stopped counting after I had been with 30.

I will never tell my wife, however.

What are you p-whipped or some shit? Just tell her a little white lie.

Say "at least 100" or "over 9000".

This girl once said "are you a virgin", I said "what's it to you?", she said "how many girls have you had sex with?", I proceeded with saying "over 9000".

She was like " zomg wot evarrrr"

all is well (I hope)

What are you p-whipped or some shit? Just tell her a little white lie.

The moment you tell your girlfriend one white lie, you're fucked. First it starts out with "I didn't go to the pub, I was studying" then it turns into "I wasn't out with a girl, I was out with a guy friend" and finally you screw someone else and figure it's best to just not mention it because it's only a white lie after all.