Anal has been a taboo subject between me and my girlfriend for almost 1 year. Every time I bring it up or even make some sort of joke about it. She becomes very defensive and wants nothing to do with it.

Being a good boyfriend, I honestly want to respect her boundaries and not pressure her. But today, it changed.

We drove home from school, had sex a couple times, and we were laying down next to each other. I started to mess around with her, and then for the first time, (I honestly can't remember if this was an accident or not...) I ran my finger from her pussy across her ass to her back. It was a little weird for me because that was something that I haven't done before. She didn't protest or say anything, so I did it again. She eventually admitted that she liked it and we began to talk about trying anal. She said that she was confused because part of her said no and the other part said yes, and that she had mixed emotions about it. I knew where this was going so I tried to warm her up to the idea but have her trust me at the same time. I told her that if she didn't want to, I wouldn't pressure her at that point etc.

After a couple of minutes talking about it, she gave me consent to do it. It was kinda weird and hard to describe. It was a pain in the ass to get in (pun intended) but I went slow vvvvveeeeerrrrryyyy slow... After I was in about an inch, it became almost impossible to go any further so we took a little break. I asked her a couple questions about how it felt etc.

But then I notice that there are tears running down her face. She never cries. I immediately ask her if it hurt to much or what the problem was. But I got an unexpected answer "I broke the one thing that I told myself I would never do..." And she went on about how she wanted to pleasure me and that's the only reason why she did it. It was awkward for about an hour after, but we just talked about it and the relationship in general.

I just wanted to try it. Something new, taboo, and forbidden. But it was beyond her boundaries. I'm not sure why she did it, it made me upset too.

It was a weird day. Any advice of any kind?

I was just gonna jump in here and yell 'LUUUUUBBBBEEEE' but no, doesn't quite cut it.

Needs a nice, solid sit-n-chat, about you respecting her boundaries, bar-none, discussing having anal/etc. and that you don't think any less of her or her boundaries or wishes for it. Toughie, bout all I can think of.

I personally think my girlfriend kind of wants to try it, but is a little embarrassed to say so. Once when we were both fucked up, I flipped her over so we could do doggy, and she said something along the lines of for me to ask before I put it up her pooper.

It's good that you talked about it with your her, perhaps try to find out why exactly she didn't want to do it.

It's because it isn't sexy and because it's demeaning to her.

You should have gone 'oh is that all I thought you just found out about my aids or something' then flipped her over dredged her colan and ejaculated on her face.

Maybe she's worried that you're growing bored of normal sex, and that you're going to want anal, and if you dont get anal, you're going to go fuck someone else?


Trying to make myself as paranoid as possible and put myself in her mindset, that's one of the things that came to mind.

She really got bummed out eh?

Other than EMS's propaganda of the improperness of the pooper-thexxxth, some women learn to love the anal. There is a subset of the women who prefer the bum-thexxxth.

Those kind of women? Those kind of women will get you in the end...& keep you there. :(

I feel your pain.

Mine says no, but she'd do anything for me. Still, I'd feel really bad if it was just for me. She really should've said something, but that's what some girls are like. Get her smashed next time.

Be completey serious and actually ask her if she is comfortable with it, if she says yes, make her confirm it.

It a rough situation, but it's not your fault she let you do it. You have no reason to be guilty. Just be sympathetic and supportive.

This, and she's a fucking idiot. She shouldn't have told you that you could do it if it wasn't ok with her.

Girls are emotional, just deal with it. I'd forget about the situation, it's not like the love will stop.

don't mind me I just came by to say that the thread title filled me with lulz

Anal, it's anal I tried. She, she cried, "No! No! No! Wash it off & put it only in the pie!"

If you want to take some risks, with the possibility of some rewards, ask her how she fels about sex altogether, how she feels about you, all that stuff; and really listen to her. Find out how she feels about intimacy, sex, and all that stuff.

Then lube up and slip it up her poopchute.

Man...I've had more than one girl tell me "I just want to make you happy."

I feel so damn guilty after they say such a thing. I mean, what about what she wants, you know?
I mean, then I feel like a selfish fuck.

Women are crazy.

I think it sounds like a very sad situation, but it's really no one's fault. Everyone makes compromises to please the ones they love, and sometimes people cross lines and regret it.

Just do as most people have suggested, and tell her that you would never have pushed her to do it if you had understood how strongly she felt, and that you never want her to compromise herself to please you. Also makes sure she knows that you care about her, and want her, and her not wanting anal won't change that. And then joke that she may anally violate you if she wants to :p

She was horny, said yes to something she wouldn't normally consider doing and when it turned out to be average she got upset cause it wasted a promise to herself.

So its not your fault, but I know where she's coming from. She'll get over it.

Only a woman could come up with an answer like that.

I wish i had a vagina :(

If she cried, she was probably conscious.

Not the best way to go about anal.

If she cried, she was probably conscious.

Not the best way to go about anal.

Well I gave that some thought too. But I might just regret it in the end. I wonder what she would do if she woke up with me inside her? o.O

Well I gave that some thought too. But I might just regret it in the end. I wonder what she would do if she woke up with me inside her? o.O

Hopefully she wouldn't shit herself.

my brother, he got taken by giant from uzbekistan, and he broke his anoos

Well I gave that some thought too. But I might just regret it in the end. I wonder what she would do if she woke up with me inside her? o.O

She'd probably make you a sandwich or something.

Women, eh boys?

Have her return the favor?

I say write her a letter/note that explains that you feel horrible about the situation and that you never meant to push her into something she didn't want to do. You don't want her to feel obligated to something that she's not comfortable doing just to please yourself. It's not pleasuring if both of you aren't liking it. There are compromises that couples make for eachother, but something like that is too far of a compromise and could hurt the relationship in the long run. You just need to be completely honest with her. You could have fun with the note too, to spice up your relationship (if the sex was getting boring. I was assuming you wanted something different so you tried anal but I could be wrong). Like a treasure hunt with clues, or just hide it somewhere and tell her to go find it (less effort), or a nice LITTLE gift with it if you really want to have something easy. The more you put into it the more it will show you care. It's the little things that count like that.

I say write her a letter/note that explains that you feel horrible about the situation and that you never meant to push her into something she didn't want to do. [...] You could have fun with the note too, to spice up your relationship (if the sex was getting boring. I was assuming you wanted something different so you tried anal but I could be wrong). Like a treasure hunt with clues, or just hide it somewhere and tell her to go find it (less effort), or a nice LITTLE gift with it if you really want to have something easy.

Are you on drugs? This is a terrible idea.

They tend to cry...

Next time just bash her over the head furst with a toilet seat,

Then have fun DUH.

tell her youre sorry and that you love her. its a cure-all. unless you dont love her, or youre not sorry. but in that case you probably wouldnt be posting this....

This, and she's a fucking idiot. She shouldn't have told you that you could do it if it wasn't ok with her.

I still feel sorry for her though.

She shouldn't have done it if she didn't want to do it, but I guess that's well-established by now. You just need to have a long talk with her about it and make sure she understands how you feel and you understand how she feels. It'll all work out.

Are you on drugs? This is a terrible idea.

Why do you say that? I was actualy going to do that same thing...

She sounds like a very, very oversensitive i-want-everything kind of person.

Why do you say that? I was actualy going to do that same thing...

1) Writing a note to explain yourself is weak-ass if you can do it in person.

2) A treasure hunt to find a note apologising for anal violation? What the fuck? Seriously, if you can't see what's FUCKED about this idea, right there, there is no way I can explain it to you.

1) Writing a note to explain yourself is weak-ass if you can do it in person.

2) A treasure hunt to find a note apologising for anal violation? What the fuck? Seriously, if you can't see what's FUCKED about this idea, right there, there is no way I can explain it to you.

Girls like stupid/cute stuff like that though. But everything has cooled off by this point so there's no use doing it anymore.