Whenever Im with my woman, I can feel the love and all that good shit. But when Im not around her, I get visions of her cheating on me. I get all paranoid and angry and I want to stop what Im doing and go find her.
I dont think she would fuck around on me, no more than any other woman. I try to stop these thoughts, but they wont go away. Then I get all pissed off and it ruins everything. She is starting to get tired of it, but no less than I am. I have to deal with the shit I think and dont even tell her about. If I did, she would probably run away.

Is there anyway I can fucking relax and totally trust her? Should I even try? Should I even be with someone? This isnt the first time Ive been paranoid with women. I fucking hate my mind.

Is there any logical reason for you to be paranoid with the other sex?

I'm the same way. I can't trust guys, and I hate it.

Do you have trust issues as it is?

Or is this sort of out the blue?

It is crazy if it is messing up the relationship.

I mean the whole reason your paranoid about shit is probably cause you wanna keep it going. As you have said she is getting pissed off, it might mean if you don't sort it out she will be gone. Which would be kind of ironic.

I thought this when I had a flashback. And it brought back the bad part of my trip, not the euphoric, one with the world part.

You just described me mate!

I get paranoid when my girl's not around...For no apparent reason.

But then again I've been cheated on and lied to by a lot of chicks. It's hard to let some things go and say to yourself "Well this is a different person...Not the same as the others" because you just don't know. You thought that about other girls and they turned out to do the same thing!

I get through it by just telling myself that she is a different person and there should be no reason for her to cheat on me. And that if she did, I'd tell her to fuck off and get on with my life.

I think you're actually quite quite sane.


Maybe you can trust someone you love with your life, but never ever trust them with your happiness or your trust.

it probably has something to do with the personality of your girlfriend. Is she "overly" friendly with other guys? im not saying a slut, just a little to nice in your eyes.

your just going to have to learn to trust her and if you cant then you probably shouldnt be with her. if your always hounding her and making her feel like you dont trust her, that is going to lead to a lot of problems. this is giong to sound very lame but i find it to be true. if you love something set it free or you are just going to end up crushing it.

it's normal to be a bit sketched if you really like some... mostly because it's normal to be insecure.

Part of the cheating thing is probably that you really like her and when people are very interested in someone they tend to think that they aren't worthy of that person's love. When things are working out well, it makes you feel amazing, and you think about how good that is when you're not around them and you hope that they aren't doing something to hurt you. Kind of a... too good to be true mentality, I suppose.

In addition to that, it's obvious that you have some sense of abandonment/ some trust issues. Could be from relationships with parents or friends or romantically in the past, but either way a little bit of these feelings is perfectly normal.

People lose people and break up and move away for whatever reason, and you can't always control the outcome. Some people cheat, it's true, but you must learn to recognize your jealous or paranoid feelings and calm yourself down. Don't give in to musings about what she could possibly be doing because ultimately you will know. Cheaters don't get away with it for very long. Most people in general are bad liars :p So take some time to breath and think about the good times that you have together. The only time that someone was dishonest to me ( we were in an open relationship but I told him I needed to know everything so I didn't think he was hiding from me, and he couldn't handle being truthful about his exploits for fear that he would lose me) I kept texts and messages from him to remind me that it was obvious he cared. Even at the times that I was really afraid that it all had been for naught, I read the things he had written about his feelings an I knew they were genuine. In the situation, some people would have been too overpowered by jealousy to see the real picture: People sometimes cheat, but that doesn't mean that everyone is vulnerable... think about your girls loyalty to you. Even if some guy kissed her or something... don't you think she would be honest with you and talk to you about the problem? Don't you think that people know she has someone and respect that? Guys tend to give other guys very little credit with that, but I know from a girls perspective that it's not so easy to cheat as just picking a guy out of a crowd and doing something wrong. Even though I personally don't like monogamous relationships because I kiss my friends and do crazy shit, I have had them for 3 years, 10 months, 19 months at a time.

it probably has something to do with the personality of your girlfriend. Is she "overly" friendly with other guys? im not saying a slut, just a little to nice in your eyes.




She is. I know I have to trust her, but its hard. I had one girlfriend leave me with her kid a couple times while she went out and smoked crack. Im pretty sure she cheated on me too. Im glad I got away from that bitch.

I probably do have trust issues. I dont really know from where. Both my parents were drunks, but they never broke a promise to me. I dont like blaming my parents for shit like that though. I am my own person.

I think its just me not believing I can be loved. I would love to start stalking her Cheaters style, but thats too over the top crazy.

Thanks for the replies everyone. It helped.

She is. I know I have to trust her, but its hard. I had one girlfriend leave me with her kid a couple times while she went out and smoked crack. Im pretty sure she cheated on me too. Im glad I got away from that bitch.

I probably do have trust issues. I dont really know from where. Both my parents were drunks, but they never broke a promise to me. I dont like blaming my parents for shit like that though. I am my own person.

I think its just me not believing I can be loved. I would love to start stalking her Cheaters style, but thats too over the top crazy.

Thanks for the replies everyone. It helped.

I know I shouldn't, but I laughed quite hard at this. Crack is the funniest drug. Good you got away from that one, that's for sure.

I know I shouldn't, but I laughed quite hard at this. Crack is the funniest drug. Good you got away from that one, that's for sure.

Dude, crack isn't funny.

OP, paranoia happens. You either learn to dismiss it with the voices in the wind, or you let it haunt you.

Dude, crack isn't funny.

OP, paranoia happens. You either learn to dismiss it with the voices in the wind, or you let it haunt you.

No, crack is definitely funny.