Alright, it's not really a big secret that I haven't been much into the dating scene. I enjojy girlfriends a lot, but I've just seen it easier to be single. Even now, after 11 days with my girlfriend I'm changing a lot of things about me. (I used to go out about 4 nights a week, now I'm out with her a lot more, and with my friends a lot less). It might be bad, but it's fine with me, I'd rather be with her.

Anyway, my longest relationship has been about a month and now that I've got big plans for this one, I need some tips. We're both pretty busy so I can't plan a romantic getaway or anything, but I've got a few dates planned that should make her smile. Otherwise I usually pick her up and we either go out somewhere or drop by my place. I also try and see her whenever I can for lunch.

Anyway, I spent most of my dating life interested in attraction and seduction, I never really cared about how to make a woman feel good after a month or a year or whatever. Right now I'm just making sure I don't say anything too stupid that she'll blow out of proportion and dump me for (I've got a big mouth).

What should I be concerned with while dating? Do I need to keep increasing the romance? Right now I've settled for 1 romantic date a week and the rest are just "hanging out together". I've also been slowly toning down the asshole in me in favor of a more loving personality. Yes, being cocky did win her over, but I doubt she wants me to keep being a dick.

As for the sex life, I've got that down pat, don't worry. I just need advice on how to keep this relationship going.

This is weird, Rykoshet goes from being a big playa to someone asking about how to make a girl smile?
The world is broken.

It's cool though. And kinda cute.

Sounds like you're doing well, toning down the dickhead and increasing romance levels.

What sort of girl is she though? I might say that more romance is brilliant, but it would suck if you did that and it turned out she hates romantic sappy shit.

Just be nice. Compliment her, but don't overdo it. It's all about moderation.
Also, a little gift every now and then is a good idea, unless she is the type that does not like people buying things. Some people get awkward about people spending money on them.

One thing to note - do not completely alienate your friends, you will need them if the relationship goes sour.

One thing to note - do not completely alienate your friends, you will need them when the relationship goes sour.

Don't plan too far in the future. Things are subject to change, especially things of the fleshy variety.

Just act however makes you feel comfortable around her. That'll be the best thing you can do.

Id take concern over how much your seeing her. Cause if its only been 11 days and your seeing her alot, your still barely in the 1st stage of things. Meaning if you change up your ways or she realizes something about you she can easily pickup and leave since the whole situation is still fresh.

Just saying like don't go overboard with things to quickly just because your upbeat about having a girlfriend, leave some things to be un-covered later on. Cause yes she is your girlfriend but you can only stand to see certain people so much so often.

Moderation as said, keep it steady and even and you'll be good.

Don't plan too far in the future. Things are subject to change

The truth.

Sodomy?

I pretty much have to alienate my friends. If I have a choice between seeing her for a night or going to the pub with the mates, it's going to be her. Next time I'll try and bring her out too so I can combine both, but I know we'll just be in the corner talking while the rest of my mates are trying to pick up chicks. I'm not trying to alienate my friends, but I see them at school, which is a lot more than I see her, so obviously I'd rather be out with her at night.

As for toning down how much I see her? I don't know what to say to that man. Everything I do be it boxing or watching TV is more fun if she's there. Sure it's not good to spend all the time together, but we see each other once a day usually (sometimes 2 if we get lucky) and I think it's not enough. At night we always leave hungry for more.

I try and surprise her with little gifts every so often. I'll bring her a rose, then nothing for a couple of dates, then another flower or something. It's not too much that it says "I'm trying to bribe you" but it's enough for her to think I've got a sweet side. I'm also taking her horseback riding next week (she's really good). As I said, I think 1 romantic date a week is good, and the rest are just "hang out dates" so to speak. Is that number good? Should I get more, or less?

And yoyo, thanks. I've always been a hopeless romantic sucker, it just took the right girl to finally stop screwing around with me and get down to business. Thanks for your vote of confidence :) I don't know how romantic she is, but she seems to like everything I do. We have a lot in common, and we're taking our relationship slow, so it seems to be headed down a good path.

Thanks for the advice everyone.

I try and surprise her with little gifts every so often. I'll bring her a rose, then nothing for a couple of dates, then another flower or something. It's not too much that it says "I'm trying to bribe you" but it's enough for her to think I've got a sweet side. I'm also taking her horseback riding next week (she's really good). As I said, I think 1 romantic date a week is good, and the rest are just "hang out dates" so to speak. Is that number good? Should I get more, or less?



Vary it, keep it unpredictable.

I've found that just being with them works well.

Me and my girl usually just go to a hotel bar, grab a beer, cuddle up and talk about stuff.

Telling her that she's beautiful and that she makes you happy doesn't hurt either. But don't so it too often or she'll get bored of hearing it.
Just make her feel somewhat loved and cared for and let her know that you only have eyes for her.

And in the preliminary stages, do NOT talk about past experiences, i.e. conquests, bad shit you've done to people or anything negative about your doings in the past in general.
Keep everything positive and make her smile and laugh.

Well done by the way mate...Hope everything goes well between you guys. :)

Sometimes the frequency of just seeing each other can be bad, but its not like that with everyone.

Ill explain how it fucked me over. I kept on wanting to see this girl all the time. The 1st time i really hung out with her we had a good time, went places, talked..it was great. Then the very next day we went out for lunch. Went well, but about at that day I lost my peak of attraction for her. The more she talked and the more I was around her, the more i realized I didnt like her, and that I was feeling less and less for her and things became dull.

Doesnt sound like it could happen with your case, but when things are new and you hang out and keep seeing each other you'll find out everything about them, and if you don't like what your hearing you'll get tired of her within the first few runs.Then its like theres nothing left to be discovered. But then i guess its for the better than you can get in and get out if it doesnt work out.

Yes, being cocky did win her over, but I doubt she wants me to keep being a dick.

Uhhh, if it aint broke, don't fix it.

Uhhh, if it aint broke, don't fix it.

See exactly what i mean right there..U drop the front that u used to pick her up and she may realize hey what happened to the way he use to treat me. Id still continue to be cocky fuck it....works doesnt it?

See exactly what i mean right there..U drop the front that u used to pick her up and she may realize hey what happened to the way he use to treat me. Id still continue to be cocky fuck it....works doesnt it?

Yes and no. I picked her up by teasing her a lot, which I still do. I'll be honest here, we were on vacation and I though she just wanted to hook up, which is why I was running my regular asshole routine. I spent 2 whole days with her and realized she wanted a lot more, so I toned down the asshole a bit, showed her a sweeter side, and didn't ruin my chances of a relationship.

I could have easily run a tucker max routine, fucked her, and then hoped I was so amazing that she'd never want to leave me, but it was a lot better doing it the way I did, and now we have great conversations and much more.

Time to move on to bigger problems, like getting a place of my own, a new motorcycle, getting ahead in boxing, or most importantly, not falling asleep in class.

haha yeah, good call there

It just depends some guys are fucking lame, therefore as soon as they drop the cocky/funny routine they cant hold up when it comes to the rest of a relationship(if they choose to make on)..but if you can do it, do it.

bring her to the fight at islington this satoorday

I was thinking about it, but then I remembered the scene in eurotrip where all the naked men chase after the girl like zombies...

Well, I know Totse...it probably wouldn't be the best of ideas.

Also, we might be going horseback riding that day.

I'd like to say to strike a balance between her and friends and to let neither consume your life... but I can't, really. Enjoy both, is about it.

Just do me one big favour man; spend every goddamn second you have with her as best as you possibly can. Every. Single. One.

I'd suggest that you be yourself, but you've never liked that advice. Indulge in what comes to mind.

I'd suggest that you be yourself, but you've never liked that advice. Try not to change who you are to appease someone else. Indulge in what comes to mind.

She kickboxes and models. I box and date models.

I won't change for her, don't worry :)

Actually that is a lie. I've toned down drinking and smoking a whole lot, mostly because she's encouraging me to do boxing professionally.

I have stopped going out with my friends, but that's natural I guess. I'd rather spend time with her, therefore I'm going to chose her over my friends. Sad maybe, but it's my choice, if she wasn't as fun as the hockey game, I wouldn't bee seeing her.

Also, we had "the talk" tonight. Not the breakup talk, but the talk about where we see our relationship going. We both agreed we'd like something long term. What that means...I have no idea, but I'll keep dating her until I say something stupid and she dumps me.

And OC, I do. Believe me man, I enjoy it a whole lot. I've never been this happy. Hell, I see her most days for lunch just to talk and kiss a little. I never thought I'd be doing that. Either this is really really good or I've got a lot of rethinking to do.