So i have a boyfriend but it is common knowledge that things aren't the greatest between us and that we'll probably be breaking up soon.

Now, there's this other guy in my life who i used to hook up with. We're good friends now...we hang out sometimes, go to the movies etc. However whenever we're drunk he starts getting rather close, holding my body against his on the dancefloor and such. When we are sober he pokes me playingly, puts his head in my lap, holds my hand sometimes, leans in to my shoulder when we're watching a move and seems to try to make body contact with me at any given chance.

The other night he had a few people over at his place. I drank a bit too much wine to drive home so he put me to sleep in one of the spare beds in his house. I fell asleep alone and he went back to join his friends and fell asleep on the couch. When i woke up, he was now asleep next to me, at first not touching me. However, soon enough when he briefly awoke he stretched out his arm so it was touching mine as well. It was clearly another move to get closer.

How do i interpret his actions? Does he want sex and nothing more?...or if that's too farfetched to work out from what I've mentioned, how can I tell if he only wants to fuck me and not date me? Or does it seem as if he may like me and want to date me?

This has been going on for months... pretty patient guy by any means.

I would hope that he doesn't just want to fuck me... deep down i have feelings for him.

First step, end it with the current boyfriend. It wouldnt be fair to drag this out any longer.

As for the other guy, who knows?
See how he acts, if he just trys to get physical with you or if he ever asks you if you'd like to 'hang out' or whatever.

Well if you have feelings for him why the hell not let him know, maybe he's just looking for a bit of encouragement!

troll/slut, one of the two.

Why the fuck are you going to the movies, going dancing, and getting drunk with another guy while you have a boyfriend? And why the fuck are you staying the night at his house and letting him hold your hand?

Well there are always other people around, so it is truly like two friends hanging out. Not much one-on-one hanging out. Plus I genuinely enjoy his company. We have very similar music and film taste/general outlook on life so we have some rad conversations. Things just turn out that way...
It only dawned on me not so long ago that I did have proper feelings for him. And as for my boyfriend, I have genuine feelings for him as well. I have told my boyfriend that we need to break up and we are working through that at the moment.

As for the sleeping over, I didn't plan on it. It got to 4am and I couldn't drive because we all had to many wines (there were other people over as well). I also didn't expect for him to end up in bed next to me...

I'm afraid to tell this guy I have feelings for him incase he doesn't have "feelings" for me, but is just physically attracted to me.

You sound like a cheating bitch.

But just as a futuretip. Something I've noticed about myself and my friends - guys who judge beauty by girl's face are more into romantic stuff than sex and guys who are more interested in a girl's body are more interested in sex than romance.

So does he stare at your face or your boobs/ass?

Same goes for touching. If I'm in love with a girl and want to have a romantic relationship with her, then i usually have a hard time keeping my hands away from her face. If i want to fuck a girl, then i want to feel her body.

I'm afraid to tell this guy I have feelings for him incase he doesn't have "feelings" for me, but is just physically attracted to me.

There's nothing to be afraid of.
If you tell him you like him, either of the responses would be good. Either he tells you he likes you too which is good, or you find out he just wants to screw you, in which case, isnt it a good thing you found out before he used you horribly and broke your heart?

I dont get the bit about you telling your boyfriend you need to break up though, surely if two people agree they need to break up.. isnt that it?

Reload this Page how to tell if he wants to DATE me or just F*CK me

1. He's male, does that answer your question? (if not, it should!)

2. There is no need to write F*CK, we're all big boys and girls (well some of us have finished with puberty anyways).

3.Finish with current B/F FIRST.

*Sigh*...im not a cheating bitch. I've never cheated in my life, only been cheated on when I was like 17. I'm 20 years old. When we held my hand, I didn't think much of it at first. The neighbourhood we were walking through was scary. It is only recentlly (I guess since my boyfriend and I have been winding down) that I have realised I have feelings for this guy. I truly can't help it. I tried to deny it, but fuck: I can't supress genuine feelings. I'd be lying to myself. There's no way that i ever wanted to like this guy, it has just turned out that way.

That face/body analogy is damn interesting though, I guess...

There's nothing to be afraid of.
If you tell him you like him, either of the responses would be good. Either he tells you he likes you too which is good, or you find out he just wants to screw you, in which case, isnt it a good thing you found out before he used you horribly and broke your heart?

I dont get the bit about you telling your boyfriend you need to break up though, surely if two people agree they need to break up.. isnt that it?

We are breaking up because I'm moving interstate and we don't get to spend as much time together anymore given clashing work schedules. We're also hardly intimate anymore... but we haven't completely broken up because we still enjoy each other's company. I still think so highly of him, he's a gorgeous guy. He's so hard to let go of. It just doesn't feel much like a relationship anymmore. More like a friendship. This other guy, on the otherhand, makes me feel so giddy. U know the feeling...like incredibly explosive, haha. I just can't help feeling that way.

And you're sooooo right about it being a good thing either way, I guess I just don't want to lose the friendship if I were taking his actions perhaps the wrong way.

1. He's male, does that answer your question? (if not, it should!)

No, it shouldn't

Rhetoric. Helpful...

All men want to fuck you on some level.

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That's not a bad thing. I think it would be pretty bad if a guy liked a girl, but never wanted anything sexual at all with her. How would a girl feel if a guy was romantically interested in her, but not at all sexually? You need to have both.

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I c wut u did thar

And because I saw wut u did thar...we're going to need pics.

That face/body analogy is damn interesting though, I guess...

It's not an analogy, and it's not true either.

Well, I dunno about other guys. I prefer relationships, but I can't help staring at a girls body over her face. It's an irrisistable urge :(.

If he seems to genuinely care about you as a person, then there are one of two possibilities: He's a good actor, or he wants a relationship. Good actors tend to get discouraged after a while, but you said that he's been consistant for a while, so that might say good things.

If he doesn't seem interested in you as a person, then he wants sex.

Man, I hate that shit. Fuckin, man I had this fat bitch who I just wanted to fuck...secretly. But what the fuck do ya know, she bluntly asks me 'are you just looking for a fuck buddy or a gf'........Damn I hate that shit. I never talked to her again, but you should ask him. If he never talks to you again, you know. PS don't sensor out fuck.

I'm sorry but OP, you're an asshole.

Girls can have friends that are guys, you know. And she stayed at his house because she was too drunk to drive home you fucking idiot. Read and interpret what's going on before you post.

Maybe it can lead to more? I"m not every guy, but i've ended up dating someone I just wanted to fuck in the first place.

Either way, break up with your boy friend, have some sex, maybe have a nice relationship.

Ok, he knows me pretty well. We have mutual friends. I've had a few deep and meaningful conversations with him. Now I guess what has gotten me a little worried about the situation is an article I read the other day where this concept of the "Indie Sleaze" came up. Pretty much there are guys that exist who get all deep and meaningful and 'honest' and 'vulnerable' with a girl in order to get into her pants. This has got me thinking that perhaps this is one of those situations...

Sure I want to have sex with him but I don't like the idea of having sex with him without any relationship. I'd be taking the sex too seriously. I can't cope with being.. rejected I guess. So far I've been able to avoid being rejected in my experience with guys and have always been the one to call things off. I also kinda want to keep him around cos we've decided to help each other learn how to DJ this year.

FUCK. Haha I was only trying to be polite by placing a '*' in the title guys...

*Sigh*...im not a cheating bitch. I've never cheated in my life, only been cheated on when I was like 17.

Well that's funny, because you're now cheating on someone. Line's been crossed, like it or not.

Really, please, break it off with your current guy asap, it's quite inconsiderate, selfish, and superbly bitch-like. Imagine yourself in the same situation, reversed.

Sounds like he's into you, and you like him. Given that you quit dragging the poor sap you're with now, go for it, you've got nothing to lose I suppose.

Hrmmm..... dead fish and bullshit.




Smells like a troll to me. :D

If it were a guy in this situation, he would be told to man the fuck up and not care about the possibility of rejection. You need to do that too. Also, stop being a cheating whore.

You definitely sound like the neighborhood bicycle, just go with the flow and let everyone hop on for a ride. But in all serious, make up your damn mind, be faithful to your boyfriend, or drop him and move on. And if you like this guy, by all means tell him and see what happens. It might work out or it might not, your better off knowing than wondering you know?

Well that's funny, because you're now cheating on someone. Line's been crossed, like it or not.

Really, please, break it off with your current guy asap, it's quite inconsiderate, selfish, and superbly bitch-like. Imagine yourself in the same situation, reversed.

Sounds like he's into you, and you like him. Given that you quit dragging the poor sap you're with now, go for it, you've got nothing to lose I suppose.

And where exactly does the line lie for me to be a cheating? I haven't ever made any move on him, nor have I accepted anything more than a hug or a dance. And emotionally I haven't expressed how I feel about him or my boyfriend for that matter. He knows me no better than a good friend would. Seesh.

And yes, I will be breaking up with my boyfriend asap... the next chance we have to hang out together.

Haha I like how some of you guys assume that I'm a whore. Delightful.

Sounds to me like you are already dating him but, then again I'm not from the baby boomer generation, so really I'm not one to interpret these actions

Well, flip it around. If your bf was hanging out with some chick who he used to hook up with, keeps making moves on him, gets entirely too touchy and close for a friend, gets drunk with her, but your bf goes along with it, while still dragging you along wanting to patch up your relationship, how would you feel?

Before you reply saying 'ZOMG its not like that at all!111!', look at it (situation above) as objectively as you can, and think a little.

IMO it's really not fair or right, but see it how you will.