You ever fuck so often with your girl/guy that it just becomes no big deal at all. It's practically an extension of kissing. We just go straight to it. Sure we experiment and try out every position and all of that. And I love my girl more than ever, I'm not losing any interest in her. I just miss that tingly, nervous, thrilling feeling you get the first time you take the next step and the first several times you fuck. Is there anything besides cheating that will do that? We tried not fucking for 1 week(ended up doing it on day 6) but that didnt work. I am sensual and do turn my girl on so this thread isnt about being a better lover.

this thread isnt about being a better lover.

Isn't it though? Isn't part of being a good lover being inventive and spontaneous?

Try new things! I myself enjoy sex in public (well, semi-public) and BDSM. Find out what your girl might be willing to try and see if that changes things?

Honestly I've never found anything that makes it like it was in the begining. I think that it becomes a standard practice. I mean yes getting head is nice but you know what your partner does, you know their moves. In a way it's comforting because you know what your partner wants and how to give it to them but there is no adventure anymore. There is no challenge of getting there. No cute little gasps and sexy urges to continue. It's something else that becomes standard. Not saying it's bad, it's just that you're use to it and you know what is going to happen. It's like watching your favorite movie for the 100th time. You still love it, but you know that the stupid cheerleader is getting offed with a chainsaw. Same thing.

it's true, the only way is cheating.

thusly the circle of evil continues.