So I've been "hooking up" for lack of a better term with the same girl for the last 3 or so years on and off at the school I go to. (I'm 21 and a junior in college). We have almost never hung out sober, but as soon at 2 am on a saturday rolls around lately she'll be calling me or I'll be calling her.

The problem is, we've been banging much more often (drunk each time though) and I pretty much sure it's cause she thinks I'm about to ask her to be my g/f. Sober me doesn't want this, but i'm sure I might be giving her a different impression agreeing to have sex with her all the time. To make it worse, I just don't want to be around her anymore, there is no excitement after 3 or so years of on/off hooking up and I just want to try to meet as many girls as I can before I'm done with college in a year or so.

for the record "on and off hooking up" means there have been many several month spans when we haven't even been talking to each other, i've been pursuing something else or she has had a boyfriend.

So what do you think guys, any way that I can get out of this without
a. really pissing her off/making her cry?
b. having her badmouth me to all her friends and other girls?
c. coming across as a major douche?

Just start talking about some other girl that you really like and ask her advice about it. There's no way she can think you're still going to ask her out if she knows you like other random girl.

Nope.

Get a handy female friend who has no morals, wait until your annoying fuck buddy calls again and then have your friend say something (you can think that up yourselves, whatever will work best) that she can hear down the phone that will put her off/display that you have other people to fuck/upset her to the point of her not wanting to be around you anymore.

Simple.

You think a relationship implies ownership of each other? Stop worrying man, your thinking about the future too much, just concentrate on each day. You obviously like this girl, so just live for today and quit worrying about tomorrow.

Telling her is going to be the quickest, easiest way.

My girlfriend of over a year has been the longest one-night-stand of my life! I have no advice to offer.

I feel for ya brother, Im in the exact same situation... I guess that makes me a shitty advice giver?


Id just let it go on. Laugh at her if she asks you to be her BF or even hints at it. Make it understood that nothing will ever be, its just physical. Get a new GF to emphasize the point. thats my 2cents

Thanks for the help everyone, I'll see how it goes.