Me and my girlfriend have amazing sex, from anywhere between 20 minutes to an hour long. The only problem is that we both love a good LONG fuck, but we are ALWAYS sore the next day. We can't fuck every day, and we want to. We are both in very good physical condition so I want to know any tips for getting rid of soreness.

Problem number two, sometimes I simply cannot get off. I've never had a problem lasting, I fucked for a half hour the very first time, much to my astonishment. I didn't have to work up to lasting, so I don't have the turn-off fear of going off to soon. I don't get it, I just can't concentrate sometimes and everything bothers me, this again brings me back to the soarness. She get's off time and time again, and it's kinda starting to piss me off. She's amazing in bed, always is, but sometimes I just can't get over the edge. Any ideas as to what might be causing this? (I've been having sex, and with her, for under 3 months, so I am still a noob as far as the mental things. Postitions and all that I have locked down, same with foreplay and all that.

I definately find it's easier for ME to get off when she lets me turn her on more instead of just jumping into fucking...is that common?

This is genuinly pissing me the fuck off. Ideas?

Are you a woman?