So I met this girl at a concert, we started talking, etc, etc. Numbers are exchanged, and tonight she calls me up out of the blue to talk a bit and invite me to a tea ceremony.

I find her very attractive and intellectually stimulating, everything I could want pretty much...

Problem: I'm 23, she's 41. I'm also pretty sure she has a kid. Should I just keep it as an intellectual friendship or pursue something a little... deeper? And when I say 41 I'm going on hearsay evidence. She pretty much the body of a 25 year old, and I've not gotten any in a while.

Anybody have any experience with older women in here? Not one night stand things either...

*confused*

-Dust

If you guys are interested in each other, what's the problem?

I'd say go for it unless her kid is within 5 years of your age, which is absolutely possible

If it makes you happy, go for it. Just don't, y'know, move in, or propose, or anything nutty anytime soon.

Don't now how good of a look you got, but I haven't seen anyone older than 40ish that could really pass for someone who's 25 all that well...

At 21, I was seriously involved with tsunami from this very board, who was 29 at the time. We broke up due to long distance, but we very nearly got married.

I wouldn't worry about the age thing. Go for it.

go for it.

Older ladies know what they're doing and tend to have a healthier sex drive than girls your age.

Nothing wrong with older women, i've been with two women with a substancial age difference the oldest being 33 (i'm 21 b.t.w.). and they were better in the sack than most of the girls i've dated that were closer to my own age.

In my experience once you get past 20 age stops being a factor in relationships. Well, unless you're 20 dating a 76 year old... that's just weird.

I say go for it. Getting a good vibe from people is hard enough these days so it'd be a shame to let it slip by just because of a number.

Its like R. Kelly said

"age ain't nuthin' but a numba"

Aaliyah sang that song, actually.

You have to be more direct with older woman, go for it be clear, older woman regardless of how hot she is get a lot less action then 25 year olds. So if you are clear she will be clear.

Aaliyah sang that song, actually.

But that ruins the joke...

older woman usually expect more, and try to be dominating you have to establish your self as being mature and in control or she'll walk all over you...regardless as to what you do I wish you the best of luck

marry her and cash in on her social security in a few years.