So...I recently found out my cousin is in touch with my ex over Facebook (primarily at least...I know he's been out for drinks with her and her friend before now)

Now, if any of you remember the history between me and my ex, you'll know that there was a lot of shit that happened.
For those that don't know (it is relevant to my reasons for being pissed off), here's a brief overview...

She lied
She cheated (several times)
I took her into my home because she had nowhere to go and talked filthy with some geek from her college over my internet connection no less.
She blamed me somehow for every shitty thing she did.
She dumped me in June and kicked me and my cousin out of the flat we shared.

So there you have it...A brief list of grievances to which I could add but I'll be here all night.

So anyways, they're all friendly with each other and it pisses me off.
There's no jealousy or anything. I feel nothing for my ex. I have a girl now who I had a thing for when I was still with my ex so I'm happy.

The part that's annoying me is after all the help I've given my cousin...After all the stuff I've given him because he's strapped for cash, he maintains a friendship with someone who treated me like an idiot for nigh on 2 years.
It's akin to a breaking of the "bro's before hoe's" rule as far as I can see...He's befriended someone who's broken my heart on several occasions and kicked me to the wind.

I haven't had a chance to speak to him about it yet but I intend to. But I would like other peoples' perspectives on the situation.

So...Am I entitled to be pissed off...Or am I just being a tart?

Yes, that would piss me off. Those bitches are like bad pennies, they keep turning up. I wouldn't be surprised if she makes a full circuit of your friends and family.

Personally, if she was as bad as you say, i'd just forget about her completely. She wouldn't even be worth hurting over. If my best friend, or anyone else wanted to go for it knowing what they know...well, I wouldn't care. I wouldn't have anything invested in it anymore. I'd just kind of turn off completely to her. I'd only have a problem if he started bringing her around/back into my life.

But I can see how it would piss you off to no extent. Just confront him and see what he says.

Wait, how did she kick you out of your own house?

He knows how she is, so if she fucks him over like she did to you, he has no one to blame but himself. Try talking to him about it one more time, and if he doesn't get the message, he's on his own. You've done everything you can to try to help him.

I understand why you are pissed. First of all, this girl seems like a master manipulator so your cousin may just be under her spell like you were at one point. She used you pretty badly so it would be a tad hypocritical to think he should fair any better with her. Second, you need to make sure you don't get used like that again by both women AND your cousin. Calling women on their bullshit may seem mean or disrespectful at first, but it is really better for the relationship in so many ways, not the least of which is making them horny. Chicks get off on that shit. They will behave more, become lower maintenance, and put out more and better. Sometimes you just need to roll up a newspaper, smack them in the nose, and say NO!...metaphorically speaking of course.

Some people simply don't follow un-written rules.

She didn't...It was a place her mother got and we moved into...I was paying over two thirds of my monthly paycheck in rent...They "paid" for food and beer. Even though I remember paying for a lot of that too.

And Kate...Yes...It's the unwritten rule being broken that's annoying me.

I found out from my brother that he's befriended her because she has hot friends so he thinks she'll help him get laid. Even though he's an introverted large-person with too high an intellect for any one of her friends. Translated: Quiet fat guy with a brain.

I think about it every so often and when I do it just makes me want to punch his head into a wall...He's become a lot cockier and stuff even though he's aware I'm not happy with him.
I've worked fucking hard the last year in therapy to stop being violent and angry but when I think of this I just want to forget it all and be how I used to be...Which means smacking him in the face, knocking him down and kicking him in the balls...It doesn't matter how big he is, I have done it to bigger guys. He'd be a walk in the park.

But that's not what I want to do. But I do.

I dunno.

Most likely she's going to attempt to fuck everyone in your family and everyone you care about just to piss you off.

There's a limited few ways to deal with bitches like that.
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I like how your machete is serrated on the back. Scary AND practical.

Talk to the guy, you aren't being a tart.

He might not see anything wrong with it or just be ignoring it because you haven't said anything. People can be dense sometimes.

I think it's more a fact that the cousin doesn't seem like he gets laid often. He's excited to be talking to a girl.

Let him get his heart crushed on his own.

I think it's more a fact that the cousin doesn't seem like he gets laid often. He's excited to be talking to a girl.

Let him get his heart crushed on his own.

It also annoys me that I'm taking him out and trying to show him how to talk to women and stuff but he won't do anything. Just says "Nah...Can't be bothered" even though I've just proved to him, beyond a shadow of a doubt that you can talk to women anywhere, anytime! I do this by doing it myself in front of him.

But for some reason he thinks that having a girl get him one of her friends will work.
Like I said, he's no Brad Pitt...And this is going to work as well as a wet fart in a space suit.
Like I said, he's apparently befriended her so she can get him the womenz...But I can tell you all now that it will not happen!

I'm trying to show him how to do it himself but he'd rather take what he thinks is the easier route. Even though it means pissing me off.

No, you're right. I remember a great uncle of mine was like this. I befriended a stepson of his, his mom and my uncle got divorced. He ended up bangng her sister, he came to my friend's garage one time, asking for a few hundred dollars from us (his ex step son, me, and my friend there)

He was a rich fuck to begin with. I picked up heavy duty bolt cutters, and proceded to bash his face. I cut his nose open somehow, and stole 5 and some thousand from his pockets. He never came back.

It's highly unlikely this will happen to your cousin or your ex, just keep it in mind.

I don't think you're in the wrong getting pissed, but a fair warning to your cousin's about all you can do.

And, I like the way you write..."idiot for nigh" "strapped for cash" things about tarts and pennies.

kill that bitch

It's disrespectfull that he'd get involved with someone that hurt you so badly. Infact, I think that's one of the shittiest things a family member can do.

So why are you still bothering with him? If he wants to get close to that cunt despite the harm she did you, why are you sticking around?


If she's as bad as she sounds, he'll suffer the consequences of being such a treacherous bastard to you in a month or two when she consumes him like the whoring infected succubus she is!

Got a 'chette if you want it...

Yeah I'd be really distraught if someone close to me did something like that. It's happened before, though, and it really sucks. Tell him straight!