So there is this girl who I will call M. She absolutley gorgeous and one of the coolest girls I have ever met in my life. She has a boyfriend, but sometimes it seems like I hang out with her more than he does. I have seen them together at parties, and It is apparent that either they dont show much pda, or they have little or no chemistry together. The only reason that makes me believe they are together is that they are "Married" on Facebook. Now I dont know if you guys have facebook or not, but you can be "In a Relationship, Single, Its complicated, In an open relationship, Engaged, or married." And they obviously arent married (were seniors in high school). Being married is like the unserious joke version of a relationship.

I met her at my friends house and we hit it off instantly. I made her laugh and she seemed to be into me also. We both shared a blanket and she fell asleep on my shoulder. Later that night we went to the side room away from where everyone was. We were laying down and she had her own blanket and I had mine, but then she went under into my blanket. We were facing the same direction with her back to me and we began talking and she slowly kept scooting back. Eventually we were pressed together and she started almost grinding on me. So i kept grinding back but I was hesitant to make a move for whatever reason. It was almost to the point where we were having dry sex. But she would start texting as we were doing this and I looked at her phone and it was her boyfriend. But after she sent the text we would start grinding again. Now I would have made a move, but I think that definitley could have ruined things.

We talked, and she told me about how she had always had a crush on me for the longest time. And I thought back and I did remember many signs but I never recognized that she might actually like me because she was so gorgeous, and seemed out of my league.

So we hang out almost every weekend after that and text each other and all that good stuff, but sometimes I think she is just the kind of girl that likes to play with other guys. She is extremely outgoing and not afraid to do anything. But I might be taking this the wrong way.

Then one weekend she invites me to a party and I go to it. She is wasted and introduces me to all of her friends. Then I say that I have to go to the bathroom, and she asks if she can come with. Now I was shitfaced at the time and I say I just have to take a piss. I later realized that it was the biggest mistake I made with her. The bathroom was where everyone was hooking up and shit like that. I told my friends and they all knew that I fucked up too.

her boyfriend was at the party though! he dosent drink, dosent want her to drink, and is basically a big pussy, but he is in a band and has a good sense of humor and is more athletic then me. I am more of a partier that has a good time and works a lot. I make her laugh and Im getting more and more comfortable with her. we share a lot of the same interests, but sometimes I think she may be using me just to party with me and to go to my friends who has a hookah. But then it seems like she honestly wants me. I think she knows that I really want her but Im not sure.

I visit her at work and we look at each other and there is definitley chemistry. She always makes an effort to hang out with me each weekend and I love just being around her whatever were doing. She calls me late at night and just asks random ass questions during school nights.

So my question is this.. Does it seem like she feels the same and wants me also? Should I make my move already? Or is that just the way she acts?? I know I want to make a move with her really bad and maybe im just being a big ass pussy. But IDK. I need some help dammit!

Bring up the boyfriend when talking to her. If she hits on you again, just say "Don't you have a boyfriend?"

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But I dont want to change the focus from me! Ive thought about doing that before but It may make her realize that what she is doing is wrong, and I sure as hell dont want her to think that! haha. She doesnt necessarilly hit on me, we just kind of flirt. If she really hit on me then I would make a move on her for sure. Its just kind of playfull night now. I want her to either make it evindent that we are just friends or give me a sign that I can take it to the next level.

But I dont want to change the focus from me!

Yes, you do.

You want her to think about what's going on and make a choice. If she wants you to be a boyfriend, that's positive; cheating isn't a positive thing. If she wants to be friends, then at least you'll know. Good luck.

But I dont want to change the focus from me! Ive thought about doing that before but It may make her realize that what she is doing is wrong, and I sure as hell dont want her to think that! haha. She doesnt necessarilly hit on me, we just kind of flirt. If she really hit on me then I would make a move on her for sure. Its just kind of playfull night now. I want her to either make it evindent that we are just friends or give me a sign that I can take it to the next level.

She knows what she's doing is wrong. She doesn't just magically forget about her boyfriend when she's around you. Asking her if she has a boyfriend will either:
a) Confirm that she does indeed have a boyfriend, which will lead to either:
1) Her cheating on you with said boyfriend (~50%)
2) Her leaving said boyfriend for you (unlikely)
3) Her feeling bad and running back to her boyfriend (~50%)
b) Lead to her telling you that she doesn't actually have a boyfriend, that he's just a fuck buddy or her gay best friend or something, which will lead to either:
1) Sex
2) Buttsecks

Yes, you do.

You want her to think about what's going on and make a choice.

Cheating isn't a positive thing. Good luck.

True, but thats the thing I dont even know if its a serious relationship! Thats why I am so hesitant about this. I dont know if they are really good friends or what. I wouldnt even be considering this if I didnt think that she had a legitimate interest in me. I think it would be awkward and weird just asking how another guy is doing.

True, but thats the thing I dont even know if its a serious relationship! Thats why I am so hesitant about this. I dont know if they are really good friends or what. I wouldnt even be considering this if I didnt think that she had a legitimate interest in me. I think it would be awkward and weird just asking how another guy is doing.

Communicate. Ask.

True, but thats the thing I dont even know if its a serious relationship! Thats why I am so hesitant about this. I dont know if they are really good friends or what. I wouldnt even be considering this if I didnt think that she had a legitimate interest in me. I think it would be awkward and weird just asking how another guy is doing.

You're never going to know unless you probe for answers. And don't wait, you don't want to get stuck in the friends zone. Gl/hf.

Ok.

On my bebo, my 'other half' is a very close female friend. If you saw us at a party a little intoxicated you would think we are together. She will normally be sitting near or on me, we will me sharing a fag or rolling a joint or something...

We are not together and we will never be... Just because some stupid online thing says they are 'married' it doesn't mean shit. They may simply be really good friends.

Say "don't you have a boyfriend?" This is the best thing you can do because she'll have to make a choice, and then you'll know for sure.

That is a very good point! I think I also had my self fooled into thinking that I didnt have a chance with her because she is so good looking. Wish me luck!

Yes, you do.

You want her to think about what's going on and make a choice. If she wants you to be a boyfriend, that's positive; cheating isn't a positive thing. If she wants to be friends, then at least you'll know. Good luck.

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