So, how important is it for guys, on a scale of 1-10, that a girl is really actively participating in the sex? If you're doing it missionary and she's just sort of laying there and doesn't want to be on top, does that bug you? Because I'm a girl and I try to be active and stuff, but I won't be if I don't have to be. If it's not making a really big difference, I would rather just sort of relax, you know?

It depends on the mood. Just laying there like you're bored is a huge turnoff, but relaxing and getting into it, and showing that you like it by making sounds and thrusting back is still nice.

Hands-free masturbation FTL.

Sex should be mutual participation. However the level of interaction should change depending on the mood and individual wants. For example my girlfriend loves it when I'm dominant, but I love it when she gets involved. So yea, it's hot when a girl actively participates ;)

Just lay there like you're dead. You've got more..."Are you done yet?" important things to think about. Like how much money you've got & what you're going..."Hurry up!" :( to do with it.

No one likes a starfish.

Why should I do all the damn work?!

One of the major reasons why relationships in bed fail is because women either don't communicate or participate. And men don't do suble hints or telepathy.

Why am I talking about communication in a participation thread? Well it pretty much comes down to same thing.

By participating you are communicating your desire.

Non-Verbal Full Body Communication if you prefer.

Grabbing his hand and thrusting it between your thighs, placing his finger on THAT spot, riding him harder as it draws near,thrusting your bum out-showing you want it.

Don't stifle moans. More experienced men judge what they are doing right by your breathing and moans.

Pushing him unto the bed and tearing his clothes off communicates a hella lot.

This...Fucking this!

I feel a little dirty just agreeing with jackketch, but QFMT!!!1!

My husband gets really turned on if I lay perfectly still and pretend to be asleep. I admit that he is a freak, though.

No, he's not a freak...its just you tend to sind along to the Duran Dyran CD otherwise...

"[off key]her naaaammmee iS RIIIIIooooO[/off key]" tends to put a man off his stroke.
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Recently We've been listening to Billy Idol when doing the Deed. So it's more: "In the midnight hour she cried more more more...With a rebel yell she cried more more more.":P

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Yeah, what Jack said.

Flip the question back at the females. Do you want active participation in other aspects of life? Like if a guy is trying to watch a ballgame and you just have to vent whatever is troubling you......you want actual discourse, or can I just relax with a plethora of "Uh huh", "really?", "ohhhhhh"? This could also apply to picking out china patterns, the new color scheme for the bathroom or other things guys don't give a flying fuck about.

Theres gotta be some movement or otherwise its like i have a realistic looking mannequin sprawled out taking it.

I get off on pleasing the girl more than if shes just on me and grinding, unless I'm a bit tired. I'm always looking to make her moan MOAR and MOAR so that's all the work I need my gf to do. She doesnt fake either. I love to watch her muscles twitch and her arms flail and her eyes roll back as I make her scream. Shit just talking about it makes me impatient for seeing her tonight after work!

If a chick is writhing and moaning and clawing at my ass, that's how I know she's having as good a time as I am.

But what if a Bi-girl like GeePee wants to maintain a psychological edge by 'starfishing'? Just lay there like a log & then ask, 'Is that all there is'?

Then she can put the dude in his place by talking about how much better chicks do the lovings.

After all? Love is: pretending that all relationships are not political & about power.