This is a continuation of an earlier thread about a friend.

I got back from Chicago, and I talked to her online this morning, and we made plans for me to drop the guitar I restrung for her off.

I went to her mothers house to pick her and another of our friends up along with her brother, and we were all hanging out at her apartment, we played darts, and listened to music, and chilled.

Now, this guy came over, I had never met him. some groddy looking guy, I didn't like him. Well, before this Our friend had left, and we were having fun. Then I started washing dishes cause of a mild case of OC'd, and I used to wash dishes when we lived together.

They put on a movie, and I sat down. Well, she asked me what I was doing tomorrow. I told her I wasn't doing much, and I started to pick up my stuff. I went for the door, and she told me good bye, I told her I'd see her tomorrow. I got in the car, and drove away.

Now, her and the guy I didn't like since he walked in the door, were really close on the couch when I left, and everyone knows what happens, although If you have some insight, feel free to give me some.

So, basically I've been playing hard to get with this girl, and All I really want is to tell her why, And I couldn't.

I sat in the car, and smoked a cigarette, and that was it.

Advice is greatly appreciated. Takes on the situation, better.

Listen to depressing love songs. Smoke more cigarettes whilst you listen. Look at a picture of her if you have one, and look like you might cry, but don't actually cry.

Then go back and tell her how you feel.

Tell her how you feel, if it'll make you feel better.

Past that, just leave her man, not worth it.

try not to be so fucking emo you dumb fuck.

You should possibly tell her.

Fuck it, what's the worst that's going to happen? You're going to get sent off to a foreign country into the middle of a war?


Yeah..

Just tell her mate.

I've missed out on some great chances with some really great girls because I was playing hard to get or was just too shit scared to tell this person that I had feelings for them.

Believe me, I liked my girlfriend from the moment I first spoke to her, which was early May.
She's really cool and funny and beautiful...So with those things in mind, I was shit scared of telling her how I felt.
Until one night just over a month ago I thought "Fuck this...I would rather have an awkward period between us and get over it than know I never even tried!"

So I did...And it seems to have worked out well.

I suggest the same course of action to you.

That's actually a brilliant idea.

try not to be so fucking emo you dumb fuck.

Generic tough guy comment. I wish I was as bad ass as you.

Well, right when I got in the car, and the radio came on, Should I stay, or Should I go came on.:( and then

You should possibly tell her.

Fuck it, what's the worst that's going to happen? You're going to get sent off to a foreign country into the middle of a war?


Yeah..

I might combine the above answer in to my telling her. But, I can't figure out what for sure I would say.

Something like, Hey, _____ you know your one of my greatest friends, most defiantly my longest friendship. and frankly I just can't do it, I can't tell you why, but blah blah blah.

AND WALK OUT THE FUCKING DOOR~

Why would you pull the George Mcfly and just walk out of that girls house with some random dude, whos closely up on her watching a movie? Thats dumb man.....but really there isnt too many hardcore/non asshole moves you can toss in there to solve a problem like that.

Why are you going to sob over this shit for the rest of your life? Thats one reason im where im at now, i cannot...CANNOT...sit and kill my mind with worries/what ifs since i fucked around with some girl and missed my chance type situation. Im fucking out there finding out the answer and doing shit so there is none of those worries/what ifs to be found because i found out the answer to all of them...

Dont fuck yourself up thinking about this situation all the time man, that'd be my main piece of advice right now.

So, I'll ask her how she feels about me leaving, Once again. For the third time.

Why are you asking her how she feels?

Don't you have something to express?

Not when your on that level............

Alright, tell her how I feel, and her how she feels?

I might take her out to play pool tonight.

This dude is going to have it tough, musking up his courage to tell her this shit....

I know if i was in this situation i wouldn't even think about taking the step your taking...that is breaking it down 100% and coming out verbally letting her know. I'd have my own way to go about that.....

Also on another note, wasn't this girl previously taken in your other thread/part? Or am i confusing this story?

Dude quit blowing money/time on her if you get the impression she doesn't like you. Just tell her and get it over with, for your sake.

why dont you flirt with her first and see where that goes?

you dont jsut have to jump off the deep end.....feel your way around...

just flirt with her and be kinda sexual i dunno man this is the only thread i have read so i dont really know your situation

http://www.totse.com/community/showthread.php?t=2076760

Thats the original thread. From what I gather it's some chick he knew years ago and hung out with a few times now, and blew a lot of money on.

I really don't think you're gonna get anywhere with this, bud, especially if that other guy is in the picture.

Just keep driving, bro. If she thinks some grody ass guy is better than you, then fuck her man! You've got places to go and women to do. In other words: DON'T see her tomorrow. See someone else. :)

Since no one really knows the whole story, and I'm not going to spell it out.

Today she was sick, so I was near her apartment and dropped off some cookies with a note. She wasn't there, but her roommate told me she would get them. I called her when I got back to see if she still wanted to play pool, alas she was still not feeling well, and hanging around her mothers apartment. So, I'm going to go with my sister and my brother in law.

I mentioned I stopped by her apartment, and her roommates have the cookies, and There was a cute silence, and I told her that I hope she feels better * sheepishly*. There was a sort of Awwww, thanks. And I could here a smile in her voice. It was cute.

...next?

In that case, we can't help if you won't tell us wtf is going on, either spill it so we can figure it out and say something that can actually help you, or don't bother asking at all.

You sound way, way too whipped/pushover, though, but that's just IMO.

And to all those people who are saying I have spent too much money, I've spent a total of 30 dollars. The rest of it have been hookups from people I know. In total, probably $300. But, she doesn't know that, and she doesn't need to.

So, yea. I probably should have made that clear, as much as it sounds like I'm working on this whole thing, and spending money, I'm not.

Alright, so it just looks like you're a desperate, wimpy guy, instead of actually being one. Suppose that's a plus.

Still, have you gotten ANY serious indication that this chick likes you?

haha suck shit looks like you played to hard and she couldn't be fucked chasing after you. if you look anything how you sound in your post i woldnt blame her. you should harden the fuck up and just tell her.prolly to late now though.

also why'd you need to take her guitar to your house to restring it? it takes like 10 mins.

You should've thrown that guy out the door, instead of walking out it yourself. Tell her how you feel. If she would rather spend her time with guys like the one you described then forget her. She wont be worth your time or effort.

I'm re-stringing another guitar for her tonight at her apartment, sooo.

EDIT: and I am fucking other girls, its just It doesn't make me happy.

Sounds like a contradiction right there....

If i spoof out with some girl, and move elsewhere that'll make me happy. I got literally shut down by the one girl, felt bad for a few days, then like in a week i picked up on another girl and did work, and it just canceled out any negative feelings on that past situation. Maybe your different though ahey?