yep thats right, i never have a normal orgasm...ever...


seriously though, ive been on various anti depressants, and much higher levels then those used for depression, its really the only off label options i have for control of my OCD

but i think its psychological...when i try to jack off, as i get real hard and approach orgasm, i lose focus, it becomes less pleasurable, and i start to get soft...it takes me over an hour and its quite strained, forced, and it ends in me being a sweaty exhausted mess....i remember the good old days when i got off in 5 minutes

but then with my girlfriend i get hard fast and start dripping pre cum like a mother, im really turned on...now i dont know this for sure, but i have a feeling i wouldnt last too long, cause i feel like my dicks gonna explode, and especially cause im a virgin and shes experienced and smoking hot...i know its probably just unrealistic expectations and other anxieties i have about losing my virginity, but yeah i was talking to her ex, he said it took her 20 minutes or so fingering and 30 during sex....or at least 30 for him...really the only advantage i have over all of her exes is my size...8 inch cocks aren't that common, and shes only had so many boyfriends....


so help totse, i really want to impress this chick, but if i take amphetamines or up my anti depressant dose i might not be able to get up at all no matter how much she turns me on....why cant i just last 10 minutes every time like everyone else?


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yep thats right, i never have a normal orgasm...ever...


seriously though, ive been on various anti depressants, and much higher levels then those used for depression, its really the only off label options i have for control of my OCD

but i think its psychological...when i try to jack off, as i get real hard and approach orgasm, i lose focus, it becomes less pleasurable, and i start to get soft...it takes me over an hour and its quite strained, forced, and it ends in me being a sweaty exhausted mess....i remember the good old days when i got off in 5 minutes

but then with my girlfriend i get hard fast and start dripping pre cum like a mother, im really turned on...now i dont know this for sure, but i have a feeling i wouldnt last too long, especially cause im a virgin and shes experienced and smoking hot...i know its probably just unrealistic expectations and other anxieties i have about losing my virginity, but yeah i was talking to her ex, he said it took her 20 minutes or so fingering and 30 during sex....or at least 30 for him...really the only advantage i have over all of her exes is my size...8 inch cocks aren't that common, and shes only had so many boyfriends....


so help totse, i really want to impress this chick, but if i take amphetamines or up my anti depressant dose i might not be able to get up at all no matter how much she turns me on....why cant i just last 10 minutes every time like everyone else?


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First of all DO NOT TRY AND IMPRESS HER. It isn't important and trust me she doesn't give a shit if you're a virgin. Girls are more than willing to take it slow with you and get you comfortable. Not everyone is such a bitch to toss you out of the bed if you can't fuck for 30 minutes.

Also, why are you talking to her ex about how he fucked her? Uh......................? Dude, just take it slow. Stop being in such a rush man, trust me sex at a young age is overrated because no one is comfortable with anything on their body. Even the most slutty and smoking hot bitches.

First of all DO NOT TRY AND IMPRESS HER. It isn't important and trust me she doesn't give a shit if you're a virgin. Girls are more than willing to take it slow with you and get you comfortable. Not everyone is such a bitch to toss you out of the bed if you can't fuck for 30 minutes.

Also, why are you talking to her ex about how he fucked her? Uh......................? Dude, just take it slow. Stop being in such a rush man, trust me sex at a young age is overrated because no one is comfortable with anything on their body. Even the most slutty and smoking hot bitches.

hes one of my good friends, i had to wait a while for them to get over eachother, i didnt want to be the dick girl friend stealer, and i waited till he was 100 percent for it and didnt care

also, its really discouraging when people say shit like who the fuck cums in 5 minutes ect ect...

god i hope this guy is right about her sucking at sex, thats what he said, hes like yeah i can cum in 5 minutes cause i know what i like but she was terrible


maybe cause he has a small dick?

yeah it sounds like too much info, but me and my friends are usually really open about this shit

another thing i wanted to add is me and her got on the topic of sex and getting off in general and shes like blah blah mostly guys take 5-10 minutes but sometimes they take 20...i know thats really a bitch thing to talk about your exes but i dont have much self esteem so i let it go, but that causes concern that if i didnt make it past two minutes or whatever, or just some fucking nightmare like lasting 20 seconds i know this anxiety and obsession makes it worse but dude just the thought of how embarrassing it would be and how crappy i would feel...i dont know.


also something stupid i used to do, when i masturbate to help me get off faster i sorta had a fetish for a girl humiliating me about not being good enough, and it worked it really was the only way to get around the anti depressant thing, i dont know its something psychological



also, how useful are kegel exercises? i think ill look into them

hes one of my good friends, i had to wait a while for them to get over eachother, i didnt want to be the dick girl friend stealer, and i waited till he was 100 percent for it and didnt care

also, its really discouraging when people say shit like who the fuck cums in 5 minutes ect ect...

god i hope this guy is right about her sucking at sex, thats what he said, hes like yeah i can cum in 5 minutes cause i know what i like but she was terrible


maybe cause he has a small dick?

yeah it sounds like too much info, but me and my friends are usually really open about this shit

Yeah because how quickly you cum relates to dick size....and her sucking at sex is due to her own insecurities. Don't worry about it.

another thing i wanted to add is me and her got on the topic of sex and getting off in general and shes like blah blah mostly guys take 5-10 minutes but sometimes they take 20...i know thats really a bitch thing to talk about your exes but i dont have much self esteem so i let it go, but that causes concern that if i didnt make it past two minutes or whatever, or just some fucking nightmare like lasting 20 seconds i know this anxiety and obsession makes it worse but dude just the thought of how embarrassing it would be and how crappy i would feel...i dont know.


also something stupid i used to do, when i masturbate to help me get off faster i sorta had a fetish for a girl humiliating me about not being good enough, and it worked it really was the only way to get around the anti depressant thing, i dont know its something psychological



also, how useful are kegel exercises? i think ill look into them

Buddy, you haven't even fucked and you are worrying about how long you will last. Does an athlete train without ever knowing the results? No...

Kegal exercises do work because they strengthen the PC muscle. What you need to do is first work on getting over your anxiety with self-doubt. Even if you were to cum in your pants at the sight of her naked, it wouldn't even matter.

What anyone thinks of you doesn't matter, nothing matters man, I hope you can realize this and just pursue satisfaction without worrying about the little details.

it would be so easy to just find a practice girl

lol why cant life be like that


thanks for the help man, i know all this is irrational, but that doesnt make it go away, i truly gotta learn how to face fears...its just like any phobia, like stupid shit like fear of spiders, its not inherent or valid, its perceived, but that knowledge does not make it go away, its psychologically there....


i think my best bet is to practice with lucid dreams, those are probably the best way of overcoming fears i can think of, its your own virtual reality

so i was just talking to her on aim, i feel a lot better because she just took a lot of pressure off me, which highly reduces the chance of me coming to quick. the reason i would come too quick is because i feel shes superior or that shes had better or whatever...

Exactly it all perceived. Facing your fears is just that, facing your fears. That is why it is hard, if it was easy everyone would be king shit in the bedroom. Most people don't have the balls to swallow their pride. If you really want a practice girl though, this is why hookers came about :P

so i was just talking to her on aim, i feel a lot better because she just took a lot of pressure off me, which highly reduces the chance of me coming to quick. the reason i would come too quick is because i feel shes superior or that shes had better or whatever...

Her: but i'm gonna let you know now, i have no idea how to act or what to do or how do it in like both people care and it's not all about the sex and shit kind of relationships.
Her: i'm a newbie at this
Me: im a newbie at sexual encounters hon
Me: but its good you care about more than sex or else it would be pointless to date me
Me: well i shouldnt say that i havent done it yet
Me: but really who the hell is any good the first few times...i dk
Her: i think you think i have this expereince at sex and i know what i'm doing.
Her: i have no fucking clue.
Me: good cause i dont either
Her: and it's not like i know how to make a guy come or i can tell a guy how to make me come.
Me: that sorta happens over time i think...unless you are really specific about what to do to eachother
Her: it does happen over time.
Me: practice makes perfect
Her: that it does
Me: well this is helpful
Me: i feel a lot better now
Me: lol
Her: what? that you know the secret to my slutty-ness? lol
Me: yeah that im not the only one whos gonna suck at it :-P
Her: lol
Her: it doesn't matter
Her: we have all the time in the world to get it right.

Okay, first off stop saying you are shitty at sex. You don't know, you've never fucked. If she wants to say she sucks at sex, great who fucking cares let her be a self-doubter the rest of her life. Anyways, a cold and dark warehouse does not sound like a good place to get "comfortable" with sex.

Most friends won't let you fuck at their house I bet, so I would say try and find a hotel room, anything with clean sheets and a place to lay. I think what might be tight is if you had some sleeping bags and I would go to a near by park and setup camp in a sleeping bag. Keep each other warm right? Lol.

Exactly it all perceived. Facing your fears is just that, facing your fears. That is why it is hard, if it was easy everyone would be king shit in the bedroom. Most people don't have the balls to swallow their pride. If you really want a practice girl though, this is why hookers came about :P



Okay, first off stop saying you are shitty at sex. You don't know, you've never fucked. If she wants to say she sucks at sex, great who fucking cares let her be a self-doubter the rest of her life. Anyways, a cold and dark warehouse does not sound like a good place to get "comfortable" with sex.

Most friends won't let you fuck at their house I bet, so I would say try and find a hotel room, anything with clean sheets and a place to lay. I think what might be tight is if you had some sleeping bags and I would go to a near by park and setup camp in a sleeping bag. Keep each other warm right? Lol.

lol where the fuck are you getting these ideas that we are going to do it in a warehouse? and i know it might be mean but it makes me feel better if shes a self doubter...

and yes we will fuck at her house or mine, probably hers, cause her parents know she has done it with her boyfriends and they just need to sorta know me and see me around a lot and then bingo we get to shut the door

we're both 17 by the way, her parents are really chill, and i dont have to kiss ass to impress the dad cause hes not around a lot


and where did you get the idea we are friends or sex buddies? shes my girlfriend man

lol where the fuck are you getting these ideas that we are going to do it in a warehouse? and i know it might be mean but it makes me feel better if shes a self doubter...

and yes we will fuck at her house or mine, probably hers, cause her parents know she has done it with her boyfriends and they just need to sorta know me and see me around a lot and then bingo we get to shut the door

we're both 17 by the way, her parents are really chill, and i dont have to kiss ass to impress the dad cause hes not around a lot


and where did you get the idea we are friends or sex buddies? shes my girlfriend man

Lol, I mixed you and this other guy up. Woops, so you aren't fucking in a warehouse, she's your girlfriend, and you have to wait until they let you close the door?

Okay, everything still applies. Even more so now that she is your girl and wants to fuck. Alright then, take her to a fucking park with some sleeping bags! What are you waiting for? That shit is dark, secluded, discrete, comfortable, close. What more do you want? I'm horny just thinking about fucking a bitch in a sleeping bag at night, under a moon, near a lake...shit.

Lol, I mixed you and this other guy up. Woops, so you aren't fucking in a warehouse, she's your girlfriend, and you have to wait until they let you close the door?

Okay, everything still applies. Even more so now that she is your girl and wants to fuck. Alright then, take her to a fucking park with some sleeping bags! What are you waiting for? That shit is dark, secluded, discrete, comfortable, close. What more do you want? I'm horny just thinking about fucking a bitch in a sleeping bag at night, under a moon, near a lake...shit.

first off, even if missionary were to give me a little more time, theres no way she would get off to it and we both hate the idea of it

second, we dont want to fuck outdoors, and what are we waiting for? well i still have to get to fingering her and things like that we arent going to fuck tomorrow or anything...but still its only been a few days and i got to feel her up, would have gone further if her parents hadn't been home

first off, even if missionary were to give me a little more time, theres no way she would get off to it and we both hate the idea of it

second, we dont want to fuck outdoors, and what are we waiting for? well i still have to get to fingering her and things like that we arent going to fuck tomorrow or anything...but still its only been a few days and i got to feel her up, would have gone further if her parents hadn't been home

Why wouldn't she get off to missionary? Why do you hate the idea of it? And you don't want to fuck outdoors?

Trust me man, she isn't going to get off the first 20 times you fuck her. Also...in the title you should of included that you were 12.

first off, even if missionary were to give me a little more time, theres no way she would get off to it and we both hate the idea of it
lol wut?

whatever, you guys are a bunch of fuckers anyways

I wasn't trying to be rude, but honestly if your a virgin missionary is probably the way to go. It's pretty much par for the course.

yeah, she said "its a good position to start with" but i find it so unappealing...i dont know, thats just me i guess....

i was mostly annoyed with carbonb anyways, who was helpful until hes like LULZ YOUZ A 12 YEAR OLD

yeah, she said "its a good position to start with" but i find it so unappealing...i dont know, thats just me i guess....

i was mostly annoyed with carbonb anyways, who was helpful until hes like LULZ YOUZ A 12 YEAR OLD

Well look at how you're acting. I'm not Mr. Nice Guy who holds your dick for you through puberty. These are mother fucking gems I'm giving you, and you can't set aside your ego for a second to absorb the good advice.

You aren't even ready to have sex with your girlfriend, and you are worried about premature ejaculation? Have sex first, and then if there is a problem we can address it. That is why I was basically telling you to fuck your girlfriend in a park inside a sleeping bag so we can actually see if you have a problem. Understand twelve year old?

You can always spice up missionary by lifting her legs up to various heights and going deeper and all that jive. Plus you get to play with her tits! There's a whole lot of shit you can do to spice up missionary. Actually, I dont know if its still called missionary once you change it . Regardless, I think this is probably the best one to start with. Either this or doggy, but some girls don't like doggy, and I assume they wouldn't like noob-doggy much either. Just go with the missionary.

Delayed ejaculation? Sounds like wanking, having an orgasm, pulling up the shorts and then blowing it in your pants 10 minutes later.

when did i get all filled with pride? im listening to all of everyones advice man...just chill

and i can worry about sex all i want before i do it, if not then i guess ill never do it or never be ready according to you

whatever though, thats just my ego aside and all trying to take your advice, which suddenly went sour

really man, i liked what you were saying, even when it wasnt what i wanted to hear, but then it got just plain fucking stupid, fuck off.

and i think i dont have much ego here given that ive come forward asking for help on the issue rather than thinking im going to be awesome at it and that i will know exactly what to do and that i dont need advice. i know its the internet but how is there any pride in asking how to deal with premature ejaculation anxiety? who cares if i havent done it, its a worse case sceneario that isnt easy for me to get around in my head even if its simple in real life. if you are that bad at understanding this issue has significance to me and that i perceive it as a big deal, then don't bother giving advice next time.

Lol, I laughed.

when did i get all filled with pride? im listening to all of everyones advice man...just chill

and i can worry about sex all i want before i do it, if not then i guess ill never do it or never be ready according to you

whatever though, thats just my ego aside and all trying to take your advice, which suddenly went sour

really man, i liked what you were saying, even when it wasnt what i wanted to hear, but then it got just plain fucking stupid, fuck off.

and i think i dont have much ego here given that ive come forward asking for help on the issue rather than thinking im going to be awesome at it and that i will know exactly what to do and that i dont need advice. i know its the internet but how is there any pride in asking how to deal with premature ejaculation anxiety? who cares if i havent done it, its a worse case sceneario that isnt easy for me to get around in my head even if its simple in real life. if you are that bad at understanding this issue has significance to me and that i perceive it as a big deal, then don't bother giving advice next time.

Fucking stupid is worrying about premature ejaculation when you haven't even fucked your girl yet. That's like her saying it hurts to put it in her ass when she's never tried.

Lol, I laughed.



Fucking stupid is worrying about premature ejaculation when you haven't even fucked your girl yet. That's like her saying it hurts to put it in her ass when she's never tried.

thanks for that, thats +1, ill put that in my self esteem box, that was just so amazingly helpful that i dont have to worry about it because it hasnt happened yet.

god you're an idiot, im worried about the possibility of it happening, not about it happening for sure, its human...

thats like saying im driving drunk but i dont have to worry about getting in trouble until im in jail getting raped in the ass, yeah why don't i live carelessly and die in a few years while im at it

thanks for that, thats +1, ill put that in my self esteem box, that was just so amazingly helpful that i dont have to worry about it because it hasnt happened yet.

god you're an idiot, im worried about the possibility of it happening, not about it happening for sure, its human...

thats like saying im driving drunk but i dont have to worry about getting in trouble until im in jail getting raped in the ass, yeah why don't i live carelessly and die in a few years while im at it

First of all if you were arrested driving drunk, you would be put in a city jail. So no reason for you to worry about ass rape. As to me being an idiot because you can't get over your own fear....well fuck you.

You're the idiot. A kid, who will only realize what I'm saying when you are older and more experienced. The hesitation you feel is normal, but grow some fucking balls. What is the worse that can happen?

Get over your anxiety pussy.

First of all if you were arrested driving drunk, you would be put in a city jail. So no reason for you to worry about ass rape. As to me being an idiot because you can't get over your own fear....well fuck you.

You're the idiot. A kid, who will only realize what I'm saying when you are older and more experienced. The hesitation you feel is normal, but grow some fucking balls. What is the worse that can happen?

Get over your anxiety pussy.

He's right house, you really have no idea what your talking about because you've never had sex. Just dive in and find out. If you actually are a premature ejaculator, then come back for advice then. At this point it's pointless to try and help you because you might not even need help. You not even listening to the advice thats being given.


Fuck the chick and report back.

god you're an idiot, im worried about the possibility of it happening, not about it happening for sure, its human...

Ok, this'll sort this out, it's probably the most straightfoward answer you'll get:
Wear a condom. If you cum too soon just say something along the lines of "Sorry about that. I'm good for another though" and keep going. Don't bother with taking drugs, they're more likely to stop you even getting hard in the first place. If you need booze, just have one shot of spirits before hand to help the nerves, don't get fucking plastered, 'cause you'll probably either never get hard or you'll fuck way too awkwardly and still cum too early. What happens happens, learn to accept it if you don't have the balls to go to the doctors and say "I am a premature ejaculator and I'm on anti-depressants, how can medical science help me?"
It's your first time, it's expected that'll you'll be a lousy fuck and won't have her screaming "fuck me, you mighty stallion!"

ugh, im sorry everyone

you guys are right, like usual

i feel like an asshole, i really do, but really if you are trying to help me or point out how im wrong, could you not be such a jerk about it? thats just going to make me not want to listen to you....

No problems. Now, I'm off into the night, to solve more problems. For I am EssJay! AWAY!

Normally i'd close this and tell the OP to go to a doc but as its turned into a halfway decent thread it can stay up.

But remember peoples, if it won't go up or won't go down, go to a doc and not totse.

so i lost my v-card

and i didnt even end up coming

i really dont know if its the meds or because i was so nervous, but what can you do?

i really was worrying over absolutely nothing, thank you carbon b, you were right, i really didnt know what the fuck i was even talking about

No worries, just keep on pumping!

so i lost my v-card

and i didnt even end up coming

Congrats. But I'm sure if you go down to the local transport authority office and fill out the correct forms they should have a new card ready for you in about half an hour. Just don't get a shitty photo taken.