so tbis new girl at work is really hot and well after a few days of talking to her at work i realize that she is really cool. so i decide to ask her out
so i ask, and well she said no but i did get her number. and ever since me and her have gotten along really well, and we text alot but she still says that she doesnt want a relationship right now?!
what the hell is going on?

Let's see here. Chick strings you along by being ultra friendly, texts you all the time, but doesn't want a relationship right now? It's very likely that she's fucking someone else and is only using you to meet her emotional needs, after fucking the other guy who is probably more experienced and knows that if you want to tap that ass, there's no "being friends" about it.

You came on being too nice to her. You established yourself as a friend. You already blew it man, and now you're going to be stuck with the sloppy seconds in the form of her emotional baggage/friendship bullshit, or nothing at all.

You've become her emotional tampon. Unless your into that sort of thing(gay) I suggest you stop being strung along.

she might have a boyfriend....this JUST fucking happened to me this week...

some bangin girl seemed to be hot for me and well when the time came for me to ask her when she is coming over i find out she has a boyfriend of 1.5 years....and on top of that!!! she still wants to come over....................................


i dont fuck around with that cuz karma is a bitch

OP, you need to seriously evaluate who the woman in this friendship really is, you little bitch.

I think you're being selfish. Most people are who are like this. Stringing him along? She's being nice! Is she hinting about how she wants you in bed? How you/her would look naked? Is she flirting? Chances are she isn't.

She probably just wants a friend. Man, chicks get shafted this day and age... If they don't put out, they're prude, if they fuck a lot they're a slut, if they're friendly they're a tease, and if the're unemotional they're a cold bitch.

If she says she doesn't want a relationship, she doesn't want one with YOU.

Also, I've never come off as anything but nice to girls (more or less, there are a dozen or so exceptions), and I get laid. So anyone who wants to go saying nice guys finish last or that if you don't treat a girl like she isn't worth your time she won't sleep with you can suck on my wrinkled scrotum.

I suck and fuck black cocks.

This clears up a lot of things. Thank you for sharing that with us.

This clears up a lot of things. Thank you for sharing that with us.

Wow man. You're so clever. You showed me.

This guy knows what he's talking about.

Jesus Crist you gonna take advice from somebody who never even had a piece of pussy. Listen Smacknixon might be good for advice on not tellin mommy what daddy did while they wrestle or how uncle dickie took him to get ice cream and they ate it in the park but that is all he is good for. That and busting windows and setting trash cans on fire. You do know he is a nigger right

HAHAHAHA I have a totse stalker!!

Thank you.

Well assuming she's not fucking someone else and using you as an afformentioned "emotional tampon" (which she probably is), then she's genuinely not looking for a relationship right now. Let me ask you something though? Did you ask her out by saying "Will you go out with me?". If you did, that's where you fucked up. First you ask her if she wants to hang out/eat dinner/see a movie/etc. Then you go from there...If you don't know where to go from there then I'm sorry...too much to type.

no she isnt really flirting but from the moment she met me she has singled me out, she times her breaks so that she takes hers same time i do, she gave me her number without me even hinting at it, and she talks to me all the time but rarely talks to anyone else?!

Well assuming she's not fucking someone else and using you as an afformentioned "emotional tampon" (which she probably is), then she's genuinely not looking for a relationship right now. Let me ask you something though? Did you ask her out by saying "Will you go out with me?". If you did, that's where you fucked up. First you ask her if she wants to hang out/eat dinner/see a movie/etc. Then you go from there...If you don't know where to go from there then I'm sorry...too much to type.

roughly my words were "would you like to go out sometime"

She's made it clear she doesn't want a relationship. And you insist that she goes out of her way to hang out with you...

... She wants your cock.

She's not into you creepo.

Get over her. Be polite and friendly, but in a detached way. The same way you would treat a customer or something.

If she rejected you there's nothing you can do. You could be persistent and win her over, but in the end you'll be the guy who chased after her like a lost puppy, and have literally no power in the relationship.

Or you could ruin the huge ego she gets boost knowing that you like her, by promptly getting over her and showing that she's not so great that you're going to sit around mooning after her.

Play it cooool dawg. Let the ladies come to you.

they dont come to me though :(
im not sure why cause im not a bad looking guy so i have been told
i did get a gay guy come to me one time
i promptly threatened to beat his ass

Get the fuck over it and learn to focus on something else. Some of the greatest minds in history existed without an ass to slap. Not that you or I have the potential to join their ranks, but still. Seeing as how you're from Oklahoma and judging by your responses here, I actually have a pretty good mental picture of your mentality and in fact, I would severely warn you NOT to go fucking around with women until you're older because if you do, here's what's going to happen:

- You're going to find a slutty bitch that's all over you.

- You'll be chomping on her line and following her lead like a lost puppy.

- She's going to give you good sex.

- She'll manipulate you.

- She'll wind up pregnant.

- She'll take the baby and run, but still collect an asston of child support.

- You'll be working at 7/11 forever.

Get the fuck over it and learn to focus on something else. Some of the greatest minds in history existed without an ass to slap. Not that you or I have the potential to join their ranks, but still. Seeing as how you're from Oklahoma and judging by your responses here, I actually have a pretty good mental picture of your mentality and in fact, I would severely warn you NOT to go fucking around with women until you're older because if you do, here's what's going to happen:

- You're going to find a slutty bitch that's all over you.

- You'll be chomping on her line and following her lead like a lost puppy.

- She's going to give you good sex.

- She'll manipulate you.

- She'll wind up pregnant.

- She'll take the baby and run, but still collect an asston of child support.

- You'll be working at 7/11 forever.

how the hell can you guess my mentality just from being oklahoma
its a failry large area and lots of different people
i have been told to be a lil different from most people around here i have been told i over analyze everything
which i guess i do cause im doing it now
i think thats most of my problem

Sounds like you're in the friend zone. Sorry man, it happens.

Get over her. Be polite and friendly, but in a detached way. The same way you would treat a customer or something.

Play it cooool dawg. Let the ladies come to you.

Well put! Stop treating her like shes special, if you can even stop talking to her, take a break. Cause eventually if you think about it, if you talk to the girl sooo much via text/phone why should she need to hang out with you in person? You basically called the need/reason to go out....to get to know each other better. And you got a pretty fucking long line, if you hold yourself well, with a girl where you can text/talk the fuck out of her, just depends what you talk about and how you do it....such as the Will you go out with me versus hey next week we should hangout at etc....presentation.

And just cause she said no it doesnt mean hes shut out for good.....but assuming that he asked her out, then she proceeded to say she doesnt want a relationship? That points to me that you actually said something more than, hey lets go out somewhere sometime. Cause otherwise if you said just that shed take it as a friendly invitation to get together elsewhere outside of work and only that. Ive had rejections before to not be able to hang out, with fresh new girls ive talked to, and never have they said once after i asked them to meet me sometime for the 1st time that Oh im not ready for a relationship right now.

honestly i feel like i truely learn from totse
i have been just trying to act like most of you guys said and things have been improving
she is opening back up to how it was at first so i think ill just see how things play out