I've gotten myself into a bit of a predicament.. (or at least from my perspective.) I recently said to this girl that I'm friends with but not quite exactly on a superbly personal level "Hey, I was wondering if you want to hang out some time". I really couldn't get much more vague. Automatically the response hit me like a brick in the skull "Sure! Where/when!?". That's a mighty good question, seeing as I don't know myself! I've had this happen before and I should have at least thought it out some. I don't know if it's just me and her, us and our entourage, where to go/what to do.. not to mention that I'm not quite on a personal level yet, so "just say her/you're place" may come off a bit awkward.

I would just say "I don't know, what works for you?" but wouldn't make me seem rather flaky and kind of lame? (HEY! Lets do something! I dunno when or where, but it might happen! )

Well S&A, got any tips/suggestions/wise and insightful bits of advice?

And if it helps, I'm 16 (highschool student obviously)

I'm in the same boat as you, man

So, S&A, got any advice?

Damn, you guys are stupid as hell.

Stop being so insecure.

Coffee, then a movie (in theaters if your place still seems awkward).

Alternately: plan a pic-nic.

-F☺rd

Cook her something and then watch videos/dvds.

I find it so much more simple to just have them hang out at your house when parents are out.

The black guy out of 40 Year Old Virgin doesn't lie.

Don't put the pussy on a pedastal.

False! He's black, of course he lies! http://www.totse.com/community/images/icons/icon8.gif

this.

Stop being so insecure.

and this.

Seriously. Watch movies. Play a game. Go swimming. Go out to lunch. If she likes video games do that too. Anything mutually entertaining works.

the first time I hung out with my girlfriend we did the following:
-watched a movie
-played Battleship. Yes, that Battleship. I won, and I didn't even mean to. She sucks so royally at it that I couldn't even let her win without making it blatantly obvious I was doing so.
-jumped on the trampoline
Now, a year and a half later, we have lots of awesome sex. My advice: play battleship with her, and you'll be hitting a lot more than her aircraft carrier in no time.
c wut i did thar lulz?

Get her over to your place and watch a film or something.

Make an impersonal relationship personal! ;)

Cook her and then watch videos/dvds.

Fixed for you.

ahahaahaa ^^ Nice one!


Just go watch a movie at your place/cinema, depending if your willing to pay or not.

i say you ask her if she wants to go get some coffee (makes you sound classy... then again, i dunno if you like the whole "classy" act... i personally as a girl like it though, but its better if you are just kidding around about it). Make sure the cafe is near your place so that afterwards you can just say "oh, well i live just around the corner, wanna come over or something? my parents are out so its cool :)"

meh, that would work on me... but not many girls are like me so i dunno

I say go out for coffee. Last time a guy asked me out for coffee, we ended up swimming in an aqueduct half naked. And then we dated for a while. Winnar for you.

ya...i like the movies thing. Though making out while watching Saw was really funny.

Go to a really cool coffee shop. Like, where I live, there's one called Caffeine... it's the coolest fucking place ever, even has live music soemtimes. Just go somewhere were you can relate intimately to her.

I'm in the exact same situation and I'll probably take her to a movie or something. Coffee shop sounds way too boring. I think skating would be nice but I can't for shit.

Coffee shop is only as boring as you are, mate. :/ It's the perfect chance for conversation.

this.



and this.

Seriously. Watch movies. Play a game. Go swimming. Go out to lunch. If she likes video games do that too. Anything mutually entertaining works.

the first time I hung out with my girlfriend we did the following:
-watched a movie
-played Battleship. Yes, that Battleship. I won, and I didn't even mean to. She sucks so royally at it that I couldn't even let her win without making it blatantly obvious I was doing so.
-jumped on the trampoline
Now, a year and a half later, we have lots of awesome sex. My advice: play battleship with her, and you'll be hitting a lot more than her aircraft carrier in no time.
c wut i did thar lulz?


i c wut u did thar, and yes, I found that one quite entertaining. +1 to you sir.

Just run it son, ive been in that situation many times, you ask a chick what do you want to do and they leave it up to you to make the decision usually. Usually they say i dont know, anywhere is good or some shit like that. So i just choose up and pick somewhere.

Usually if its a new girl, ill meet up with her at the mall then if things go good we'll catch some dinner or some eats after wards, then maybe stop at a few more places along the way back home. Just give it the process and let things flow. Meet somewhere public then if you can take it somewhere private(if you want, but dont force it). Or if you want to start at her place and do that, go for it as long as shes ok with it.

Went to her place and watched movies and TV for like.. 8 hours.

No problemo any more.. granted it wasn't very intimate (other friends showed up and what not, but hey.. who cares?)

i c wut u did thar, and yes, I found that one quite entertaining. +1 to you sir.

Why, I'm flattered! An imaginary +1 to you as well my good man! It's gratifying to know my experiences are as entertaining as they are educational.

Gotta be more in charge. No "would you like to do this" just, we're going to the fucking swings.

Just tell her the truth. Tell her you want to hang out in the gym lockerroom at 4:30 on Tuesday after school. Tell her not to wear panties.


Don't be a little bitch and say, "oh, i dunno, you can wear dem if u want". Be a MAN, rip her panties off right then and there, and say "WOMAN, YOU BETTER STAY LIKE THIS TILL I'M DONE WITH YOU!"

Suggest doing something that you enjoy; something that other people enjoy as well, ideally. It's up to her to take you up on the offer.

There are always plenty of things to see or do. It's not hard to indulge.

The when usually doesn't matter, just pick a time that you're free and go from there.