this is not a how do i lose it, or i lost it thread, so please dont close it


sex sounds awesome

sex for the first time scares the fucking shit out of me...
i mean, everyone is scared their first time, but i think i would shit myself or chicken out...

if i did it with someone i love then it probably wouldn't matter, there wouldn't be worries about performance.

but girls i try to date have experience i dont want to get compared to other partners from their past. also the girls that want to have sex with me i really really dig, so if im really shitty at it its not like the practice girl where i dont care

and the reason i wont do it with a practice girl is because thats the worst and most desperate way to lose virginity, aside from a prostitute...

so people experienced with sex, mostly the anxieties, i appreciate any help

ive had a blow job once but i was under the influence... i could do the same thing for losing my virginity but then it wouldnt be something meaningful

is it too old fashioned for a guy to want the first time meaningful? after the first time most of the sex will be casual and a piece of ass type of thing, but from what i hear, guys who lost their virginity to someone who wont remember their name, they really regretted it

sorry this is long and hastily typed

First of all losing your virginity isn't like landing on the moon, it's not gonna change your life really all that much, unless you're a girl. You shouldnt have any anxiety man just get her wet and get it hard. Have her stick it in for you though because I thought I was sticking it in her urethra when me n my girl fucked for the first time cause she's so tight. She's all like "Uhh thats where it goes go ahead and stick it in..." But ya the main thing is dont bust in like 10 seconds like most guys do (including myself) for their first time if you want to continue fucking this girl. Get an extended pleasure condom if necessary. And remember if you're doing it doggy pull her hair!

No, you're right. Find someone who you're madly in love with and wait for the moment, worked for me. And if they're a virgin, be prepared for the blood, that freaked us out a bit.

And carry a condom in your backpack :)

And remember if you're doing it doggy pull her hair!

This.

performance im not worried about lasting, its if i can make her cum cause all her previous boyfriends could and inexperienced, i might not really know how to. and its not as simple as just rub her clit or whatever different things get different girls off

edit: should i go down on her or finger her first so i can see what gets her off?

performance im not worried about lasting, its if i can make her cum cause all her previous boyfriends could and inexperienced, i might not really know how to. and its not as simple as just rub her clit or whatever different things get different girls off

Nah dude it's really easy. First get her wet with some making out you know rub her through panties and gauge how wet she is. If it's soaking through her panties then you know she's horny as fuck right? Just stick it in and fuck as fast and as hard as you can. If you can go for like 5-10 minutes (assuming you don't have a small dick) she should be cumming soon. Smack her ass a little give her some love bites than skeeeet.

Nah dude it's really easy. First get her wet with some making out you know rub her through panties and gauge how wet she is. If it's soaking through her panties then you know she's horny as fuck right? Just stick it in and fuck as fast and as hard as you can. If you can go for like 5-10 minutes (assuming you don't have a small dick) she should be cumming soon. Smack her ass a little give her some love bites than skeeeet.

im 6.5 or 7 i dont remember

i dont cum quick unless i stop taking my anti depressants, but its back to normal after a few weeks. i think the immediate going off them causes you to no longer be sexually insensitive and its too much at once...either way i wont mess with the meds around the time i do this


10-15 minutes is about where i think ill land since im 20-25 jacking it


and thanks for the advice by the way

one last question, should i tell her its my first time or not?

im 6.5 or 7 i dont remember

i dont cum quick unless i stop taking my anti depressants, but its back to normal after a few weeks. i think the immediate going off them causes you to no longer be sexually insensitive and its too much at once...either way i wont mess with the meds around the time i do this


10-15 minutes is about where i think ill land since im 20-25 jacking it


and thanks for the advice by the way

one last question, should i tell her its my first time or not?

Only if she asks! But since it's your first time I suggest asking her to do it doggy cause it's the easiest to get her off if you're unexperienced. That or have her be on top and do all that work. If you have anymore questions ask away cause im high as fuck and bored out of my mind!

Only if she asks! But since it's your first time I suggest asking her to do it doggy cause it's the easiest to get her off if you're unexperienced. That or have her be on top and do all that work. If you have anymore questions ask away cause im high as fuck and bored out of my mind!

im baked myself...its sorta wearing off but once my parents go to bed ill be blazing more

im baked myself...its sorta wearing off but once my parents go to bed ill be blazing more

well ima go eat but if you got any more Qs ill be on aim in a little bit hit me up at TheComradical peace.

Hahahah whoever said get her to do it doggy doesn't know all that much.

All the girls I know say they can't cum from just doggy style.

Oh and if their moanind their faking.

:)

Oh to answer you, don't worry about it so much. It's pretty much natural, don't do it like a porno but don't bother fingering her and shit, most girls don't really care for that either. Stick with the clit. Seriously.

If you don't even know where that is, there's the whole where your dick goes, the little urethra then the clit on the top, under the hood. Don't go under the hood straight away, or ever really, most of the time that's too sensitive. Depends though.

If you think your going to bust fast then I would go for the clit until she cums and then just go nuts for as long as you can.

If not then tease her until she NEEDS it inside her then keep bringing it along slowly, building it up. Start slow and hard and speed it up and play with the clit then get it reallly fast, then slow right back down..Until you just can't hold it anymore and she's screaming.

But you'll probably be akward and suck at kissing and akwardly try and stick your hand down her panties and then finally get her in the bed and bust a nut in a minute and make an absolute fool out of yourself.

But who knows.

sounds like you need:

http://www.amazon.com/Sex-Dummies-Psychology-Self-Help/dp/047004523X/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1196338166&sr=8-1

Lol, I joke.

If you're worried about not lasting a long time, many things can help.

1) Practice. Jack off and see if you can get it to last. Keep jacking off, but either occupy your mind with something else or change your rhythm so it's not an issue.

2) Wear a cockring/numbing condom. Self-explanitory.

3) Jack off beforehand.

4) The best advice: Kegels. They'll give you a lot of much needed control over your penis.

He who dares wins my boy! ;)

Just jump in and hope for the best.

Just find a girl that when you look into her eyes you get that feel, then let that build up(along with whats below ur belt) and go to town. Its almost like invincibility to me, nothing you can do will be wrong(unless you force it you gotta let it flow)...once i get that feel. it relays down to my guy down south that its some possible time for action.

Also foreplay and shit is a must TRUST ME. It will boost everything up, including making yourself more into it and her def more into it... JUST DO IT. Rub her up, even give her a lil tounge action down there then just dont to business.

I myself couldve fucked some younger girl, but it just didnt feel right,(didnt get the feel to push foward)

Foreplay is critical. It makes the entire thing 10x better!

Soro_one is right, doggy sucks and stick with the clit. I have been with many woman that find it a lot easier orgasiming from their clit being stimulated instead of penetration.

Also communication is key, not in a one night stand, but any sort of relationship. Ask her what she likes and dislikes, ask her what would really get her off, and do it!

The only thing that worries me is if I'm not as big as her previous sexual encounters and she laughs at me :(

This is alot more common than even your paranoia can imagine. It will probaly happen to you.

its not how to do it as much as IM FUCKING PETRIFIED when i try to get to undoing a girls pants

its just where no mans gone before kinda thing, and ive been told im a good kisser and ive felt girls up and made them wet, so im not worried about making her cum, cause i was talking to one of her old boyfriends and he said shes pretty easy to get off (he admited to having a small dick)
im pretty well endowed.

its not lasting or doing it right or size, its the fear, i dont know where it comes from and its like a phobia...not a phobia of females i jack off to them all the time, i dont mean to sound emo and mushy, but its a really close thing with a person and its pretty personal, and im worried about being awkward

and for fucks sake i know what a goddamn clitoris is

1 thing, feed on that fear.

It may sound wierd, but it pushes in a lot of the random shit i do. For instance i go bridge jumping occasionally with friends(jumping off a reasonabily high bridge into a rather fast river) and standing on that bridge, i will be scared shitless, but it is that feeling that makes me jump off.

Stand back, realise the intensity of the emotion, and jump(take her panties off).

Oh an enjoy it.

If you're so anxious/worried, you're probably not quite ready.
Like TheComradical said, it's not that big a deal.. it helps if you feel ready, relaxed, and like the girl, of course.

I'd say you're dead wrong. Getting to the point of having sex your first time is like pulling off a band-aid, do it fast and get it done, so you can get to the sexing.

Once you get naked and jump on her you've already conquered everything, the only thing left to do is actually have the sex, where you can take your time and enjoy it.

I'd say you're dead wrong. Getting to the point of having sex your first time is like pulling off a band-aid, do it fast and get it done, so you can get to the sexing.

Once you get naked and jump on her you've already conquered everything, the only thing left to do is actually have the sex, where you can take your time and enjoy it.
Well that's another way of looking at it, but being shy/afraid can complicate trying to get a hard-on in time, and make the experience awkward.
The sooner one gets used to it, the sooner the action can begin, you're right.. but it's a good idea to cover all angles.

this was probably most helpful, cause it was the last thing i wanted to fucking hear


but shit man, your right...what the hells wrong with me, i thought i was really desensitized to sex...

this was probably most helpful, cause it was the last thing i wanted to fucking hear


but shit man, your right...what the hells wrong with me, i thought i was really desensitized to sex...

It helps to act like you AREN'T a virgin. Try and convince yourself that it's no big deal, I'm a man, and men fuck women. You were born from fucking and you're born to fuck!

And whoever said girls don't like it doggy must have either A) a small dick barely capable of making pass her ass cheeks or B) lasts under a minute. I'm telling you man when you're making out, reach right behind her head and pull her hair a little (right at the roots not the end of her hair) and gauge how she likes THAT. If her eyes roll back, you're a winner!

Dude, think about it this way. People have been having sex for thousands of years. Literally billions of people have done it. Shit, even this guy has gotten laid:
http://membres.lycos.fr/guiguibeaud/hpbimg/Phil%20Margera.jpg

If he can successfully have sex, so can you!

Very true.

But really man, if you guys are in love, even if you suck at sex she won't leave you. Sex isnt THAT big of a deal. Well, I guess it is to some people. Actually that's shitty advice, you better fuck her good!

okay, ive had a hard time being specific about my true concerns, ive said it vaguely, but not clearly enough...


I can look at sex two ways when i do it with her


1. Very desensitized, casual, its not big deal, act like im not a virgin, feel like im not a virgin, be drunk or high when i do it

problem is it wont be what i want teh first time to be

2. caring, sensitive, emotional, very close and sensual, doesnt have to be true love but something that isnt a shitty memory of how i lost it, something fucking meaningful.

like the first time i smoked weed! that will always be a meaningful, happy memory, so weed is easy to enjoy then on out

or like the first time i went snowboarding, just the rush i felt, after that i felt i could take on the world, and moved very quickly in difficulty in just my first year.

if i go this way it just feels too fucking overwhelming, its sharing a lot (sorry if i sound like a girl when i say that) but it kinda is, most guys are number one cause they dont give a shit its their first time...im not most guys, so call me a fag if you want, but that wouldnt make sense if im trying to get laid


thanks to all for the advice so far

Probably the best advice i got was to do some difficult math in your head if you're afraid of not lasting. Like start at 2 and double that...(i.e 2,4,8,16,32,64) and so on, if you last a minute thats pretty long for your first time, and anything like that, that can help you prolong it helps. Also missionary can be a bad idea, the easiest position to start out in would be having her on top.

This helps because you can close your eyes, and act like your enjoying it,(which you will) but be thinking about something like that math shit. Oh, and it's gonna make you go off real fast if you have this thought in your head: OMG I'm having sex, or anything of the sort.

good luck

good advice, especially since my anti depressants (got changed) have not only reduced my libido, ive LOST it, and ill probably stop taking them.

but you didnt read, lasting long enough isnt my concern...

edit: but still, thats the best goddamn advice ever, because its sorta like, before you know it, you're at like the 9th number and it already been a few minutes, and you think that wasnt so bad. but its not like thinking of something ugly where you get turned off, this way you can still be into it

good advice, especially since my anti depressants (got changed) have not only reduced my libido, ive LOST it, and ill probably stop taking them.

but you didnt read, lasting long enough isnt my concern...

If your concerned about not lasting long enough, try a doing things that will take your mind off of having sex.

If your concerned about not lasting long enough, try a doing things that will take your mind off of having sex.

but i just said that WASNT my concern, and to read the thread to get why i find sex really scary

but i just said that WASNT my concern, and to read the thread to get why i find sex really scary

It could be scary your first time, especially if you're worried about how long you are gonna last. Just take things slow, and act casual. This will help your self confidence, and will make it so you can last longer. Sex is only as big of a deal as you make it. So if you don't really think about it, you will last longer.

Hope this helps

allright heres the verdict

the girl im dating is not my soulmate, and i really dont care about my first time being special.

my friend, who last dated her, said she has no idea what shes doin and is bad at sex, and that she would cum and leave him with blue balls, and this kid has a small dick

my self esteem just went up there, other than that shes slept with lots of guys. im not nervous of being compared, but just sleeping with, not a slut, but you know a promiscious girl, its not going to be anything romantic.

shes smokin hot but i dont have those feelings for her...i also dont want to give up some hot sex over feeling like it HAS to be special. i think it will be special no matter what, as long as it wasnt with the practice girl or a whore.

^i'm in the same situation pretty much.

This one girl I planned on losing it to is my age, and my friend. We were getting close, but her ex that I respect is coming back from the service, and he wants to get back together with her. She doesn't, but I don't want him thinking I'm the reason that they aren't getting back together. I'm havin a party tonight, and she's still interested in me.

On the other hand there's this hot girl that I've never met, she's from another school. Likes to have fun, but I had second thoughts about completely losing my virginity to her. But if it comes down to it I'm not gonna back down.

yeah, i figured if i try to plan it and perfect it and make it the special moment, theres nothing special about it if im making sure its going to happen and planning it out, thats a total turn off...

you can't create moments, they just happen....it should be spontaneous, and enjoyable

which is why im gonna have to carry around a condom now haha

thanks for help from everyone, it seems i just needed to talk out my feelings on the issue

YES! That's really really important. I wouldn't have lost my virginity if I hadn't kept a condom in my backpack.

I planned and it happened nothing like it, just like everything else in the relationship I'm in, but it all turns out good.

On the other hand there's this hot girl that I've never met, she's from another school. Likes to have fun, but I had second thoughts about completely losing my virginity to her.

What makes you think someone you've never met would have sex with you?

What makes you think someone you've never met would have sex with you?

she's told me:D