So apparently some guy has a video/pictures of my girlfriend in interesting positions and attire (or lack thereof), and refuses to delete them. I don't really know what else to say. Anyone ever deal with something like this or (i'm sure some have) been on the other end?

Important question, did he get with while she was with you or before?

Because if he got them while you two were together, then some serious questions have to be directed her way.

maybe you should give us his email so we can get in touch with him personally. this sounds like a serious situation...

Before she was with me. And if I knew who it was I would have talked to him myself.

The answer : ask him to post them on &totse so the whole class can see them. :)

Seriously, about all you could do is move to a single-party consent-to-record state and get him on tape trying to blackmail her, legally. 'n all you could do illegally is break into his house, ransack his shit, kidnap him and torture him with hot pieces of metal until he tells you where to find them. I think your options are straightforward 'n on the table on this one. The choice among them is yours. ;)

Not much you can do,really.

Do you know for sure the pictures exist or is it wild rumour? Some guy bragging? The girl saying shit to see how protective you are of her?


It's not much of a consolation but those pics are to him what they would be to Totse, fap material,nothing more. It's not as though he looks at those pics adoringly and imagines marrying your girl and having a long satisfying life with her.

No I haven't.

Those pictures belong to him. I'm not a picture keeping guy, but I always keep one of two pictures of my ex's just for memories, I mean you probably had some good times together. And I can think of some that some boyfriends might not like existing. But I wouldn't get rid of them. It's like asking someone 'hey could you forget you ever fucked my girlfriend plz?'

What's weird though is that just out of common courtesy I wouldn't flash those pictures around and I would tell anybody who asked that I destroyed them long ago even if I didn't.

I would be asking yourself why this bothers you. Did you think your girlfriend was a virgin? She has a history, same as you. I think your in love with an ideal, not a woman.

break into his house, ransack his shit, kidnap him and torture him with hot pieces of metal until he tells you where to find them. ;)

this.

This happened to me once....but in a different way. I had taken a few polaroids of a girl and we broke up. Call me a sap if you like, but after our breakup I thought the right thing to do was return the nudie pics to her along with a couple of other personal items like her class ring and shit. A couple of months later I bump into a friend of mine when he tells me....."damn dude, I saw naked pics of your ex, and she has one hairy fuckin pussy". I knew he wasn't lying since she DID have quite the hairy bush, being the good Italian gal that she was. A while after that we got back together (typical breakup/reconcile/breakup/reconcile idiocy) and I told her the pics were out in public. She was quite aghast and said it must have been in a drawer that was rifled through and other things were missing when she had a few people over partying at her place. Meh, serves her right for partying with losers and not putting such incriminating shit in a more secure place.

I still have pictures of my ex. Lots and lots of them. And if she pisses me off they're going on the internet.

It doesn't matter. It has nothing to do with you.

What does she think about it and how did you hear about them?

He has pictures, you have her.

It's pretty lame, but there's no need to worry yourself excessively over it.

-F☺rd

True, he may have pictures of her pussy but you GOT her pussy. Come on now shit.

I'm fully aware that she wasn't a virgin (actually, quite the opposite). She told me about the video, but i'd known through othe sources about the pictures. I'm kind of over it. But man fuck.

Why did you get back together?

You seem like a guy who knows his shit around women, backtogethers never seem like a good idea.

Why did you get back together?

You seem like a guy who knows his shit around women, backtogethers never seem like a good idea.

I was young and still learning the game. We were "together" on and off between the ages of 17 and 20. Go out for 6 months, breakup, hook back up a month later, breakup after 2 months, hookup 3 months after that, stay together for 4.....you know the drill. Once we "broke up" the last time she got involved with a dude and married him within 6 months and then started having his kids. After that no legitimate hookups, just booty calls over the years. I guess the familiarity and easiness of the situation is why I kept going back....whether emotionally or physically.

And I completely AGREE that backtogethers usually end badly. Very very rarely do reconciliations end up in "happily ever afters". I think the reason is simple too. When you are with someone as a partner, you have all these positive vibes and emotions about them. You are looking at them from a certain viewpoint. Once you breakup, now the viewpoint changes completely. You think of all their faults, focus on their annoyances, and start living life again without them. Whether the dumper or dumpee (or if it ended mutually) you go on with your life and convince yourself how much better things are now without them. Months/years later you hook back up, and it is NEVER as warm and cozy as it was when you originally got together in the first place. Because those negative observations have taken root in your mind, and don't magically go away. Its like taking a bucket of just milk, and dropping some chocolate syrup in it. It now has a totally new look, a new color. No matter how much time passes, or how much more milk you add.....you'll never return back to pure milk or a pure white color. Same with love/relationships.

Now with all of that above being said, I do have to admit I am actually a product of one of the biggest reconciliations ever. Mom and dad got married and had my sister. They then divorced and each remarried someone different. They divorced those spouses, bumped into each other somewhere, hooked back up, remarried and had me.....staying together until my dad died. We are talking about a 15 year gap between those 2 marriages with each other, and explains why I have a sister that is *gasp* 17 years older than me. Meh, what the fuck do I know about reconciliations???? LOL

Now with all of that above being said, I do have to admit I am actually a product of one of the biggest reconciliations ever. Mom and dad got married and had my sister. They then divorced and each remarried someone different. They divorced those spouses, bumped into each other somewhere, hooked back up, remarried and had me.....staying together until my dad died. We are talking about a 15 year gap between those 2 marriages with each other, and explains why I have a sister that is *gasp* 17 years older than me. Meh, what the fuck do I know about reconciliations???? LOL

Seems more like your parents made a mistake when they broke up and were too stubborn to let it go. Then they matured a lot and the situation became easy.

Just my 2 cents.

Do you have a nice relationship with your sister? If I was a 17 year old girl I'd learn to hate the toddler poop-machine.

Seems more like your parents made a mistake when they broke up and were too stubborn to let it go. Then they matured a lot and the situation became easy.

Just my 2 cents.

Do you have a nice relationship with your sister? If I was a 17 year old girl I'd learn to hate the toddler poop-machine.


Yeah, me and my sis are pretty cool. I guess she is more like an "aunt" in our relationship, moreso than a sister since we never really "grew up" together. She says she didn't mind being the big sis changing my diapers and all that, and if anything it gave her practice for her own kids. That is probably the wildest part. Imagine having nephews just 4 and 6 years younger than you. Its funny because I run with alot of their friends and most have known me for 15, 20 years. So yeah, it is funny and flattering when people about your age call you Uncle Guru.

As for my mom and dad, I appreciate your 2 cents....but I think you are WAY off the mark. Another time, another thread, too long for now...but to summarize..... my mom left my dad originally because she thought he was "boring". After being married to a physically and emotionally abusive man after that..."boring" wasn't so bad. My dad? He just had low standards! LOL

Yeah, me and my sis are pretty cool. I guess she is more like an "aunt" in our relationship, moreso than a sister since we never really "grew up" together. She says she didn't mind being the big sis changing my diapers and all that, and if anything it gave her practice for her own kids. That is probably the wildest part. Imagine having nephews just 4 and 6 years younger than you. Its funny because I run with alot of their friends and most have known me for 15, 20 years. So yeah, it is funny and flattering when people about your age call you Uncle Guru.

As for my mom and dad, I appreciate your 2 cents....but I think you are WAY off the mark. Another time, another thread, too long for now...but to summarize..... my mom left my dad originally because she thought he was "boring". After being married to a physically and emotionally abusive man after that..."boring" wasn't so bad. My dad? He just had low standards! LOL
Alright, cool. Just glad to hear you're happy about the way the situation turned out, and it's all shiny.