So I meet this girl the other day. I meet her through a friend and we start hanging out and all. I had loads of fun with her and really liked being around her. So I get her number and all this.

I call her up a few days later and we end up hanging out and having a great time. We smoked a little pot, and went searching for people with cig's to bum. Which, was pretty fun. Just the freedom we had to do what we wanted and not give a shit what people thought type of thing.

So then we go back to her dorm and watch fight club and then have sex. I continue hanging out with her and start liking her a little more because I always have fun when I'm around her you know....then she starts avoiding me.

I notice it right away but give her space just incase she needed room to breath. then I notice it's abnormal, because she keeps telling me she really likes me, and it seems the more she likes me the more she doesn't want to be around me. So I know something's up along the lines of she feels guilty being around me type of deal...I just don't know why.

Finally I pry it out of her. She tells me she's in this open relationship but she really likes me and she feels bad when she's around me because she didn't tell me before.

Naturally, being someone who's been influenced by the standards society says I should have, I'm a little upset. I wanted to go out with her, I liked her. I had fun being with her, etc. etc. etc..

Then in the time I had to think about it I reallize "Hey, why am I so pissed off about this? I mean that's not what I'm about, nor what I believe in. I know that someone can love two people. I've failled myself by caring about something like this."

When I stopped and looked at it I reallize that what I want most in life is freedom. I want to be liberated. I don't want boundaries, that's what makes me happy. Then looking at it like this: I have fun when I'm around her anyway. I'm anti-jealousy, and I like the idea that I can mess around with anyone I want.

So, I've decided I need to run this all by her and see what she thinks about it. It would be the first time I've been in such a situation, but I really wanna see what it's like.

Sounds like a lot of fun, definitely an agreeable argument. Keep it wrapped though :P

I don't understand what you want out of her, more sex, or a relationship?

That's the thing, what is a relationship about anyway? It's different for everyone. For me all I want is someone I enjoy spending time with and someone to have sex with when I want it. I reallize I have fun when I'm around her, I like having sex with her, and I don't really care about her being in an open relationship.

I want a friend, and I want sex.

Dont you think that eventually you will come to regret the fact that you're not the only person fucking her?

Wrap it & tap it.

I do feel sorry for the other guy (main guy) in that relationship, though.

In responce to Docta: No, I don't think that will happen. Though this is new to me and all I reallize it's what I've wanted all along anyway. I've always hated the idea that I'm saposed to be with just one girl and one girl only. I don't want to get married. I'm often stuck in a situation where I love more than one person but feel it's "wrong." to be with more than one girl. all of it was bullshit, people are ment to be free.

To Orange: Why? It's his choice to be in an open relationship.

Very true, it is, but I doubt his intent was for 'his' girl to fall for someone else.

Most likely not. But since I believe in hippy idea's I wish everyone loved everyone for the most part. I wish I lived in a world where no one belonged to anyone. A world where everyone loved everyone else and jealousy was seen as a weakness. But reallistically that wont happen in my generation. It's a posable but in no way probable. The best I can get is a small comunity of people who feel that way.

My friend, I suggest you take this at 'One day at a time' don't think about tomorrrow or next month with this girl, she's seems to be very about what's happening TODAY! It's natural, you're going to get somewhat attached to her, but as long as your comfortable and taking this one day at a time, you will be good.
Hope this helps!

It's good as long as you don't get feelings for her (although, it seems as though you have already..)

Remember that its casual, but you need to be open with each other.

Tap & Gap.