I just read the thread Anyone here as good looking as me made by Radical Wanker. --> http://www.totse.com/community/showthread.php?t=2071614

I find it kinda funny because i'm really familiar with people like the Wanker. In fact, i am one of them. I'm one of those kids you see with really big ego, seems like he's over confident, thinks he's the shit, and thinks that no girls are out of his leagues.

Then, i asked myself a couple of questions. Is being a Egotist BAD? Are Egotists covering their own insecruity by being an Egotist? IF they are, Where are those people that are SECURE about themselves? What are they like?

So i found this article on google, which was really helpful to my questions. Yet, i still really want to know what EVERYONE thinks about BIG EGO

BTW link to the article --> http://ezinearticles.com/?Big-Ego-or-Self-Esteem?&id=106973

Nothing wrong with an ego as far as physical appearance but it usually goes hand-in-hand with arrogance and there's no quality in a person that I hate more than that.

Its bad because you're too wrapped up in yourself to worry about other people. I couldn't imagine being with a guy who tried to turn everything I said into a story about himself.

I made a thread here a while ago about how I thought I was the perfect catch, and I was confused as to why women weren't flocking to me.

I wasn't solely talking about looks though...

I guess I feel like I'm at least slightly above average in every department. Although I'm not sure if I particularly shine in any...

So yeah, I don't know what that's called, but that's how I feel about myself...

Fake it till you make it:)

I don't know. I'm good looking and I'm a cocky asshole about it. I like to think I'm just cocky/funny (yes yes, I know) but I take it too far a lot and end up sounding vain/arrogant more than I'd like. The only reason for this is because with women, you can't let your looks speak for themselves. They're not going to approach the best looking guy, they're not going to approach anyone. If you approach with low energy, just looking good, you won't get shit. You have to be cocky to get the girl, unless you're in a low-energy place like a library. But in clubs, you have to be loud and obnoxious, sorry. And yes, I hate it too.

On the other hand, I'm probably the best martial artist I know (except for a few of my teachers) and I always avoid fights. I'm really meek about it, and if you didn't know me, you'd never guess that I was sizing you up and figuring out the best way to kill you right now. I love to fight and spar, in the ring, but my rule is never fight to show off and always try to avoid fights with those weaker than you. I'm a lot like Mr. Miyagi in that I'll never instigate fights or be the cocky and vain asshole I am to women.

So yeah, even though I'm not a big egomaniac most of the time, I let it loose when picking up women because it's what works, and if you want to be successful, you have to do it.

Thoughts manifest in to reality, so it is definatly a good thing.

BTW link to the article --> http://ezinearticles.com/?Big-Ego-or-Self-Esteem?&id=106973

I have a lurking feeling that whoever wrote that article has an intimate understanding of The Fountainhead... :D

Depends, usually i front the idea, that im confident and such, but i don't verbally verify it like some guys would do. You know by saying some dumb shit to a girl, well the only reason you talk to me is cause im soo fricking hot!!

Im funny and cocky dont get me wrong its obvious but i usually try not to dive overboard with it and rely on it to the very end. You can just be normal around a girl and pretend like your such and such, you have to be it otherwise theyll pick up on that. Going up and being yourself , nice without like any "out of the ordinary" conversation wont get you any place...as many have proven. Its just a must to be different or take a different approach with women now a days to have success.