1) I know this isn't myspace or a blog
2) I know that there are 521 threads a week just like this
3) But I'm special
4) really just want to share my feelings with someone.

Okay, let's start this story up and end it real quick. I'm a Junior in HS, and there's this girl who's in two of my classes who I didn't even knew existed before this year. Basically I sat with her in Math and we talked alot and she laughed at my jokes and we played lots of retarded games that you play when you're bored in class. Basically, she's Asianish (her last name is Martinez...), shy, vegan, but really nice. She's the type of girl who I find attractive, but really isn't having half the male population dry-humping her. I've been feeling things like she's definately trying to show interest. Stuff like commenting on my clothes and trying to manipulate what I wear and showing interest. Today, I'm sitting in Math and basically zone out and just really look at her kinda, trying to pick up on signs (I sit behind her now...we switched tables...Thought Riot sad). And, at the end of class I swear I saw her friend hand her a note saying that I was looking at her throughout class; she smiled. So basically, I need to ask her out, but I really don't know how.

I'm really thinking of just asking her if I can talk to her after class or something and just saying, "wanna go out? maybe see a movie tonight or something?" that's my brilliant line. I really wish that there was some event I could ask her out on, like Winter Ball or something, but there isn't. I mean the whole "wanna go out" part seems a tad immature and childish, but I can't think of any other way. And no, we are not going to hook up at a party or anything (I have a tightknit group of friends. Drunken Fight Club on Friday with betting!). It really has to be at school, and asking her out for something later.

/endrant; thanks for reading.

Advice?

Its not that hard, here just do it like this: "hey, do you want to go X after school?"
replace X with have a few drinks, have anal sex, molest a clown, beat a bum, whatever the fuck you do for fun, it isisnt rocket science.

"wanna do something tonight? maybe see a movie?"

perfect.

a little more direct, and a little less childish ;)

edit: Just field tested it for you. Got the I'm gone for the weekend. Damn, I can't read her anymore. wtfbbq :)

I mean the whole "wanna go out" part seems a tad immature and childish, but I can't think of any other way.

As opposed to asking her to "Winter Ball" or her "passing a note to her friend" alerting her to the fact you were looking at this chick throughout class.

Dude...Believe me...Don't try to be elaborate about this. Just a simple "So, wanna go out sometime?"

It works for me and I have been out of school for nearly 7 years!

I stopped reading at "asianish" and "Martinez"

Pro-tip: Spanish/Mexican

It really doesn't take any special tricks or elaborate wording.

Just say "Hey, you wanna go to the movies tonight?"

Honestly, you've got the green light here.

Just be blunt.

Dude...Believe me...Don't try to be elaborate about this. Just a simple "So, wanna go out sometime?"

It works for me and I have been out of school for nearly 7 years!

That or simply tell her, Hey we should hang out on such and such if your free. Speak with some solidness, avoid looping questions when asking her.

Something with the foreign girls at this time of the year everyone is talking game with them lately, including myself...cant complain though ;-)

1) I know this isn't myspace or a blog
2) I know that there are 521 threads a week just like this
3) But I'm special
4) really just want to share my feelings with someone.


You dont need to justify posting here!
I dont particularly care if there's several threads on a similar topic here, each person is individual and each situation is different. Totse is an important place to vent on and bounce ideas off of.


As for the girl, dont be arrogant or cocky, dont bother with any shit like "yo bitch, go out with me".
I'm thinking a smile and a "would you like to go see a movie/go for coffee/go do something with me?" approach would be the best. Non threatening, non demanding, and also it will give you a chance to see if you like her as much as you think you do.

Wow...it's a good thing I found this in time.

Heres an idea noone else has mentioned. Don't do it.

You of course, being young and naive will do it anyways. But in however many months, you'll back, remember this post and think to yourself 'I should have listened to that motherfucker.'

okay, well thanks for the advice and encouragement; it really does help. I'm settling with "Wanna go out and maybe see a movie or something tonight?". Thanks alot everyone who posted constructively.

good idea

Be lik 'Yo can I get ya numba cuz I'd love to give you a ring' works every time.

Just don't say any dumb things about her ethnicity if you think that 'Martinez' is an Asian name.

I stopped at "vegan".

Just stop right there my friend!

there is an event you can ask her too!
ask her to a bonfire! it's not quite a date type thing, but it is something and it's comfortably half way there. and you could always bring a friend and tell her to bring one if you are the nerovus around girls type

a boy today asked me to come to one with him tomorrow night (((:

I've always wanted to go to a bonfire. They used to have them all the time in ireland, but i've never seen any here. Where on earth do they have them?

Make sure you don't invite her to eat anywhere that doesn't have any vegan food products

You'll probably want to leave out the word "something".

They can smell uncertainty and anxiety.

a whole thread on different ways of saying "wana go see a movie tonight?"

....gtf

Tomorrow in math ask her if she's seen [insertmovienamehere]. If she says no, and she probably will, you've got yourself a date.

Point at your cock and say 'you have two minutes. No teeth, no eye contact. Go.'

"wanna do something tonight? maybe see a movie?"

I'm settling with "Wanna go out and maybe see a movie or something tonight?". Thanks alot everyone who posted constructively.

I win ;)

Something with the foreign girls at this time of the year everyone is talking game with them lately, including myself...cant complain though ;-)

QTFFFF same here my man

Wow...it's a good thing I found this in time.

Heres an idea noone else has mentioned. Don't do it.

You of course, being young and naive will do it anyways. But in however many months, you'll back, remember this post and think to yourself 'I should have listened to that motherfucker.'

this girl sounds nice, i know other girls that i'd agree in an instant with you for. but OP deff go for it.

This- Hey bitch, wanna fuck?

Ya...keep it direct, it's really not as hard as you think - just be yourself.

"what do you do on the weekends?"

"did you hear _______ is coming?"

"wanna' go out somewhere?

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!

Fucking belter!

once you get past like eighth grade of freshman year of HS that whole awkward dumb beating around the bush thing needs to end


just ask her to do x,y or z

on the next friday, which is today I guess, after math class or whenever be like hey what're you doin tonight, and she'll probably say nothing and ask if she wants to go to the swell movie that's playing at the multiplex



bam done and done

dude dont you know that since you sit behind her it is your duty to rub her back and pull shit off her shirt???

just kidding only the real studs like myself get away with that kind of shit.

This thread made me smile lots. :) Def take her to fireworks / bonfire if you have them near you. It can be really romantic. Don't worry about being silly and awkward when asking her, just go for it! I'm a girl, and I sorta like that cute awkwardness... cockiness doesn't do it for me at all. Maybe thats just me.

just be like "hey i know i probably should have said something earlier

(pause)

but do you want to go out with me?"

i always use that lol

fuck me. I pussed out at math class just because I couldn't get her alone, so I planned to meet her after school, but she was with a friend.

and she evidently just got a facebook, and her first act of business seems to have been to have poked me. But it lists her as in a relationship with no name. And some dude from Finland "hugged her" whatever that means. I knew I should have taken some "liquid courage", but not really.

Fuck me.

Ask her if she wants to see a storm drain. No joke. I don't know her that well, she seems kind of quiet, maybe she'd think it cool. Something that will force her to remember.
And Peter, sorry for this embarrassing post. I guess this is what you get for posting on totse. My lips are zipped.
You want some Ambien?

I tend to advise against really asking girls out. I'd much rather phrase it like "Hey, I'm going to see American Gangster this weekend, have you heard about it?" Her answer doesn't matter here, yes or no just say "Oh, well I'd love for you to come along, is there a number I can reach you at?" This basically gives her no way to reject you straight out, and If she likes you (And it definitely sounds like she does, ya cold-blooded lady-killer :)), she'll gladly give you her digits. This really evens the playing field because:

1. It communicates the fact that you're going to go and enjoy the movie with or without her, so it doesn't sound desperate and she can tell herself you guys are just friends exchanging numbers (for now ;)).
2. Almost everyone in the country has a number they can be reached at, so to reject you she has to lie to your face, which is difficult for many people to do.
3. It won't sound like a date, so she won't expect you to pay (You should never pay for her if she's not your girlfriend, but there are some women who expect the guy to pay on "real, official dates". If she acts like she's not willing to pay after this, just tell her "Hey, I'll get the tickets, you cover the snacks.")

Another line I really like to use for movies is "Hey, let's go see a movie. That way even if you turn out to be a total creep, at least I can catch a flick and the night won't be a total waste." This is a funny little line that shows a lot of confidence, and women eat it up.

Also, make sure you go out for coffee or food afterward, because the worst thing about movies on your first time hanging out is that there's no chance to flirt/make her laugh during the movie aside from the occasional one-liner. If you go out afterwards it gives you a chance to really charm her, and if the conversation should happen to die, you can just talk about the movie you just watched.

It sounds like this is going to go really well, all the best man!

it's not really that embaressing, I realized that you might see it when I made it. Though, thanks for keeping the whole totse thing personal.
I'm running low on cash. I wanna pick up some shrooms from nick li and do them on Vetren's Day hopefully. Then I wanna buy at least a 80mg of oxycontin from the Tenderloin hookup for Mexico. I'm just getting strapped at the moment. Really need the whole bullshit $17.50/hr umpiring thing.




I tend to advise against really asking girls out. I'd much rather phrase it like "Hey, I'm going to see American Gangster this weekend, have you heard about it?" Her answer doesn't matter here, yes or no just say "Oh, well I'd love for you to come along, is there a number I can reach you at?" This basically gives her no way to reject you straight out, and If she likes you (And it definitely sounds like she does, ya cold-blooded lady-killer :)), she'll gladly give you her digits.
It sounds like this is going to go really well, all the best man!

aww...you're just saying that.