I've been going out with this girl for nearly 2 years. it was basically good for about 6 months, then, the new-car-effect started to wear off and we started argueing. basically deep down she's the kind of person i despise. sentimental, cries alot, has self esteem issues and is very family oriented.

anyway, i was stupid and we were having alot of sex with no protection apart from the pill, so she gets pregnant about 4 months in, 2 months later we realise something is up, and we plan to get an abortion, but the strain of it all is getting to me and we start arguing

after one of the worst arguments i ended up finishing it with her. it was the 12 of october last year. after about 4 days i was missing her and so i phoned her and made up and it was back on again. then we work out that this baby thing is real, and so we get the abortion sorted, but because we were fucking stupid arguers its a late one.

then, we argued some more, and i finished with her again, this time for a week, then, when we get back together she admits to "kissing" one guy at her friends house, and also i find out that she got with some german man the first time we broke up as well.

upon further interrogation she admitted to sleeping with the guy she said she kissed. naturally I fucking blew my top and threw her out of my house.

so now we broke upfor a week, together for a week then i finish with her again for a week.

then, and i think this is my downfall, i took her back again, except this time she had not thought we would be getting back together so she's badmouthed me so much that my name is now mud with her family.

so now she's living in my house full time.

then, about 7 months ago i start a new job, this means i take the car and i'm out all day, and she can't go anywhere because my house is out of town.

so she would get lifts off my best friend either into town or to my friends house where everyone hangs out. most of the time she would beg a lift off my bestfriend to go and see her sister or her friends.

i totally trust my friend and the way she talked about him didn't make me think she was attracted to him in any way.

so one day, we're at home and we're arguing and i tell her to gtfo, normally this would result in her saying "where am i sposed to go etc. etc." and she would stay, but this time she just sighed "ok bye" and walked off.

after she doesn't come back for about 2 hours i try to phone her mobile, gets cut off, phone again, now the phones been switched off.

so i'm like right, gotta get to the bottom of this. so i gets in my car to go and search for it.

i suspect that it's got a lift to it's mums, so i go there, no havn't seen it. so i go round her sisters, no havn't seen it all day. so i think she'll turn up and i go to the club where my friends are and morosely drink about 3 beers and moan about my life, this gets boring so i leave

then i go round her best friends house, knock on the door, her best friend opens the door, hello? oh it's you come in theres something you have to know, so i go in and follow her upstairs, in the room there are 4 of her friends, "she's been taking you for a fool" "look at these txts" her friend showed me txt message from my bestfriend to one of these girls saying how my GF is begging to "have her pussy smashed in" etc. etc.

so now i'm in action man mode i jump out of the window and land in my car, drive to my friends no one appears to be in, i go round the back to see if his car's there, i open his garage and his car is there. so i think right you fuckers i'm going to mash your faces i go through the back door.

no one is inside, i call my friends name, no answer, then i see his phone is on the settee, i pick it up and look at messages, sure enough, there is one from my gf saying ******just told me to gtfo can you pick me up.

by this time steam is coming out of my ears, so i return to my car to get a weapon to trash my friends car in replacement of his face since he is nowhere to be found.

i come out of the garage and THERE THEY ARE! i think it went something like this:

me: THERE you are
friend: it's not what it looks li...
me: *smack*
me: *smack*
me: *smack*
me: *smack*
me: *smack*
me: *smack*
friend: I would never do that to you!
GF: *******STOP! noooooooooooooooo!
me: i don't care
me: *kick to the face*
me: *kick to the face*
me: *kick to the face*
me: *kick to the face*
me: *kick to the face*
me: *kick to the face*
me: *kick to the legs*

then this girl who's house it is comes running out and breaks it up, my friend is lying in a crumpled heap, and my gf is crying. the other girl tells me to go so i get in my car and drive off. back to the club to show off my bloody knuckles

so then my gf phones me saying nothing happened, that i got it wrong, i'm still wondering about the text messages i saw but she seemed genuine.

so i go and pick her up from my friends house where she stayed after the beating and the neighbours have called the police so they tell me off, but my friend isn't pressing charges even though he is in bad shape, so it goes no further.

i go to hospital having broken my right metacarpal in the viscious beating i just dished out.

so now we have been together since then for about 4 months, recently since my job ended we have started argueing again and it's getting claustrophobic and my friends don't like coming round because they know what has gone on, and all her friends have fallen out with her.

and now yesterday i again argue with her, explain what i'm feeling and she's gone to manchester to see her cousins for 4 days.

i'm thinking of ending it soon,

what do you think? should i end it? am i a controlling psychopath? admittedly all the times she has cheated has been times i've dumped her but this is still cheating in my book, why do i keep wanting her back?

i do miss her, i'm missing her right now

tl/dr

Fuck bitches.

I regret everyday that i didn't finish on a high by dumping her after the savage thrashing.

I would have grown so much from it and probably found a girl ten times better.

oh and i have since apologised to my friend, my hand took longer to heal than his face.

tl/dr

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Read the whole thing, I approve of everything but your constant forgiving. Your "friend" got what was coming to him, and your bitch of a girlfriend you need to leave pronto.

i suppose i'm scared of what she might do, she has done some pretty fucked up shit before when i have dumped her, taken overdoses, threatened to jump out of the window, threatened to have my baby.

also, i'm scared of being on my own after all this time, i'm also scared of admitting that i've wasted 2 years of my life, even though i'm tempted to scrap the whole thing and start again this has gone too far.

The sooner you end it, the better off you'll be. To hell with her threatening all that bullshit, just make sure she can't cause any permanent harm to you, and you'll see that all those people who threaten suicide are just all posturing and huffing and no doing.

I regret everyday that i didn't finish on a high by dumping her after the savage thrashing.

I would have grown so much from it and probably found a girl ten times better.

I know how you feel. :/ My last girl cheated on me, I forgave her, it happened two more times and I fucking forgave her again. Next, she says we should take a break, gets with three more guys and then breaks it off with me.

I fucking hate how much of a rug I was.

i'm thinking of ending it soon

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAHAHHA:D

Fucking priceless man :D

You argue all time, break up all the time, she cheats on you all the time, her family hates you, you're generally miseerable with her.

Yeah, Im thinking of ending it soon :D

Hahahahahahaha
I love you man

So, she shacks up with other guys whenever she gets the chance. You forgive her. She shacks up with your best friend. You forgive them both. You APOLOGIZE to your "friend" for giving him probably a lot less than he deserved.

Fucking hell.

Your new name is Ghandi.

Holy Christ, and I thought I was forgiving.

Also, dump her. Find a girl that isn't a cheating, manipulative whore.

I'm letting it carry on because of pity mostly.

I can't escape, she lives in my house, if i chuck her out she's got nowhere else to go, her family has disowned her because of me.

I just don't have it in me to make someone homeless, whether they're killing me inside or not.

So tell her she has 6 weeks to find a new place.

The moment you are in an uneasy relationship, and you start feeling trapped, it's time to jump ship. Bail out. Cut off all ties to her at all costs. Chicks will do all sorts of fucked up things to ensure you "can't break up with them." The moment that happens, run, run fast, before you are in too deep.

i've already done that, but i'm not very good at sticking to deadlines:(

Just keep in mind, the longer you draw it out, the deeper the hole you have to dig yourself out of eventually.

Personally, I would tell her she had 4 weeks. At the end of that 4 weeks, the moment she stepped out of the house, her stuff would be in boxes on the porch. Don't let her use guilt to try and trap you.

Then I would lock down my place, and go visit family/relatives/an old friend for a week or two, time enough to let everything blow over and get her behind you once and for all.

... Just my thoughts on the matter.

I would have done the same man.

First off:

No human family would refuse to house their own blood for at least a little amount of time. For what reason wouldn't they? "I fucked up with this dude, now I have no where to go." One of my best friends moved 550 miles away to live with some guy she used to date. Lived in her parents house, and went anal on them for refusing to support her decision. Essentially "stormed out" of the house and drove up there to live with him. The guy was an douche, but her parents let her come back to live with them.

Now, your girlfriend would have killed herself a long time ago if she would have.

I know you're trying to be nice to her, but face the facts here.

I think you're a cunt and a terrible person. Don't break up with your girlfriend and get back with her ten times; the relationship is broken at this point and it will continue along this path.

You beat your friend because he supposedly slept with your girlfriend, but you beat him before you knew for sure? How fucking ridiculous.

I'm going to stop here because I'm sure this will fall on deaf ears. The problem lies with you. Not to say that the other characters in this story are innocent, but you are a terrible human.

Decide if you have more fun going out with her than not going out with her. If you do, stick with her, if you don't then give her 4 weeks to get out.

Break it up for fuck sake.

If any girl I was with cheated on me, not only would I break it up permanently, I would also find the son of a bitch who she was with, and break his fucking legs.

Me no like cheating.

Am I the only one who was expecting a bel-air? I was SOOOO sure of it.
I found it unbelievable after the 'taking you for a fool part'.
My thoughts? Murder/suicide.

RUN LIKE HELL.

Tell her you don't give a shit what she does to herself,she's just going to try some shit to keep you around. You know deep down you need to get rid of this cheating headcase of a whore so man up and do it.

You come here asking us for advice and we tell you to get rid of the cunt. Now follow through and do what both totse and you know is right.

do this

I'de give advice but its pretty obvious you arent prepared to take it.


It actually makes me wonder why you bothered making this thread.:o

You are feeling wayyyy to guilty about this my friend. She fucked around on you. Tell her, and end it. She'll get the fuck out of your house.

very true. I missed so many chances to make a clean break, maybe i'm just a controlling psychopath who hates women.
I will end it by monday, that is my promise to totse, I will keep you informed of any hysterical developements.

update: she's spent the weekend at mine.

it was ok, apart from the incident i have described in the other thread about the keylogger with the pictures.

that fucking bitch is dumped.:ma d: