..and he broke up with me today, after 2 years.


This is mostly just to vent, I hope you dont mind too much, and if you bother to read through it and offer some advice or anything, thank you.

So my boyfriend just broke up with me, after 2 years together. He was my first everything, my first kiss, I lost my virginty to him, ect. Why? he said he cant trust me.

I really dont blame him too much, I guess.

When we were fairly new in our relationship, we had a huge fight, he mistelled something to our guild chat (we were playing wow together at the time) that was slightly suggestive (I think it was something like, "dont worry, Katze wont mind"), then laughed and said that he'd been cybering with another girl in the guild.

Of course I wasnt happy about this, and I confronted him angrily about it, and he reacted even more angrily... he claims now that he gave me an explanation, but really all I remember was him blowing up at me for confronting him. Then he broke up with me, and I was devastated.

So, I rebounded, so to speak. I wound up giving head to a good friend of mine (who happened to be an ex) and then I admitted to doing it to him, I was ashamed, but I figured that he'd cast me off and rejected me, so he probably wouldnt care. Well, he did.


So, he broke up with me, saying that to this day he still cant trust me. Its been over a year and a half since that happened and we got back together... and now its over.

Fuck, that hurts so much... I feel like a tainted woman, like once I've cheated it'll be some chronic condition..

ouch..

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Now that the TotSEan in me has been appeased:
Well, the general concensus is, once a cheater, always a cheater.

And can I add, that I think it's really cute you guys played WoW? My sister and her boyfriend play, together, too.

As for the situation at hand, I know it's tough getting over your "first/s" but I suggest trying to move on. He obviously won't take you back, any time soon; and I doubt he would be worth all the time trying to get him back.

He sounds rather immature. A man would have put you over his knee for cheating and then forgotten about it forever.

I know it hurts but he really doesn't sound like he's worth your time.

Infact, he just sounds like a jealous, controlling, insecure and angry little man who isn't worth anyones time. :)

I was a little unclear about one part though. You blew the friend after he broke up with you the first time and then you guys got back together?

And then you told him and he flipped the bitch?

Eh... you shouldn't have done that. "Rebounded"
That was an immature act in your part. You should always be the better one in the relationship, or atleast try to be.

But i'm sorry to hear that your relationship ended for those reasons. Try and move on, it won't be easy. He was your first love and nothing will ever compare, but you will find someone else. I went through something similar, except my relationship with the guy was only one year. He was also my first in everything, it's been two years since our break up for similar reasons, and I regret my "rebound" to this day. I wish I hadn't been so immature.

Huh? My girlfriend broke up with me, the one who was all my firsts about a month ago. I fucked another girl about a week afterwards and felt much better. It's not about getting back at your ex, it's about getting over your ex.

He was your first love and nothing will ever compare, but you will find someone else.

That's called rebounding hunni.

Someone else to love, not to fuck. Anyone could do that and feel better. Real 2 year love is not easy to find.

Anyone could do that and feel better. Real 2 year love is not easy to find.

That's the point, you do it to feel better. Why feel shitty until you're ready to pursue a meaningful relationships again?

Hold on, so you gave head to a good friend, because you thought your man was CYBERING with another girl?

Because if that is how it went down, then you ARE a fucking tainted woman, and you are a cheater who will come home to some girl fucking your husband one day, and him screaming to her that she is soo much better than you at making love.

If that ISN'T how it went down, then please explain again, because your post confused me a little bit.
Did you give head to the guy, WHILE you were broken up the first time?

Even if they were broken up at the time, if she hoped to get back together with him, giving some other guy head isn't the greatest thing to do.

This one is all on her.

I feel like putting you over my knee for that post

^^That would be hot. Pics if do.



On topic, it sounds like you both just werent suitable for each other.
He shouldnt have been flirting with other girls, he pretty much provoked you into doing something.You shouldnt have given head to someone when still kinda going out with your boyfriend.

In summary, it seems you both brought out the petty teenager in each other.

And NO, just because you 'cheated' (Allthough I'm not sure you did?) doesent mean you're destined to repeat it.

Doesent sound like your relationship brought out the best side of either of you.
Move on, forget about him, forget about the cheating, and be a good girl with the next one?

I should call you McSlut.

You are a cheater.

But God loves you , so I must too.

He says forgive and forget. So I will forgive.

I should call you McSlut.

You are a cheater.

But God loves you , so I must too.

He says forgive and forget. So I will forgive.

Keep your preaching to the god forum Plz. Dont make me hurt you.

Keep your preaching to the god forum Plz. Dont make me hurt you.

For the lulz.

Dishonesty in a woman is a thing you never deeply blame.

And infidelity goes hand in hand with dishonesty.

And buy you chocolates and flowers to make it up to you, seeing as it must have been his fault that you were tempted to stray in the first place.

Yeah, you both sound kind of lame. I mean what the fuck? Playing Wow together? I hate to talk shit about MMORPG nerds, but come on, that is sad, even more sad that he was cybering on WoW, sad that you gave head to an ex (*That you never slept with before*), only to get dumped by his ass, only to come on totse and write a blog. Shit is just sad...

Move on. Good on you for trying to keep a good thing alive, but this relationship sounds like it's DOA.

For a start, don't worry so much about first times. If you get yourself particularly wound up because 'he was your first', you're just making it harder for yourself.

You do what you choose to do, if you choose to cheat, cheat, if you choose not to cheat, don't. Just because at one point you've chosen to cheat, it doesn't mean that you ever have to again. Even if it was cheating.

You sound like a normal person, so what your relationship didn't work out. Get over it, who cares that you cheated, everyone cheats. You'll find a new boy, don't worry.

nope.

You didn't cheat if he broke up with you first. Rebounding probably wasn't the wisest thing to do, but it definitely wasn't cheating.

HAHA if your playing Guild Wars, with you BF, i see where you stand at on the ladder. Probably think about him 24/7 then shit your pants over any minor little thing because you think somethings wrong with him.

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To clarify, he broke up with me over the argument... and it wasnt that I thought that he was cybering with someone, more that he blew up at me when I asked. Admittedly, I was rather confrontational when I asked, but I think that was within reason given the circumstances.

As for the giving head thing.. it was

He broke up with me -> head was given -> I told him, no lies, no cover ups -> somehow, we wound up back together anyhow -> over a year and a half passed, we break up

I regret it, I dont regret telling him, but I regret doing it. I was probably singley one of the worst decisions I've ever made, really. I lost so much and gained.. nothing.

As for "firsts" its not really that he was my first that bugs me, I never really got the whole "zomg I'ma virgin!!!" or "zomg I'm not a virgin!!!" thing. My first time -sucked-.

Its just hard to imagine myself with anyone else... Even when I wasnt dating him, I had a hard time being interested in any of the guys around me. I dont really think much of myself, but I'm still picky, I guess.

NitrousMafia, good to know you can judge someone by their past times. What if I enjoyed working on our cars together? is that better, because its more "real"? Yeah, I thought about him alot, but when you love someone (after a year, I think its safe to say the infatuation has passed) you do think about them, they're important to you.

I can understand you giving some head to another guy, but still it was wrong as a comeback...

My advice: break up, stay broken up. Don't EVER do revenge sexual stuff anymore. You will only regret it.

NOT EVERYONE CHEATS! You are NOT forced to be the slut who turns a NICE guy into an asshole.

DON'T CHEAT!

I can understand you giving some head to another guy, but still it was wrong as a comeback...

My advice: break up, stay broken up. Don't EVER do revenge sexual stuff anymore. You will only regret it.

NOT EVERYONE CHEATS! You are NOT forced to be the slut who turns a NICE guy into an asshole.

DON'T CHEAT!

Well fucking put. :]