So I met a chick at a club, we nearly had sex, but I was with my friend, and well (sorry to say it Jack), it's always bros before hos. So we just chilled a bit.

Then the next day I tried tracking down her number (still don't have it) because I was too drunk to remember to ask for it. I left her mine and she hasn't called me.

Now I was going to leave it alone and go pubbing tonight, but I decided to at least keep her in the know of my feelings. So I sent her this message:

"Are you playing hard to get or just wasting my time?"

I didn't mean to be harsh, I just want to know why a chick who didn't fuck me took the trouble to take me to her house, chat it up, etc, etc. Usually this has meant interest in a date, now I'm confused/annoyed.

Jack, if you're around, your opinion is valued.

how did you send that message? did you remember her address and mail her that letter?

I hate the expression `Bros before hos`

A real `bro` would get the fuck out and let you sleep with the `ho`.

I sent it to her facebook.

Ah yes the magics of facebook!! well man, i think your safe, it shows your interested. The reason she may have not contacted you is simply (more likely then not) because shes waiting for you to take the initiative. Just simple ask her to go out to the pub with you next time. You will so get pussy.

would it have been better if I said something else?

nah man you put it out there, besides when i read that i dont read it offensively i actually read it as an honest question. You might see it differently because you maybe a little nervous. But all is good, next time you talk, and if she does answer you, invite her out. Ive gotten that EXACT message from girls, it put me in a tight spot but i wasnt bothered by it. Your golden bro.

Noticied it more that they will wait for you to contact them ,regardless if you have their number or not...unless you say hey call me or text me during that same day.

She may feel that shes being overly open/slutty if she contacts you right away instead of letting you take action. Just do work and get with her and finish what you started.

Hate to say it, but if you can't close the deal the first night. You don't deserve it.

No, but really...if it doesnt happen the first night, it's not worth getting all tangled up in trying to track her down, unless there was something special about her. It's easier to just start over with a different chick at a different pub.

Unfortunately my telepathy machine is on the blink right now but I'm guessing Nitrous Mafia might be right.

Either that or you're a lousy lover :P

No, but really...if it doesnt happen the first night, it's not worth getting all tangled up in trying to track her down, unless there was something special about her. It's easier to just start over with a different chick at a different pub.

True dont get tangled/worked up about her, but dont disregard that shes not worth it until you at least made a effort and seen what the results were. Unless shes total garbage and u got that impression from being with her, that of course TOSS IT OUT!

Sometimes shit dont work out the 1st time around, whatever the reason is. A couple girls were sort of lame the 1st time meeting them then once we started talking some more im glad i didnt disregard them like i intended to before hand.

IMO, that's the best way you can put it. I've said it many a time and it makes things a whole lot easier.

If I was a guy, I'd probably never grow the balls to say it to a lady though.

"Are you playing hard to get or just wasting my time?"


That does seem a bit harsh.

As a insecure girl, I'd probably feel really guilty to get you so seemingly annoyed, and arrange a time to meet up.

But, what sort of girl did she seem like? Maybe she's so awesome and so swamped in guys you were just a mere hour or so of entertainment to her.

Or, perhaps she's pissed off with you because you chose your friend over screwing her, which can be a big insult to some girls.


If you really wanted her you'd have got rid of the friend. Unless he was unconcious/vomiting everywhere/bleeding from the head, did he need your help and support soo much you couldnt tell him to wait outside for half an hour?

it's always bros before hos.

Every time I hear this saying I just chuckle and wonder to myself....."what kind of a cock hungry faggot walks around with such a mindset?" Seriously, WTF? Are you telling us you have friends that would be so butthurt if you dissed them for the rest of the night, all because you were trying to score a piece of ass? Go get new friends if that's the case.....because that is lame and pathetic. I've been on both sides of the fence, and life goes on tomorrow. I can't even begin to count how many times I was sitting around bored/annoyed/babysitting the friend of the girl......while one of my friends was having sexfest in the next room. And again vice versa.

Why won't she contact you now? Who the hell knows? But stop trying to rationalize an irrational creature. Maybe she sobered up the next day and came to her senses realizing you weren't that great a catch. Maybe she was on ecstasy and wanted to fuck you then.....again coming down thinking differently. Maybe she broke up with her boyfriend in the afternoon, was ready to fuck the first thing that had the guts to talk to her that night, then reconciled with him the next day.

It could be ANY possibility at all. And you'll never know. All because you have this stupid "code" amongst your friends. I can pretty much guarantee you, that within 5-10 years you have a 95% chance of not even having a friendship with your "bro". And you have this idiotic code that is almost written in stone, just for some machismo mind game. Confused/annoyed/most importantly HORNY because of the way this ended? Go find your "bro".....I'm sure he'll be able to make it all feel better!

Honestly.....why, Why, WHY???????????

Uh...I thought you said you didn't fuck her because of your friend being there? Now she is the one who went through the trouble and didn't fuck you?

Also, why no smiley face in your text? It can be taken as aggressive, or playful, guess which one yours came off as?

Well it all worked out because my friend got me her number. As I was typing it into my phone, she calls me, and we might meet up tonight after my concert.

Also, I don't know about you guys, but if I take a friend out, I'm not gonna say "ok, go fuck off while I fuck her". Sure if he lived 5 minutes away, yeah, but not if it takes him a 50 dollar cab ride to go home.

The problem is I'm not "such a pussy crazed whore" that I'd shit over my friends just to get some pussy. If we had worked something out for such a situation previously, then yeah, maybe, but since we hadn't, I'm not ditching him.

Easiest thing you could've done was just nodded to your friend, then like led her into her bedroom(assuming thats what she wanted), would your friend shit his pants soo badly that if you did that he'd be like DUDE sooo not extreme man on a scale of 1-10, 10 being super extreme and 1 being soo not extreme id give you a 0.5?!

Who said you had to kick him out?

Um, that message probably came off a bit psycho'ish.. why not something like

"Heyy there, I lost your number and was trying to get a hold of you. I had a lot of fun this weekend and I think we should hang out again some time."

What you said probably scared her.

Personally, if there is one thing I've learned its NOT to complain when she doesn't call you. Comes off as if you're desperate. I mean, maybe something like "Hey what are you up to" may have been a bit better... the way I read it, ESPECIALLY through non face to face communication, comes off as bitter and upset. Just chill and see what happens/.

She wants your willy my old son! ;)

Think about it...She takes you to her house...You nearly fuck but you upped and left because your mate weren't getting none that night...She texts you thinking you've got her number basically asking if you're gonna be getting in touch with her or if she's wasting her time and effort on you.

That to me would indicate interest.

Plus the fact she took you back to her house and you nearly fucked.

Text her back, meet up and bang her like a shithouse door in a gale mate!

She's probably sitting at a table right now telling her friends how she was almost raped the other night.

K. We were gonna meet last night (she texted and called a few times telling me to come over after my concert). So I called her around 11 and she stops picking up/answering my texts. I just partied with the band (nothing else like it) for a couple of hours and forgot about her.

She better not call me again. She probably went clubbing and fucked some other asshole.

Fuck bitches!

They're not worth wasting more then one night on.

she knows you dont have her phone number so how can she be playing hard to get and expecting you to ring her? fact is she hates you and was drunk and remebered you were a dick, now you tracked her through myspace she realises your a dick and a fuckin weirdo stalker....................


SHE HATES YOU, SHE WAS HORNY AND WANTED COCK!

YOU FAILED!

^^

lul wut?

Sorry to hear that dude, I'd forget about her, nothing's more irritating than that shit.

SKank! Whore! Ect ect

Meh, if she's such a pussy she wont even answer your calls/texts whatever and tell you why she doesent want you, then to hell with her.

Well maybe she lives by some mantra of "chicks before dicks"....and when you finally got around to wanting to hook up with her, she was with her friends. In essence, she could have done to you exactly what you did to her the other night. Played around, teased you, and left you hanging. You deserve it. Onward through the fog.....

Well maybe she lives by some mantra of "chicks before dicks"....and when you finally got around to wanting to hook up with her, she was with her friends. In essence, she could have done to you exactly what you did to her the other night. Played around, teased you, and left you hanging. You deserve it. Onward through the fog.....

Good point!

Maybe this is some subtle karma?


Maybe she figures that you're gay now? Afterall you chose looking after your friend over screwing her.. and apparently your friend was fine and not stupidly drunk or anything..so wtf did you need to babysit him?

HAHA ^^ thats one of those situations, that when they arize in my head, I just know, if i do not do this ill get ownage points scored on me.

Just certain situations, where the truth hollers in your face, regardless of right or wrong, if you do not do this your going to have to live with a said notion over your head haha

Ryo sounds like u got that held over your head now, u pizza'd when you should of french fryed.

Well maybe she lives by some mantra of "chicks before dicks"....and when you finally got around to wanting to hook up with her, she was with her friends. In essence, she could have done to you exactly what you did to her the other night. Played around, teased you, and left you hanging. You deserve it. Onward through the fog.....

Big difference. I walked her home, etc. She knew I was with a friend and wasn't gonna ditch him, we didn't make plans beforehand. I didn't start a mind game because I'm an immature 12 year old.